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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Really? didn't know you needed facebook to sign up o well, i was thinking about using it to see if i'm as bad looking online as i seem to be in person :lol:
    Yeah, apparently it's to "avoid fake profiles".
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Apologies if my previous post was felt to be offensive, perhaps I should have phrased it in a less confrontational/more explicatory manner. I will not be gagged however, particularly not on matters pertaining to Islamism, and am duty bound to rephrase and reassert the fact, implicit in my earlier comment, that:

    This is a British site and the "students" to whom you refer are typically British and/or studying in Britain, British society/educational institutions are governed by increasingly 'progressive' secular norms and laws (albeit largely Judeo-Christian in origin), and although we do tend to subscribe to the virtues of tolerance and diversity, us Brits won't tolerate anyone (except for transnational capitalists, unfortunately) trying to impose their particular ideologies on us, and especially not those seeking to curtail our personal liberties - including freedom of speech/expression e.g. flirting/getting to know prospective dates. In this context, I felt compelled to communicate to you that it is not for you, or any other Muslim, to censor users of this site/members of our society

    This may seem like (and is, essentially) small chips but it only takes one person to get it into their head that it's ok to go around dictating to others in society how to go about their business to spawn a fascist movement. We have already seen similar sentiments spill out onto the streets with the 'Muslim Police'/homophobic print propaganda movements, etc. We won't tolerate such nonsense on TSR (however mildly it may manifest itself) any more than we will in other settings

    Shukran, as-salamu alaykum
    Oh, stop the self victimisation. Being asked to stay on topic is not "being gagged". Being stopped from posting on a website is not "curtailing our personal liberties". A lot of non-Muslims feel you shouldn't use this site for dating. There's no reason to bring her background into this.

    If you are looking for exmaples of such movements, I'd suggest the British Union of Fascists, National Front, BNP, EDL, Britain First... Remember that respect, and oppression, go both ways.
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    never used it but wouldnt be opposed to it loads of my friends have it and they say that most people are just there to meet new people and to have a laugh don't see anything wrong with it
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    (Original post by xGCSE_Studentx)
    there was no reason whatsoever to target that at me
    I addressed my comment to a Muslim attempting to limit the activities of other users of this site (somewhat in line with the dogma of Islamic religious doctrine and related ethno-cultural norms), but in making it I am not so much seeking to “target” a particular individual as communicating an ethos, and related sentiments, that we socially concerned Brits (including some 'British Muslims') wish all in British society to take heed of and to respect

    I am not and will never emphasise my opinions on anyone so to say that's what I was intending is unfair
    If I were to comment on a Saudi student forum in response to a post relating to a using said forum to discuss matters relating to Islam: 'may i remind you this is a student forum not a religious site .. THE STUDENT ROOM not the Islamic room' then I could expect someone to flag this as inappropriate (and that's putting it lightly). To turn around and protest that I am a Saudi e.g. by virtue of my family having decided to travel to and settle there, certainly wouldn't change a thing

    If you mean to tell me that you did not mean to sound as if you were issuing a decree, or shouting, or that your comments had absolutely nothing to do with your background, and the values that Islamic teaching instils in all ‘good Muslims’ e.g. regarding immodest behaviour and relationships, then fair enough, but the way things stand it doesn’t look good and Brits like myself (e.g. those who aren’t cowards/traitors) are not prepared to look the other way in such situations

    (Original post by Mankytoes)
    Being asked to stay on topic is not "being gagged"
    I wasn’t asked to stay on topic. My post was deleted and I was given a card for ‘offensiveness’ (warned off) = attempting to gag me

    Being stopped from posting on a website is not "curtailing our personal liberties"
    Are you actually reading what you are writing? :lolwut:

    A lot of non-Muslims feel you shouldn't use this site for dating
    Entitled to their opinion but if I saw such people behaving in the same way as xGCSE_Studentx then you can bet your ass I would challenge them too

    There's no reason to bring her background into this
    Were there no reason we would not be having this conversation. Rather than ‘lowering your gaze’, I invite you to raise it, and open your eyes

    If you are looking for examples of such movements, I'd suggest the British Union of Fascists, National Front, BNP, EDL, Britain First... Remember that respect, and oppression, go both ways
    Not quite sure what point you think you’re making but no-one is suggesting that fascism is the exclusive preserve of Islamists, or that Islamism is the only thing perverting ‘modern’ British society :dontknow:
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    In my opinion Islam definitely has a lot to do with this thread so Foo's posts are pretty relevant and you should be ashamed of calling him out IMO
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I stumbled across a guy who used to go to my primary school (he was/is two years older than me), it was so awkward because he had no idea who I was but I was like I KNOW YOU ALREADY :rofl:
    Lmao awkward! See I dread this happening. If I was to find out a cousin was on there or something and then word got out of my aunties I would feel embarrassed. My mum's okay with the whole online dating thing though. Some of my friends think it's weird. I met my ex online and when people asked how we met I told them. I just dont want people to find my profile and scrutinize it.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)

    I wasn’t asked to stay on topic. My post was deleted and I was given a card for ‘offensiveness’ (warned off) = attempting to gag me

    Are you actually reading what you are writing? :lolwut:

    Entitled to their opinion but if I saw such people behaving in the same way as xGCSE_Studentx then you can bet your ass I would challenge them too

    Were there no reason we would not be having this conversation. Rather than ‘lowering your gaze’, I invite you to raise it, and open your eyes

    Not quite sure what point you think you’re making but no-one is suggesting that fascism is the exclusive preserve of Islamists, or that Islamism is the only thing perverting ‘modern’ British society :dontknow:
    I hadn't seen that. Still, you were needlessly rude to her, when she has only been polite. You might feel oppressed, but you look like the bully here, not her.

    Yes. Civil liberties are granted by the state, not websites. I've been banned from website because I've had personal issues with people on them. While annoying, that isn't a restriction on my civil liberties. None of us have any legal "right" to use this website. The administraters can run it as they like, ban whoever they want.

    It's fine to disagree with them, to challenge them. But what you wouldn't do is attack their religion.

    I don't know if you think I'm a Muslim from that quote. I'm an atheist from a white Christian background. I don't even like Islam, or any other religion. But that shouldn't affect how you treat individuals. If you care so much about civil liberties, you should think about people as individuals, not a collective group. There's no collective blame or responsibility.

    It's just interesting your examples were of a tiny group of Muslims, rather than the groups of thousands of non-Muslims.
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    This is very funny.
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    I'm asexual so no. I would never use tinder, grindr or any similar site/ app.

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    (Original post by Queen Cersei)
    Are you a swiper?
    I thought of this when I saw your thread:

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/articl...ns-say-doctors

    Dating apps increasing rates of STI's. I have never used dating apps and after reading the above I don't think I will either. Full of disgusting people with STI's. Meat-eating savages too
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    I use it once in a while to meet new people (the workload on my course is crazy so I don't have time for societies etc). I've only been on 2 dates from it though, one was with a guy I already knew (we realised we liked each other through Tinder) and that lasted around a year, and I met someone else recently through it and it's been going well, so I've had a pretty good experience with Tinder
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    I was for like a week, met my boyfriend on there

    I hardly swiped right for anyone tbh. If they had selfies - swiped left. Topless photos - left. No bio - left. Some terrible line in bio - left. Only group photos - left. Less than 3 photos - left.
    And no i never messaged anyone first, but as a girl, guys swipe right for like everyone and so i had tons of messages anyway no time to message people myself as well (im not boasting, most of the guys were dicks anyway ot's just true).
    I liked it when the guys read my bio and asked a question in respect to it.


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    Nope.
    Thought about it then i had to ask myself do i even want to go for the type of woman that would use tinder in the first place??
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    Nah, you need facebook to use it. I dont have facebook.

    And i dont want a partner.
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    Can be awkward: I was swiping based just on first picture one night and got a match. Upon closer inspection it was my university halls building manager.

    Can be, frankly, disgusting: I know people who have used it as an easy way to get sex, often whilst already in a relationship.

    Can be fun: I've met friends through it and know other people who have as well.

    Basically Tinder is whatever you make of it.

    Just a shame so many of the people on there are conmen/women. They really need to find a better way of policing it than just requiring a facebook profile.
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    (Original post by bravewoodmouse)
    I met my boyfriend on Tinder, we've been together over a year now. It can be a lot of fun and you can meet some nice people on there if you follow these simple rules...

    How to meet normal people on Tinder

    1. Left swipe if they have topless selfies done in the mirror, pictures of them with a tiger, or they have an aspirational quote as their description.
    2. If you have matches, you'll need to actually message them as often people get scared at this point. Even just a 'how's your day going' is ok, to show you're friendly. You've got nothing to lose.
    2. If messaging is going ok, arrange to meet sooner rather than later, as in within a few days. You'll know if it's a yes or a no very quickly.

    This is from a female point of view, guys may have different rules
    These are good rules.....it's just a shame that online dating turns most women into egomaniacal narcissists who seem to think no man is worthy enough to even walk on the same ground as they do, let alone date them.
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    (Original post by MAINE.)
    These are good rules.....it's just a shame that online dating turns most women into egomaniacal narcissists who seem to think no man is worthy enough to even walk on the same ground as they do, let alone date them.
    You sound bitter.
    Yes I've used tinder in the past and met some cool people who I'm still friends with now
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    (Original post by keturah)
    You sound bitter.
    Yes I've used tinder in the past and met some cool people who I'm still friends with now
    "Yo, I'm really happy for you and imma let you finish, but Beyonce has more friends on Tinder than you will ever have"

    lol, thanks for the contribution :rolleyes:


    Tbh your comment just speaks to your naivete....online dating is not about finding friends, especially Tinder - those guys did not start talking to you because they wanted to be your friend, they started talking to you because they wanted you to taste a slice of their penis pie.

    Anyway I'm not going to comment on you because I obvs have no idea, but most women on online dating sites/apps receive in the tens of messages/matches a day, and it makes a lot of them overestimate their true value.
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    (Original post by MAINE.)
    "Yo, I'm really happy for you and imma let you finish, but Beyonce has more friends on Tinder than you will ever have"

    lol, thanks for the contribution :rolleyes:


    Tbh your comment just speaks to your naivete....online dating is not about finding friends, especially Tinder - those guys did not start talking to you because they wanted to be your friend, they started talking to you because they wanted you to taste a slice of their penis pie.

    Anyway I'm not going to comment on you because I obvs have no idea, but most women on online dating sites/apps receive in the tens of messages/matches a day, and it makes a lot of them overestimate their true value.
    The majority probably do just want sex but there's some that don't.
    Ok I agree that some girls will be using it as an ego boost but so do guys. I asked one what made him join, he said to see how many hot girls he matched with and that it was an ego boost.
    What can you expect when it's all based from photos.
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    Queen Saucy please, a gentleman never tells :plz2:
 
 
 
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