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    (Original post by laurab21)
    The second I turned 13 (quite a while ago now), my parents just assumed I'd be a stereotypical teenager who rebels against everything. So they treated me like that. But recently they're just being so horrible to me and I genuinely haven't done anything. Today for example, I fell asleep so didn't help cook dinner, then my dad called me a 'not very nice person' behind my back which I heard, I then confronted my mum and then agreed saying 'No, you're an awful person, you only every think about yourself'. I don't see what I've done wrong, I want to get on with my parents but they're making it very difficult, any advice?
    oh boo hoo. Sorry, they give you food, clothing, and most likely many other ****.

    If you think this is abuse, then fine, it's pretty telling.

    I know this will be flamed for being harsh, but our generation is too coddled as it is. Simply tell your parents you will help in some stuff, probably they think you should contribute more, and you don't.
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    Take what's thrown at you, but stand up where it matters. If you stay quiet 99% of the time, the 1% you do make a stand will make quite the statement.

    (Original post by laurab21)
    Well we have very different views on things, they don't believe in equality and they're quite frankly racists *******s. I'm the sort of person that will stand up for myself and they hate that I do because I don't just accept what they have to say to me
    Unfortunately racism is something illogical that cannot be reasoned with - you just have to make it clear that you dislike it, and leave it at that.
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    oh boo hoo. Sorry, they give you food, clothing, and most likely many other ****.

    If you think this is abuse, then fine, it's pretty telling.

    I know this will be flamed for being harsh, but our generation is too coddled as it is. Simply tell your parents you will help in some stuff, probably they think you should contribute more, and you don't.
    Ok, firstly, I have been paying for my own clothes since the age of 12. Secondly, I never said it was abuse, I'm asking for advice. Thirdly, you have no idea what I do to help and I can tell you that it's a hell of a lot. Don't just think you can come and make assumptions about my life, I'm simply asking for advice which is the main point of this website! So I'd very much appreciate it if you took yourself and your high ego away from this forum.
    Thanks. Bye.
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    Take what's thrown at you, but stand up where it matters. If you stay quiet 99% of the time, the 1% you do make a stand will make quite the statement.



    Unfortunately racism is something illogical that cannot be reasoned with - you just have to make it clear that you dislike it, and leave it at that.
    I feel like so much of what they say is just so wrong and unjustified, should I still take a step back?
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    (Original post by laurab21)
    Ok, firstly, I have been paying for my own clothes since the age of 12. Secondly, I never said it was abuse, I'm asking for advice. Thirdly, you have no idea what I do to help and I can tell you that it's a hell of a lot. Don't just think you can come and make assumptions about my life, I'm simply asking for advice which is the main point of this website! So I'd very much appreciate it if you took yourself and your high ego away from this forum.
    Thanks. Bye.
    Ego? not really, I'm pretty humble actually. Just I gave my genuine opinion, which is that you're being oversensitive.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    I do think they are being a bit harsh. My 19 year old son wouldn't have a clue how to help me with dinner. He can just about make himself a frozen pizza.! Can I ask how old you are? Are you studying and living at home ? Could it be your parents are having a few financial worries and want you to contribute a bit more? Or perhaps they might have hoped you would have flown the nest by now and feel their parenting days should be over? Maybe have a chat to whichever one you feel best able to talk to and ask them if there is a reason for this behaviour.
    Holy ****. I'm 19 years old and sound scarily like your son. Please tell me you're not my mother 😂
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    Ego? not really, I'm pretty humble actually. Just I gave my genuine opinion, which is that you're being oversensitive.
    Well I won't deny that since I know nothing about you and I don't have the audacity to make a judgement on a person without really knowing them but from first impressions you come accross as having an ego. And you have no idea if I'm being oversensitive? Stop making such sweeping statements without the facts
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    (Original post by laurab21)
    The second I turned 13 (quite a while ago now), my parents just assumed I'd be a stereotypical teenager who rebels against everything. So they treated me like that. But recently they're just being so horrible to me and I genuinely haven't done anything. Today for example, I fell asleep so didn't help cook dinner, then my dad called me a 'not very nice person' behind my back which I heard, I then confronted my mum and then agreed saying 'No, you're an awful person, you only every think about yourself'. I don't see what I've done wrong, I want to get on with my parents but they're making it very difficult, any advice?
    Lol, you think this ain't normal? It's the circle of life, this is the process that makes moving out easier; it's exactly the same here

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    Lol, you think this ain't normal? It's the circle of life, this is the process that makes moving out easier; it's exactly the same here

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    haha, I just need advice to make this whole thing easier, idk what to do:/
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    haha, I just need advice to make this whole thing easier, idk what to do:/
    How old are you now? My advice will differ dependant on age. And possibly location

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    How old are you now? My advice will differ dependant on age. And possibly location

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    17 and a tiny isolated village in england
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    17 and a tiny isolated village in england
    Suck it up till you move out for uni then, saves the agro

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    Suck it up till you move out for uni then, saves the agro

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    That's a whole year though!!
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    That's a whole year though!!
    Count yourself lucky, unless I can some idiot to move in with me I've got at least 2

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    Count yourself lucky, unless I can some idiot to move in with me I've got at least 2

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    I wish you luck
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    I wish you luck
    I've been **** out of luck for the last 18 years, for some reason I don't think that's about to change

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    I've been **** out of luck for the last 18 years, for some reason I don't think that's about to change

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    It all starts with a positive attitude, you can't go into life thinking it's against you, trust me on this, I changed my attitude to life recently and it's made so much difference (apart from the whole parent situation- that's a mess!)
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    (Original post by laurab21)
    It all starts with a positive attitude, you can't go into life thinking it's against you, trust me on this, I changed my attitude to life recently and it's made so much difference (apart from the whole parent situation- that's a mess!)
    Yeah, I tried that once; within 4 weeks my girlfriend at the time and my great grandmother died. Fair to say I gave up with that

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    (Original post by laurab21)
    The second I turned 13 (quite a while ago now), my parents just assumed I'd be a stereotypical teenager who rebels against everything. So they treated me like that. But recently they're just being so horrible to me and I genuinely haven't done anything. Today for example, I fell asleep so didn't help cook dinner, then my dad called me a 'not very nice person' behind my back which I heard, I then confronted my mum and then agreed saying 'No, you're an awful person, you only every think about yourself'. I don't see what I've done wrong, I want to get on with my parents but they're making it very difficult, any advice?
    Maybe you should try talking to them about it?
 
 
 
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