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    The guy
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    The girl
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    Split the bill
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    (Original post by Joinedup)
    Probably from reading american dating advice sites... however in the UK we split the bill.
    and you speak for all Britons and Northern Irishmen do you ?
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    I always pay for the first date and tbh all dates until im in a real relationship, idk it does impress girls but apart from that id just feel awkward letting them pay half but objectively speaking it is a stupid thing to do, hats off to those that split
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    (Original post by theDanIdentity)
    tldr; what i said was that type of thinking is ********; as it severely disadvantages one sex under the premise of 'equality' (seeing as that 'rule' of 'whomever asks pays' is based on an ideal world wherein women would ask out men just as much as the reverse. But alas that isn't the case in real world situations; therefore i'm all for the 'split the bill'/dutchhh).
    No. **** equality. What's truly "equal" is, who asks pays. Now as you pointed out mostly the men "ask," but that ain't true. It's whoever says, "wanna grab a bite?" or "let's go [here] tonight." That person should pay! Especially in relationships either partner will say that obviously. During the courting phase I suppose it's chivalrous for the man to volunteer to pay and maybe a bad sign if he doesn't (only bad sign being he's unemployed, not concerned about personal opinion). I will do it unless the woman insists to pay and if that's the case she might become a feministic emasculating nag so we won't be going on another date anyway.
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    (Original post by Maestosa)
    But if anything that makes the tradition of offering to pay more useful. If a girl just lets you pay for everything (assuming you don't insist, etc. - I've had men get angry or uncomfortable when I try to pay), that's a sign she isn't mature/responsible/independent enough for you. If she insists on chipping in, that tells you something about her character.
    Sure, if they just say yes then you know they're a wrong'un, but most girls out of politeness will just say no to start with anyway. I just don't like to give them the impression that I'm going to be her provider.
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    (Original post by Nayzar)
    The waiter
    what a funny guy
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    (Original post by UWS)
    Would be good to get a discussion going.

    I think there is some sort of expectation for the guy to pay on the first date, but what do you think?

    I would split the bill on the first date but that's just me.
    Whoever asked the other out first (irregardless of gender) should pay. It's only fair.
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    It's damned 2016. Split the bloody bill.
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    Split it
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    First date i dont mind paying.
    But after that i think split is the way to go!
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    Me and my girlfriend are kinda the opposite, we both want to pay. We end up fighting over who gets to pay rather than who has to pay But we roughly manage to pay for half the meals each
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    Split the bill or he person who asked the other out pays
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    The first actual date I don't expect to be eating or drinking anywhere with a bill or tab. I expect to be in a bar or pub paying at the point of consumption. I would also expect us to then buy rounds for each other.

    On our first time in a restaurant, it should be the individual inviting. Assuming a heterosexual couple, as the onus is on the fellow to push the early stages of a relationship, I would expect to be paying. It's a permissible animalistic thrill which I intend on indulging in.

    From then on, split or inviting party pays.
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    Wouldn't go for a meal on first date, drinks and taking turns buying rounds is the way to go.. why would you spend loads and pay for a whole date yourself if the girl decides she never wants to see you again..
 
 
 
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