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    (Original post by Moonstruck16)
    It's because the TSR Support Team are wastemen who only turn up after the damage has been done because theyvare busy handing out warnings to people for being 'patronising' :facepalm:

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    I think its an altogether different motivation.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    All I said was the person approaching me is white and not a Muslim. I even said he is lovely. I was not being intentionally racist. Some users here were tarring all white people with the same brush but the mods have removed their posts.

    Btw are you living under a rock? Everyone turns a blind eye when Muslims are forever being labeled for actions of a few and islamophobia is on the rise as a result of that.
    What makes you think I was addressing you, I wasn't, please don't put words in my mouth. I was addressing another poster who said all none Muslims were interested in was sex with Muslims. That was not you and stop trying to be a victim.
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    I'm sure the majority want to get to know you as a person...
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    when I went to Iran, it was very difficult to express yourself. My mother for example had her ankles exposed, the police noticed and almost arrested her. She had to run to buy socks. A lot of women wear loose hijab covering as little hair as possible, so what's the point in even wearing the hijab? I don't know...
    Yeah some places in Iran are more conservative than others and the police can be quite over the top but still he shouldn't have harassed your mother like that, he shouldn't even be looking at her ankles in the first place! The scarf is just warn as a mark of respect because it's not a secular society, but an Islamic one.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a feeling you could be this sad akeel person who just created a fake account. Have some respect you vile person , I'm sure you wouldn't like someone to insult your female relatives in that manner so respect your sisters in faith.
    na my account is real and what is to u what i do what is true is true i dont want to end up with a **** and lets face they run back to there first relationship any way.

    An apart from my parents generations men and women are misted up and at end of the day i dont care what these type of people do as i am not going to end up with as iam getting married in pakitsan i dont need to sweat.

    I AND MOSTLY MEANT MEN AND WOMEN FROM RAJA CLAN THERE ACTUALLY WHORES OR MAN WHORES
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    I agree, whenever I see a Muslim woman with a headscarf, I look at the headscarf as more of a piece of fashion rather than a religious statement which I think is awesome. Especially those really beautiful ones with the flowery patterns and such, they just add character and dimension to the wearer.

    One thing I'm against is women being forced to wear hijab (like in Iran) but that's a whole different thread

    Anyway I completely agree with what you are saying. Maybe OP should be a little more open minded before making sudden decisions, not all white men are just after sex :rolleyes:
    ahan... i know that some are being forced to wear hijab but it might change in 2020
    hahaha i agree not all white men are on the planet for sex
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    Go get yourself some of that non-muslim D :ahee:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I do give out my contact details for work related purposes. That's what I got the impression at first. I consider myself to be a practicing Muslim and that's for God to judge not a nobody.
    Yeah mate, exactly. It's not allowed for even work purposes. Women are not even permitted to work in a mixed gender environment. Or are you one of those liberal muslims where everything is allowed was long as you have "pure intentions".

    Noone's judging you. I'm just stating the facts. It IS a sin and for this exact reason; men will become interested and vice versa for men. I hope God forgives you for this and you go to heaven and I wish the same applies for all my other muslim brothers and sisters but let's not kid ourselves here. The fact is the fact that this is prohibited by the religion so let's not call it "halaal" when it is evidently "haram".
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    A mealy mouthed reply
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    I agree, whenever I see a Muslim woman with a headscarf, I look at the headscarf as more of a piece of fashion rather than a religious statement which I think is awesome. Especially those really beautiful ones with the flowery patterns and such, they just add character and dimension to the wearer.

    One thing I'm against is women being forced to wear hijab (like in Iran) but that's a whole different thread

    Anyway I completely agree with what you are saying. Maybe OP should be a little more open minded before making sudden decisions, not all white men are just after sex :rolleyes:

    I think it's sad, from the perspective of muslim women who wear hijab for the right reasons, that people see it as "a fashion statement".
    How is that awesome? It's not.
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    Hi Thread Starter,


    There's nothing wrong with any kind of friendship or relationship that you choose. In this case, since it is clear that you do not want anything beyond simple friendship, I would suggest that you are straight with him. The worse you can do is allow for him to harbor romantic thoughts about you which he might hope that he can realise. I understand your perspective, but look at it from his perspective, I am sure its not easy for him either and he's possible walking with an illusion and the longer you leave it- the worse it will be for him. I am not saying this is your fault nor am I blaming you for anything (unlike some here)- but I am saying do the kind and necessary thing. Tell him that you are not interested in a relationship- be polite, respectful, make clear its no fault with him (he's just not what your looking for) and that's all anyone can ask from you.

    It should allow him a chance to move on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There is a white guy who wants to hang out with me, he is a lovely man. He asked for my contact details when I left work and started messaging me. I think he likes me and wants to be more than friends, he said he thinks I'm really beautiful and seems so eager to spend time with me. Now I'm abit hesitant because I'm a practicing Muslim who wears a headscarf and I know if something was to happen it won't last. Family plays a big role when it comes to relationships and me and this guy have had different upbringings and different beliefs. I've told him I'm really busy, because I actually am but do you also think that I should let him know that I don't really go out of my way to mingle with guys because of my faith?

    I haven't had a good experience with white guys in general, there was this one guy before who openly said he wanted to get into my knickers when I asked about his intentions. Also, the fact that I am the only girl at work who wears a headscarf, it baffles me that I get approached by non Muslim men when there are plenty of other good looking girls around.
    You are forbidden fruit to them. :People want most what they cant have.
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    (Original post by Butternuts96)
    Yeah mate, exactly. It's not allowed for even work purposes. Women are not even permitted to work in a mixed gender environment. Or are you one of those liberal muslims where everything is allowed was long as you have "pure intentions".

    Noone's judging you. I'm just stating the facts. It IS a sin and for this exact reason; men will become interested and vice versa for men. I hope God forgives you for this and you go to heaven and I wish the same applies for all my other muslim brothers and sisters but let's not kid ourselves here. The fact is the fact that this is prohibited by the religion so let's not call it "halaal" when it is evidently "haram".
    I'm working in a female dominated profession at a hospital, beside that point islam just lays strict boundaries when interacting with the opposite gender. You need to socialise with men because that's how society operates. The prophet's wife was a successful business woman dealing with all kinds of people, she even proposed to the prophet and there's nothing wrong with that. Also do you notice in hajj when doing tawaf around the kaba, there is no segregation? Islam unlike some cultures, doesn't prohibit gender segregation or interacting with men, as long as it's a professional one like in my circumstances or when you are serious and about to get to know someone.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm working in a female dominated profession at a hospital, beside that point islam just lays strict boundaries when interacting with the opposite gender. You need to socialise with men because that's how society operates. The prophet's wife was a successful business woman dealing with all kinds of people, she even proposed to the prophet and there's nothing wrong with that. Also do you notice in hajj when doing tawaf around the kaba, there is no segregation? Islam unlike some cultures, doesn't prohibit gender segregation or interacting with men, as long as it's a professional one like in my circumstances or when you are serious and about to get to know someone.
    Yeah you're right. Khadija used to be a business woman and mix with men. At that same time, women didn't have to wear hijab. Alcohol was also allowed. You also didn't really have to focus in prayers during the early days of Islam. See where I'm going with this?

    Eventually one by one the verses came down prohibiting this and prohibiting that. Freemixing is black and white forbidden with no difference of opinion amongst the scholars. To freemix with the opposite gender is part of the rare exception eg emergency rather than the norm and I challenge you to present evidences for your claim.

    Don't make islamic claims from your desires and your limited knowledge. There are numerous verses and hadiths to prove this. You're literally making stuff up here.
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    Perhaps they aren't aware that it is haram for a female Muslim to marry a Kafir
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm working in a female dominated profession at a hospital, beside that point islam just lays strict boundaries when interacting with the opposite gender. You need to socialise with men because that's how society operates. The prophet's wife was a successful business woman dealing with all kinds of people, she even proposed to the prophet and there's nothing wrong with that. Also do you notice in hajj when doing tawaf around the kaba, there is no segregation? Islam unlike some cultures, doesn't prohibit gender segregation or interacting with men, as long as it's a professional one like in my circumstances or when you are serious and about to get to know someone.
    Yes you are right Islam lays strict boundaries and I think you're breaking them here. You gave a guy your number when it wasn't necessary and you're asking TSR what you should do. Should you proceed further into haram and ask him if he's interested? That's your question. This scenario is not professional and if you want to know someone, the boy must be Muslim and your wali must be present. He is neither Muslim nor is your wali present. You are attempting to justify your situation islamically but I'm sorry, there just isn't any.

    I don't think you're liberal like the other person does but I certainly think you should stop what you're doing because it is haram.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah could be. I thought with the way we're portrayed in the media, they would be repelled at first sight lol.I will take your advice, I can make my way of Dawah through this 😂
    This isn't dawah at all, you cannot talk to someone when Allah has forbidden you and give the excuse of dawah. If you want to give dawah, start with all the females in this female dominated work area? It's not dawah if you want a relationship, it's just desire.

    Don't use the religion to justify your actions because this is exactly why people generalise all hijabis with a bad reputation. I've seen many good hijabis who stay from relationships but people view them with suspicion because of threads like this.
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    I refuse to believe that non-Muslim guys will approach random Hijab wearing woman trust me they never will they know the reason why you are wearing hijab is not get attention from Men in the first place.

    The only reason I think you might be getting approach by them is if you invite, for example by being over flirty with them or this must be a troll thread :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's generally worn for religious reasons, however nothing wrong with wearing colourful headscarfs!

    In Iran they may be forced given its an Islamic country, however the women can be more expressive in how they choose to wear it.

    Maybe ethnicity isn't so relevant, however it just happens to be that most non Muslims who approach me are white and I don't know what goes through their mind when they approach me.

    if your like me is looking for marriage how am i meant to tell difference between a whore and a a good muslim? but i was so confused, im going pakistan for marriage now
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    (Original post by akeel1022)
    if your like me is looking for marriage how am i meant to tell difference between a whore and a a good muslim? but i was so confused, im going pakistan for marriage now
    by being a good man yourself.
    Allah should give you a good wife.

    why don't you just ask the girls or ask friends of the girl?
    every hijabi is not a hoe. Just because some are, or perhaps alot where you live.
    I would hate for someone to think I am whore I have not even touched a man, and I waiting for marriage also. I hate this new stereotype about hoejabis that has formed it's disgusting.

    also, men that watch loads of porn and fanatise over other women all the time and then expect a fully pure wife? LOL.
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    were i live there loads of ****s were ( mainly from rajas clans ) and i dont talk to women unless it is co worker and really have too otherwise i blank people

    but chatting to some person on this website is another story
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    by being a good man yourself.
    Allah should give you a good wife.

    why don't you just ask the girls or ask friends of the girl?
    every hijabi is not a hoe. Just because some are, or perhaps alot where you live.
    I would hate for someone to think I am whore I have not even touched a man, and I waiting for marriage also. I hate this new stereotype about hoejabis that has formed it's disgusting.

    also, men that watch loads of porn and fanatise over other women all the time and then expect a fully pure wife? LOL.

    answer to ur question
    Praise be to Allaah.
    Firstly: Sexual fantasies are among the thoughts that cross a person’s mind because it is something that is stored in the subconscious which is affected by the environment in which he lives and the scenes that he sees. These are thoughts that occur to most people, especially the youth, but they vary from one person to another with regard to their type, strength and effect. Islamic sharee’ah is the sharee’ah of the fitrah (natural state of man) and it is in harmony with human nature, and it takes into account the psychological fluctuation that Allaah has made a part of the human make-up. So it does not go beyond human limitations or impose impossible burdens. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Allaah burdens not a person beyond his scope”[al-Baqarah 2:286]
    It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has forgiven my ummah for whatever crosses their mind so long as they do not speak of it or act upon it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2528)

    and Muslim (127).Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said commenting on this hadeeth: Whatever crosses a person’s mind, so long as he does not dwell on it or continue to think of it, he is forgiven for it, according to scholarly consensus, because it does not happen voluntarily and he has no way of avoiding it. Al-Adhkaar (p. 345).
    Passing fancies come under the heading of that which crosses a person’s mind, which is forgiven according to the hadeeth quoted above. So if a person imagines haraam things that came to his mind unbidden, there is no blame or sin on him, rather he has to ward them off as much as he can.

    got it form muslim website
 
 
 
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