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    (Original post by DropletInfection)
    Yeah you're probably hot now in which case you have to do no work getting a bf, he will do the work for you. Maybe you got your relationship and uni because at school theres a stigma for quiet people so they wouldnt have gone for you but now since its a fresh start guys would go for you. And guys do have to do the asking out. I havent seen anywhere girls doing the asking out. You cant deny its mostly guys asking girls out and not other way round. Maybe if they're like really close friends before dating girls might ask guys out more.
    :laugh: I am still not hot. And in actual fact, alcohol helped. I kissed him. Freshers Week. Guys don't always have to, like I said, social pressure. You just haven't seen the right girls yet.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    True. No idea where I will find them tbh! Not here I don't think (I mean where I live not TSR haha!)
    What place?
    But yes it's very frustrating!
    When i said that place i meant metaphorically being in the place where yoi find some one.
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Opportunities will come up. It's not like you are never going to ever meet new people ever again.

    Good to hear! You're very lucky.
    I sure hope so!
    Yeah that's true, I'm gonna meet loads of new people but the majority will be men.

    Yeah I'm actually amazed! Thanks, I guess I am!
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    I sure hope so!
    Yeah that's true, I'm gonna meet loads of new people but the majority will be men.

    Yeah I'm actually amazed! Thanks, I guess I am!
    And perhaps if you become friends with those fellas you can meet girls. Opportunities.
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    (Original post by DropletInfection)
    Dont worry dude its ok if you dont have looks, girls prefer personality over looks, this is opposite for guys. It would be good if you had looks but I guess you cant have everything. Instead try to work on your personality. Plenty of guys who are ugly can still get girls... you think only good looking guys get girls in this world? If you cant get girls then try to find faults and improve personality
    Not the ones I've met! They've all called me ugly!
    No that's very true, you're very lucky if you do have everything!
    Except for me of course!
    In the area where I live, yes!
    I don't know what to improve! No one has given me a chance yet!

    (Original post by DropletInfection)
    With girls, guys will be approaching them so they cant really pick and choose. With guys they have to do the approaching so they can pick the girl they want and go for her even though it might be nerve wracking for some guys. For the rest of your post, look at my other post
    Well they can but they never follow through with it!
    They can pick but most of the time they don't get with them. It's very nerve wracking!
    I approached my last crush and had a conversation with her! Next time she refused to talk to me! Upset me a lot!
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Not the ones I've met! They've all called me ugly!
    No that's very true, you're very lucky if you do have everything!
    Except for me of course!
    In the area where I live, yes!
    I don't know what to improve! No one has given me a chance yet!



    Well they can but they never follow through with it!
    They can pick but most of the time they don't get with them. It's very nerve wracking!
    I approached my last crush and had a conversation with her! Next time she refused to talk to me! Upset me a lot!
    Im telling you, if you have a good personality you can go far, not just with girls but everywhere. With looks you cant maintain a real relationship, you are just in it for the sex. Ive seen plenty of ugly guys getting girls, enough to make you think how did he ever get her..
    Just keep working on your personality and never stop. Build enough confidence in you so that you can approach to girls without hesitation. From then on its just numbers game.. If you approach 100 girls and some reject you does it really matter?
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    :laugh: I am still not hot. And in actual fact, alcohol helped. I kissed him. Freshers Week. Guys don't always have to, like I said, social pressure. You just haven't seen the right girls yet.
    When im at the club only the ugly girls approach me and everyone is drunk
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    (Original post by shawtyb)
    im female and the amount of dates iv been on in 23 yrs i can count on one hand!
    You must have many fingers
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    (Original post by DropletInfection)
    When im at the club only the ugly girls approach me and everyone is drunk
    Looks clearly matter more than personality to you.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    There are some guys out there that manage to go on dates everyday! And then theres me whos never been on one!
    Its depressing thay all these guys are good looking too (no hate please or you will be reported)
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    I got called mentally unstable before by a tsr user for saying that girls prefer good looking guys! So yeah that was nice of them, seeing as theyve got a nice 11 gems too!

    But seriously how the hell is it possible for people to go on so many dates!
    Ive tried to get to know girls but they just arent interested, none of them!
    One even lead me on but thats another story!
    So how do you guys get to go on so many dates and have 4000 girlfriends by the time your 20?
    I mean i only want to have 1 in my life, someone i can be with forever!
    Thanks!
    If someone claims to have had 4000 girlfriends by the age of 20, they're either
    A) Lying
    B) Chances are, of those 4000 has given them an STI

    Seriously though, you will find your "one". Don't give up, you sound like a great guy. And you have a good taste in cars
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    This whole... 'Guys have to ask first'/'Guys have to make the first move' is absolute crap. The way you guys spoke to Airmed was condescending and to be honest... Quite sexist. Please show more care and consideration in future and respect other people.... Everyone has different opinions and experiences and not everyone can always be right. Do your best to remember that.

    Don't worry too much OP, trust me. When the right person comes it'll all work out. The original advice Airmed gave before she was humiliated was brilliant. :closedeyes:
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    I think its sweet that you gauge people's success on the sexual battleground by how many dates they've had.
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    (Original post by Legendary Quest)
    What's wrong with 'waiting' until you're in your 30s? If you have to be in your 30s, 40s, 50s (etc..) until you find someone who is right for you then so be it. I don't understand this rush everyone is in to find a partner.
    Be honest and tell me who would be happy and content with waiting till their 50s for their first partner.

    That's just pathetic. Like I said, people who expect fate to work magic and bring the "right" person are fools.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    There are some guys out there that manage to go on dates everyday! And then theres me whos never been on one!
    Its depressing thay all these guys are good looking too (no hate please or you will be reported)
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    I got called mentally unstable before by a tsr user for saying that girls prefer good looking guys! So yeah that was nice of them, seeing as theyve got a nice 11 gems too!

    But seriously how the hell is it possible for people to go on so many dates!
    Ive tried to get to know girls but they just arent interested, none of them!
    One even lead me on but thats another story!
    So how do you guys get to go on so many dates and have 4000 girlfriends by the time your 20?
    I mean i only want to have 1 in my life, someone i can be with forever!
    Thanks!
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    Sorry to tell you mate, I've never been on a date myself. But it seems to be a mixture of picking a place with alcohol and making a move quick

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    (Original post by iEthan)
    This whole... 'Guys have to ask first'/'Guys have to make the first move' is absolute crap. The way you guys spoke to Airmed was condescending and to be honest... Quite sexist. Please show more care and consideration in future and respect other people.... Everyone has different opinions and experiences and not everyone can always be right. Do your best to remember that.

    Don't worry too much OP, trust me. When the right person comes it'll all work out. The original advice Airmed gave before she was humiliated was brilliant. :closedeyes:
    It is a load of crap, I agree.

    But as a nerd - I know what it's like to be the not so attractive one from the group, we do have to make the first move. We have to tell them how we feel straight away to even stand a chance

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    (Original post by Andy98)
    It is a load of crap, I agree.

    But as a nerd - I know what it's like to be the not so attractive one from the group, we do have to make the first move. We have to tell them how we feel straight away to even stand a chance

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    Equally, as a nerd. That's not always true.
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    And perhaps if you become friends with those fellas you can meet girls. Opportunities.
    See you are awesome!
    I never thought of that!
    Thanks!
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    I saw a girl attempt to ask a guy out recently, the girl followed my colleague into a shop, wandered up behind him then nervously said something like 'um hi, can I have your number'...It didn't work out for her, she didn't peak his interest at all, and he was really creeped out. :^) But I commend her bravery.

    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    See you are awesome!I never thought of that!Thanks!
    There are loads of girls who've never had a date before too.
    Have you tried volunteering at places? Going to community events? or things like comic con?

    Try to socialise as much as possible, but avoid the intent of pursuing intimate relationships, it will appear as if you are desperate.
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Looks clearly matter more than personality to you.
    I meant ugly personality :curious:
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    (Original post by DropletInfection)
    When im at the club only the ugly girls approach me and everyone is drunk
    At least girls approach you. Women run a mile from me.
 
 
 
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