Discuss: The benefits and risks of a girl asking a guy out?

Sounds like you just need a confidenve boost How good are you at keeping promises (espesh your own ones)??

Yeah I can see that haha. Yeah that's true..my cousin has asked a guy out who seemed very interested in her and he rejected her. It was shocking for me and her friends because we were all 100% convinced that he liked her..she took some time to get over it and now will never try again. So that kind of put me off because I guess guys are harder to read than I thought but I think one day I'd like to try it for myself.

Yeah I do haha. What kind of promises? In general pretty good

OP you're just pathetic now. Maybe you should've done this topic for your Ph.D

Please thoroughly discuss the benefits and risks of a girl asking a guy out. I've been thinking about this a lot and want to understand whether I should approach a guy someday or not.

Thanks

Sometimes there's little or no risk involved - after all, girls hitting on guys is not exactly unheard of in this day and age - but to mitigate risk the best thing to do is to show interest and drop hints (ideally subtly, at least to begin with), even if it means practically suggesting dates without ever actually asking him out

P.S. I can't reply to your PM as your inbox is full but 'hi'

Let's face it, everyone's hard to read (like in your example), so there's no real point in considering your chances of success. So what matters is how you deal with rejection.

Now I may sound like an overly ponderous career guidance counsellor here, but I've been in a position where I have faced rejection after rejection and I believe I have some good advice for this.

I understand how soul-crushing it is to be looking for the perfect company to work for and tailoring your application to specially suit that company, only for your dreams to evaporate instantly because of a curt rejection email. All that effort and hopes gone in an instant. Or worse still, to be invited to an eight hour-long assessment centre, where you realise after two hours that you're not doing well and will not be picked eventually. The embarrassment in watching yourself struggle to keep up with the other assessment centre candidates is excruciating.

Rejection humiliates us, destroys our self-confidence, and makes us feel unworthy, inferior compared to our peers. But this is all largely self-inflicted: the interviewers and other candidates will forget you after a few days, and you may never see them in your life ever again, and your self worth is determined not by others, but by yourself. These feelings are but products of your active imagination, and so what you have to do is to block out these negative experiences from your mind (though you should treat them as learning examples to correct any wrong actions) and maintain or even boost your self-confidence and self-worth when you apply for the next job.

Slowly but surely, rejections get easier and easier to cope with. Periods of despair become shorter and shorter. The whole process in fact becomes a little fun. And sooner or later, you might just get lucky, as did I.

PS: it seems that someone on this thread has taken a liking towards you - maybe you should resume your email conversations with him.

Okay this might help then. Though you need to have the motivation

Righty. Have a day to build up to the day of change (For me it was New Year Day AKA NY Resolution)

While building up, set up your personality trait/s of the future. Which for both of us is/was confidence.

When the 'Day of Change' comes emerse yourself with your built up personality for a while and make a promise to keep this trait
Also taking risks that you normally don't try helps, not saying you should sky dive but doing something you feel will make your heart race (it helps if people are there too)

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I wish I was on a laptop for this so it could be more presentable and I'm sorry I didn't make it as funny as I usually do (so that it's remembable)
But thats a general way I kinda changed my character Hope it helps

OP you're just pathetic now. Maybe you should've done this topic for your Ph.D

OP it's great that you're giving it a go for once You'll feel like the confident teenager you used to be

This sounds like an interesting and challenging thing to do! I'll definitely try it Did you keep up with that new personality after New Years continuously? I'd love to know how thing improved etc.