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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    Thanks man, that may be a good idea. But the thing is I really dont want to leave her. I know people are suggesting I should but I dont know what I would do without her, my world would feel so empty and I would always know that the girl I love is out there somewhere and out of my reach.
    Well you only have been with only one girl... You need to be honest and ask why that is? Maybe you can improve your self-confidence? There are so many girls out there

    As another poster said plenty of fish in the sea. It seems like your not confident and she is using you.
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    Hey it's really great you're staying with her. Have you spoken to her about this? What did she say? If not, you really should. In a relationship like this communication is key, even more so than in other relationships.

    You said she didn't really want to do it but she feels financially dependent on it. Is there any way she could look for an alternative source of income? If she prefers not to, that's her choice and you have to learn to live with that. If you find it very difficult, you may have to, as others have suggested, find a way out of the relationship.

    Good luck
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    I feel really sorry for you, and also feel really disgusted at some of the responses on this thread. Why can't everybody be a bit more empathetic? Anyways.

    I know you are extremely in love with her, and that the thought of parting with her makes you sick to the stomach, hell you try and avoid the thought as much as possible because you want to try and make it work.

    But you are so much better than that. You have worth. You do not deserve to put yourself in a situation where all you are is hurt. You can leave. And when you leave, you wont regret it. It will transform your life. At first, it feels miserable, like you're going cold turkey from an addiction. But as time goes on, you come to discover that each passing day brings unexpected new blessings. You begin to develop self respect, boundaries, and true friendships instead of running around absorbing and forgiving everything like you are doing just now. This freedom allows your spirit to thrive and somebody you will look back and wonder how you even tolerated interacting with such unhealthy people. You should talk to her, and allow her to see if she can get a proper respectful job. Sit her down and have a chat with her, tell her how you feel and ask her how much you mean to her. If not, then you need to leave. Get out of this relationship and save yourself all the misery. You don't deserve to be hurt this way. You will find someone much better.

    All the best.
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    just imagine all the boys f*****g her, and your here weeping like a baby? If she really loved you, do you think she will want you/allow you to be like this?

    Its pretty clear you dont want to leave her, so just imgaine, would you like to have sex with someone whos already done it 100 hundred times before you? Are you happy with those thoughts? If not, do something about it instead of just feeling sad for yourself while your girlfirend is having the time of her life
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    Just think of it as a sexual expertise investment.
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    Are you for real? A walking vagina??
    I know shes a sex worker but she is so much more than that. She has a great character and we have a good time together. She will be studying to become a translator very soon and in the long term she wants out.
    She is using you. You are a fool. By all means let the walking vagina walk all over you but the walking vagina does not care
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    Look, ignore all this negativity. As I said in my earlier comment, talk to her.

    You need to really reexamine your priorities. Since you're asking for help, it seems like it's a big issue for you. Is it bigger than your relationship? Does she know it's so important to you?

    Since she neglected to tell you about it until you found out, either she is not as invested in the relationship as you, or your communication between each other was so poor she felt uncomfortable & anxious talking to you about it.

    Talk. To. Her.
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    Look, ignore all this negativity. As I said in my earlier comment, talk to her.

    You need to really reexamine your priorities. Since you're asking for help, it seems like it's a big issue for you. Is it bigger than your relationship? Does she know it's so important to you?

    Since she neglected to tell you about it until you found out, either she is not as invested in the relationship as you, or your communication between each other was so poor she felt uncomfortable & anxious talking to you about it.

    Talk. To. Her.
    That's some good thoughts, but heres a better one... shes a slut prob blowing off some random guy now then comes home to kiss you, prob doesn't care bout you as much as you'd think and is just waiting for you to break up with her cus she doesn't wanna do it.... PS OP you're an idiot you don't need to come on tsr to know that you should dump her you seem really really needy
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    (Original post by theBranicAc)
    just imagine all the boys f*****g her, and your here weeping like a baby? If she really loved you, do you think she will want you/allow you to be like this?

    Its pretty clear you dont want to leave her, so just imgaine, would you like to have sex with someone whos already done it 100 hundred times before you? Are you happy with those thoughts? If not, do something about it instead of just feeling sad for yourself while your girlfirend is having the time of her life
    while I agree that OP needs to stand up for himself, I hardly think that *his girlfriend is "having the time of her life" as an escort. I doubt she woke up one day and decided she would like to have sex with fat old men everyday for the rest of her life. She just needs to sort herself out and get a normal job and OP needs to stop making excuses for her.*
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    (Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
    while I agree that OP needs to stand up for himself, I hardly think that *his girlfriend is "having the time of her life" as an escort. I doubt she woke up one day and decided she would like to have sex with fat old men everyday for the rest of her life. She just needs to sort herself out and get a normal job and OP needs to stop making excuses for her.*
    shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend
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    (Original post by theBranicAc)
    shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend
    really? I don't think this is about sex. I don't think any woman (aside from a very advanced sex addict) would enjoy sleeping with guys she didn't have any choice over. I'm not saying she's a victim, it's her choice but I just think she is stuck in this industry now as it's very good money for probably not many hours a day on average. Switching from that to 40 hours a week stacking shelves is obviously a tough transition - maybe she doesn't love him enough to do it for him- but I doubt it's because she enjoys the actual sex that much.*
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    (Original post by theBranicAc)
    shes having more fun with them then she is with her boyfriend
    No, she hates it.
    Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

    Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking **** all day and is gagging for it.

    Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

    Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
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    OP if you decided to let her do what she does, then I respect your decision. But:-
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    Please PM me her number, I would like to do some business with her; been quite lonely lately.
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    No, she hates it.
    Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

    Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking **** all day and is gagging for it.

    Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

    Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
    Hey man listen to us.

    You HAVE to let go of her. You have to.

    I understand you're in love and that you can't see yourself without her, but you HAVE to.

    Please. You will regret it in the future.
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    *Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
    *

    They're not perverts - she is selling a service and they are buying it. They're doing nothing wrong. She shouldn't put herself in that position in the first place.*
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    (Original post by Ethics Maniac)
    OP if you decided to let her do what she does, then I respect your decision. But:-
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    Please PM me her number, I would like to do some business with her; been quite lonely lately.
    Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

    Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    No, she hates it.
    Shes tried to stop a few times but she feels like she is unable to get another job atm that would guarantee rent, bills, food etc are paid for each month. Its great for financial security but for everything else it sucks. Weve discussed ways of her stopping but she says she cant see heraelf being able to until she has finished uni.

    Most of you guys are no doubt picturing her as some promiscous slut who just loves sucking **** all day and is gagging for it.

    Couldnt be further. She is beautiful and sophisticated, and compared to most adult workers tries to be as respectable as possible in how she presents herself.

    Even so, every time I know shes working I feel and urge to go over and kill the pervert who is ****ing her.
    why didn't say any of this before, now your just making up ********
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Hey man listen to us.

    You HAVE to let go of her. You have to.

    I understand you're in love and that you can't see yourself without her, but you HAVE to.

    Please. You will regret it in the future.
    You're probably right. Its just so hard. Theres also the difficulty of if I leave her, I would have to uproot my life. Where would I live, where would I go...
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

    Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.
    So are a tonne of other guys.

    You don't condone it yet she STILL DOES IT.

    She doesn't care about you
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    (Original post by Kinkajou93)
    Dude, for a start. I didnt let her do it. I do not condone what she does at all.

    Secondly, she probably wouldnt see you anyway, shes very selective and wouldnt see just about anybody, you are probably a complete douche and smell like week old urine, so your best bet is to keep whacking it to cartoon porn mate...I'll be getting amazing sex from a beautiful woman with huge knockers whenever I want.
    Ouch you're right. I am the loser here, boo hoo. I can see why she choose you. lmao.
 
 
 
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