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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    It's dumb to suggest you should stick to a vow? Surely that's the definition of a vow? That's just calling a spade, a spade. Your definition of a vow makes a vow just a set of nice words you say on a wedding day.


    If you're not going to stick to it, don't make it. Simple. But let's not have any of this half-arsed nonsense about vows that you're able to break when your spouse does something wrong.


    Judging by the responses on this thread, it should come as no surprise that the divorce rate is around 50%.
    Because life doesn't work that way. You make a vow based on how you're feeling at that time and how you THINK you'll feel in the future. Just like you can't know for sure that your best friend will still be that close to you in 50 years time, how will you know if your partner will still be in a loving relationship with you? Can't you see how ridiculous what you're saying is? Who cares about a vow you made when you weren't informed enough if you find out your partner is violent and abusive.

    "Lol I'm going to continue letting him beat me because I pinkie swore that we would stay together back when I was 25 and thought he was a great human being!" It's not even all christians that are nutjobs. Even they condone divorces under special cases. The only nutjob is you.

    And it seems like you're not very informed on the matter. Divorce rates are skewed by people who get divorced and remarry multiple times. Your stat doesn't mean if you get married there's a 50% chance of it not working out. But those who do divorce do it for the reasons I've said. The person you are in 10-30 years time will be significantly different from who you are today
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    (Original post by Lawliettt)
    Because life doesn't work that way. You make a vow based on how you're feeling at that time and how you THINK you'll feel in the future. Just like you can't know for sure that your best friend will still be that close to you in 50 years time, how will you know if your partner will still be in a loving relationship with you? Can't you see how ridiculous what you're saying is? Who cares about a vow you made when you weren't informed enough if you find out your partner is violent and abusive.

    "Lol I'm going to continue letting him beat me because I pinkie swore that we would stay together back when I was 25 and thought he was a great human being!" It's not even all christians that are nutjobs. Even they condone divorces under special cases. The only nutjob is you.

    And it seems like you're not very informed on the matter. Divorce rates are skewed by people who get divorced and remarry multiple times. Your stat doesn't mean if you get married there's a 50% chance of it not working out. But those who do divorce do it for the reasons I've said. The person you are in 10-30 years time will be significantly different from who you are today
    How's knocking down those straw men going for you? ^^

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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    If people weren't allowed to get divorced, I wouldn't be here now. Both sets of parents parents were divorced and both moved and remarried.

    It's also unfair on children for them to be stuck in a home where both parents are constantly fighting and generally unhappy, no?
    this doesn't make any sense i'm afraid. you only have one 'set' of parents, and not two?!?
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    (Original post by Helenia)
    I honestly don't think people "rushing" into marriage is the major cause of the high divorce rate. Compared with previous generations, couples these days tend to have been together considerably longer AND be more likely to have cohabited prior to marriage, both of which should help! "Shotgun" marriages are also much rarer as having children outside of marriage is no longer something to be ashamed of. I was one of the quickest to get married in my group of friends; we got engaged after 3.5 years and married after 4.5 years together, having been living together for just over 2 years by that time.

    I think the factors causing an increased divorce rate are many and varied. Off the top of my head, a few ideas are: -
    • Divorce is no longer stigmatised as it once was, so people are less afraid of being judged by society for splitting up.
    • Women have more rights and independence than they ever used to, so are both less likely to settle for poor treatment/being unhappy and know that they will be supported if they do leave. We have our own careers and aren't so afraid of being left with no money and no skills in the event of divorce.
    • Society as a whole has changed from the "stiff upper lip" mentality of the early 20th century, so people won't just tolerate a bad situation but will do something to try to change it.
    • The country has become less religious overall, so the pressure from the Church in favour of staying married is less.
    • People have become more educated and more mobile, so are more likely to meet more different people and experience different ways of life than before, which both opens our eyes to life and people outside our local community (allowing you to realise that certain "norms" really aren't ok!) and makes cheating easier.
    • Likewise, technology makes it easier to cheat.
    I have actually known lots of men, from friends to taxi drivers, who have been used by their other half, for a visa in the the country, and then as an easy meal ticket on behalf of her majesty's government. All the woman has to do is cry 'abuse', and she is sorted for life!??
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    (Original post by john2054)
    this doesn't make any sense i'm afraid. you only have one 'set' of parents, and not two?!?
    Obviously you didn't read what I wrote. Both sets of parents parents, meaning both grandparents split up.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    Obviously you didn't read what I wrote. Both sets of parents parents, meaning both grandparents split up.
    you should have written both sets of parent's parents. =bad grammar
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    (Original post by john2054)
    you should have written both sets of parent's parents. =bad grammar
    I did
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    (Original post by BurstingBubbles)
    The stats on this are quite varied, however going by the Office for National Statitics by the government, the stat is 42%. I'm aware some sources say about half do, so you can have a point if you said 48% too

    Why do so many marriages breakdown? Should people wait longer to get married or try harder before getting a divorce?
    Relationships inevitably break down. Emotions change, circumstances change. People get married because they are naive enough to think how they feel in that period will remain consistent for eternity.
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    (Original post by Tiger Rag)
    I did
    You were missing an apostrophe.
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    (Original post by Supersaps)
    How's knocking down those straw men going for you? ^^

    Perhaps you should audition for a spot as a flying monkey in the Wizard of Oz?
    I was literally just replying to your points. But at least now I know you understand how stupid you sounded with that ridiculous reply. Especially with that stupid 50% statistic
 
 
 
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