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    Some loser took a dislike to me for no reason, he tried to bully me, strangely enough, i've been bullied throughout my school career so, i just ignored him. We were all out at an event and he tried to make everyone laugh by picking on me, he tried to assault me so i gave him a slap (it would have been more if there weren't so many witnesses and cameras), unluckily for me, he wasn't quite drunk enough and remembered the whole thing, so every time i bumped into him he'd make these *****ty comments. Strangely enough, i wasn't the only one to give him a slap that year, plus, when he blacked out under the influence of some drugs, he woke up several hours later with his head in a sink full of raw fish and fish guts, couldn't have happened to a nicer bloke.

    The people on my course are great, some of the student bums on mickey mouse courses i can't vouch for. We all worked very hard to get where we are, there's no longer the competition to get on the hardest university course, everyone is friends and everyone helps everyone else out. We're just trying to make sure we all graduate together. The person who comes out of a viva in front of you will tell you all the questions they were asked so that you can better prepare for them and get a better grade.

    If someone pisses me off for a valid reason/bullies me, i won't bully them, i just withdraw my help. When they're in the ***** and they need my help in the future, i won't be there for them, its as simple as that.

    For the people out there who think bullying doesn't exist in university, grow up. I know of people who my parents work with, they have a professional occupation, families, etc, and they still don't respect people, and seem to think that bullying people will improve their promotional prospects. Bullying happens in all walks of life. Sure, going to a grammar school may mean that you aren't bullied because of academic ability, it doesn't mean you won't be bullied because of some other form of jealousy, etc.
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    (Original post by ch0c0h01ic)
    For the people out there who think bullying doesn't exist in university, grow up.
    maybe you're going for the be-cruel-to-be-kind thing or something but that was ever so slightly rude! i don't think it's unreasonable thing for people to hope that at some point in their lives they get to escape situations where bullying, particularly group bullying such as the OP describes, isn't part of day-to-day life. and i don't think it's unreasonable for people to assume that university, which is supposed to be full of educated adults, is the place to do this.

    obviously there will always be exceptions and disagreements and general clashes of personality (i.e. between normal people and imbeciles) but to still be carrying out the kind of bullying that you might expect at secondary school? it's disgusting.
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    I knew someone who had all their food nicked, and also someone who had their birthday decorations (which a couple of her flatmates had gone to lots of effort to put together) ripped down. It's horrible that this kind of behaviour is still going on amongst 18-20 year olds. :mad:
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    There is a line between messing around and bullying. Some of my mates put all these trees in my bathroom one friday night. I come in and found all trees everywhere. Obviously funny. (They did clean most of it up) But then the same people would put explicit gay porn all over and around a gay lads door. Obviously bullying. Trouble is the people doing probably didn't see it that way.
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    I'm probably going to get bullied over my nationality at University. if that happens someones going to get some bruises (me if the people are bigger than me...but that factor never stopped me at school).
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    (Original post by ch0c0h01ic)
    For the people out there who think bullying doesn't exist in university, grow up.
    I don't think it's the idealistic few who need to do the 'growing up' with regards to bullying.
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    No nor do I, but the thing is nobody really wants to hear about it People want to say 'oh yeah, uni best time of your life' and 'people grow up at uni'...
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    A little... problem is, the person who was doing it was absolutely vile to me, and nobody said anything to her, then when I finally stood up for myself and told her to stop it, she told everybody I know at uni that I was bullying her and accused me of stealing her food (I didn't!). I'm home from uni now and her latest trick has been to sign me up to every internet mailing list she can find, particularly gay dating sites, and send abusive emails. Not sure what I can do really, I don't want to change my email because it would be so inconvenient, but can't think of how else to stop her! It's so pathetic, I've not spoken to the girl since May and am living on the other side of town when we go back, I don't know what she's trying to achieve by it?!
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    Look guys, you've just got to accept that bullying occurs in all walks of life, jobs, courses, sports, teams, prisons, etc. Sure, you may be lucky, you may not experience any bullying, but someone else in your situation somewhere else is almost certainly in the opposite situation to you.

    Also, bullying takes all forms and intensities no matter what situation you are in. Sure, people may grow up and mature, that doesn't mean that they are no longer a bully. As i said already, i know people that my parents work with and for, who are bullies, why? I don't know, most of it is down to jealousy, whether you're brighter than them, better at sports than them, more popular/more friends/better friends, more money, etc. There are judges, lawyers, teachers, policemen, shop workers, farmers, mechanics, etc, who are bullies, you will never be able to escape the fact, its just how you deal with them.

    You can continue living i la la land, or stop being so naive. As long as you deal with the bullies and stop them, it won't continue. If you don't take any action it can only get worse as the bully gets bolder and more ideas creep into his mind. Report them to the authorities, ignore them(it works supprisingly well) and if you have to, defend yourself, and if you have to, fight very dirty, they won't want to cross you again. And, if you are a bully, you can stop bullying by not bullying people yourself.
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    (Original post by danielapart2)
    I don't get bullied at uni (or haven't been), but get bullied at work hella lot and it sucks
    So, people can be mean. That's the way things go, deal with it.
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    (Original post by toth8)
    So, people can be mean. That's the way things go, deal with it.
    Oh **** off. You are either a right tosser or so disillusioned by the world that you are incapable of empathy. I hope it is the latter in which case I feel for you.
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    Hope there isn't too much bullying next year when i go to university ;/ bullying is one of the few things that gets me truly angry
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    I'm not at Uni yet, but I can imagine I will be on the receiving end of it when I get there
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    (Original post by Bubblebee)
    Oh **** off. You are either a right tosser or so disillusioned by the world that you are incapable of empathy. I hope it is the latter in which case I feel for you.
    I'm right though, people are mean. You get ****ers and you deal with it.
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    (Original post by ch0c0h01ic)
    Look guys, you've just got to accept that bullying occurs in all walks of life, jobs, courses, sports, teams, prisons, etc. Sure, you may be lucky, you may not experience any bullying, but someone else in your situation somewhere else is almost certainly in the opposite situation to you.
    Exactly! Bullying is natural and there is nothing wrong with it.
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    Bullying is natural and there is nothing wrong with it.
    No, bullying is a load of *****e. Sorry, but i don't get any satisfaction from making people unhappy, and bullying is a good way of making that happen, it isn't natural. Is it a way for sick people to make themselves feel better? I don't understand, there is everything wrong with it. Causing someone to hang themselves or overdose by bullying them doesn't seem right to me? Or is my logic/ethics/morality flawed?

    It happens everywhere, but it doesn't need to. Personally, on my course, everyone is friends, there is no academic competition, we're just there to have fun and live our dreams, so, there is no need to bully anyone else. Sure, some people don't agree with others or like them that much, but none of us go out of our way to make it known to them or bully them/piss them off/make them unhappy, we put it aside, it seems most of us have realised that bullying gets people nowhere.


    But for the people out there who think bullying is natural and there is nothing wrong with it, wait until you meet/bully me, it could be very costly...
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    i was bullied at high scool on the bus on the way home all i can say was it was hell.
    in classed n at breaks n stuf it was good i had a big group of friends bt on the bus home i was a loner n i dreaded the bus journeys too and frm scool n it dint help that i lived in a small village .
    4 years dwn the line the main ring leaded of the group asked for my numba n tries it on with me evry time he sees me.bullys just pick on the weaker person to make themself look big my regret is that i dint tell a teacher or sum1 , dnt let them terrorise u
    good luck
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    (Original post by toth8)
    Exactly! Bullying is natural and there is nothing wrong with it.
    are u sure u wud be saying that if u were on the receiving end
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    Anything like this:

    http://www.bullyonline.org/cases/case15.htm
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    Don't know if you'd class it as bullying - more like emotional blackmail and mind games It's the clever form of bullying where you don't realise you're being bullied and emotionally blackmails and still thinks the person is your best friend in the whole world

    That said-person seems to want to get back in touch with me though, but to be fair, I'm really not interested.
 
 
 
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