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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am a cancer to this university
    ps. this sentence is disgusting
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    No, **** friends some are just baggage anyway so just power through and you'll be fine. But you could find some hobbies and maybe make friends through there.
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    Don't change yourself just to fit in with idiots who probably aren't very emotionally mature (unfortunately a lot of people at university age can still be pretty immature, it's also worth noting that first year students are always the worst, probably because of overexcitement - everyone tends to pipe down in 2nd and 3rd year; if you're not enjoying uni now it will probably get better. I know the feeling cause I started university when I was 20 - personally even then I felt like an adult compared to everyone else).No matter how bad uni is (and I hated it), you can't really get anywhere in life without a degree anymore so I'd stick with it regardless and aim for a good grade, because compared to a lot of people in the world you are actually very lucky to be there.
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    Im in the EXACT same situation, I think the best thing to do is just focus on getting your degree..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    *Warning - sorry if anyone finds this offensive. It doesnt come from a bad place i promise.*

    Sorry to be brutal but you need the ****ing wake up call. I felt for you when i first read this thread.. i was you once. At uni, alone, no friends, hated my course and wanted to get out.. so i did. You came on here asking for advice and ive looked through all of these people's comments.. all of these STRANGERS that have taken time out of their day to help YOU and all you have done since the beginning is dismiss every suggestion and put yourself down. YOU came on here seeking help but it seems you dont want any?? Do you want to turn it around or not? Do you want to better your life or not? Do you want help OR NOT? Its this self destructive and ungrateful attitude that is stopping you from moving forward and the sooner you go and seek professional help the better. This website is not the place for you, stop being a victim and GO. GET. HELP.

    I hope you find what you are looking for in life and i hope that one day you look back and read this thread to remind yourself of the kindness shown to you by all of those strangers reminding you that you arent as alone as you think you are. No one had to reply to you, but they did. No one had to keep replying even after you dismissed them, but they did. And i think that's pretty damn amazing.
    i just wanna bump this post. Spot on, my friend! The kid needs help and a wake up call.

    Anywho, to the thread starter, you're too hard on yourself. loosen up. The problem is that you're overthinking stuff. you're in uni to study anyway. I'm not saying you don't need friend but you just have to go with the flow and everything will fall into place. I promise. Friends, they will just come right up your way and you just have to take advantage of that and be friends with them.

    peace out!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon please

    Is it time for me to leave uni. I've been in Uni since September and to be honest, the experience has been a tragedy to say the least. Socialising is very autistic and i fear people will see me as weakbecause i have no friends in the uni.

    It's also very embarassing to be alone if you live in halls but no one hollas at you or flatmates don't give a **** about you.

    I can't really do this. Next year is planned very well to end this depressive cycle but i can't continue for another 3 months. I will be commuting from April but even this isn't going to help my situation. If i do want to drop out, i want to do some youth work abroad (paid) or perhaps pay attention to my christianity and do missionary work...

    I also don't really want to go back to my house as i don't get along with my family. Help me what should i do
    Anon, know that I understand how hard it is to be in your shoes, but please try to look past your social situation and see if you're still interested in what you're studying. Do your classes interest you in the slightest? Do you see yourself doing something you like with the degree in the future? If the answer to these questions is yes, then I urge you to power through. Being engaged in your studies tend to attract people who share the same passion anyhow, and you might find friends that way.

    However, if the answer is no, then maybe you should try something else. You can try some semesters overseas. My kids certainly benefited from the perspective, at the very least.
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    Its okay to have no friends. You will concentrate on your uni work a lot more. Its better to have no friends than fake friends (just saying). Its nice being independent because if you hang around with loads of people you get into a lot of ******** (depends)
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    (Original post by yourJeremyL)
    i just wanna bump this post. Spot on, my friend! The kid needs help and a wake up call.

    Anywho, to the thread starter, you're too hard on yourself. loosen up. The problem is that you're overthinking stuff. you're in uni to study anyway. I'm not saying you don't need friend but you just have to go with the flow and everything will fall into place. I promise. Friends, they will just come right up your way and you just have to take advantage of that and be friends with them.

    peace out!
    Hahaha thanks, was worried it was too harsh!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hahaha thanks, was worried it was too harsh!
    You were not! lol. I guess the problem with the youth now is to have a status in the social community. Become popular. Become someone by having a lot of peers. They tend to forget to excel in things they are good at.

    If they're not interested in education (Which, to me, is NOT a bad thing), maybe do something really helpful to the community? charity works, I guess? to make it more something special, how bout do it abroad in a country that really needs volunteers?
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    (Original post by yourJeremyL)
    You were not! lol. I guess the problem with the youth now is to have a status in the social community. Become popular. Become someone by having a lot of peers. They tend to forget to excel in things they are good at.

    If they're not interested in education (Which, to me, is NOT a bad thing), maybe do something really helpful to the community? charity works, I guess? to make it more something special, how bout do it abroad in a country that really needs volunteers?
    Yeah i agree! I just dont like people playing victim when they havent really even tried to resolve things!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah i agree! I just dont like people playing victim when they havent really even tried to resolve things!
    That is true, my friend. But thread-starter must be still too young to realize that. I hope he does now.


    My suggestion to you TS, is that you should focus on building yourself first before building your social status. You're still too young. Consider your parents' situation right now. They put you through college and spend money for you to learn and have a wonderful future. You should abuse that opportunity. If you're not really interested in education, that is okay, make yourself productive by making a difference in your community or the world.
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    (Original post by Emily babezxx)
    Its okay to have no friends. You will concentrate on your uni work a lot more. Its better to have no friends than fake friends (just saying). Its nice being independent because if you hang around with loads of people you get into a lot of ******** (depends)
    No friends is certainly better than being friends with people who get you into trouble, but I think if you stick with the activities that interest you, the right sort of company will come along.
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    I agree
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    I honestly don't understand why people need friends at uni, it's not like i am going to uni to make friends. Focusing on the degree is 10x more important. I will probably end up like you with no friends, but i sure won't be depressed.
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    (Original post by Terminator01)
    I honestly don't understand why people need friends at uni, it's not like i am going to uni to make friends. Focusing on the degree is 10x more important. I will probably end up like you with no friends, but i sure won't be depressed.
    Exactly! I guess our friend, the op, is just having an identity crisis. idk.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Don't know how to make one

    I'm still new to TSR
    Read the f manual!
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    Yeah brah. Uni's for f.king sloots and getting piss drunk. If you aren't doing either of those you're doing uni wrong.
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    Sorry to hear this, as a another user has pointed out, if could take a bit of time to settle into uni life.

    Have you joined clubs and societies? Introduce yourself and converse with people there.

    Be pro-active, sit next to and talk to people in lectures and tutorials, ask them "what do you think of this topic", "what made you choose this course", "what would you like to go into".

    Be positive, have open, approachable body language.

    You could transfer if you're not enjoying your course has another members pointed out of you could transfer to a local uni?

    Good luck
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    Hello Anon,
    I'm experiencing the same situation.
    You can't give up. Think about your future, you will have a degree and be able to have a good and well-paid job.
    I'm here for you if you need a chat xxx
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    Maybe you can try making friends outside of Uni, like meetups or something? Or through chatrooms if thats still a thing lmao?
 
 
 
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