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    A most benign explanation is that he wanted to see what kind of mischief his daughters were getting up to. You have to set the appropriate age filter to find their profiles, right?
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    Best thing to do is make a joke of it and ask him about it, in a not serious fashion, with a big smile on when you ask. Please let us know what he says.
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    What do I do? I'm so embarrassed I can't even face him right now. He's downstairs right now
    Mate this is something you'll laugh at soon. the question is why was he on tinder? Is he married! You're young most people your age are on Tinder
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    (Original post by L'absurde)
    OP is trolling?
    OP is a dupe. When asked about the authenticity of the thread, OP got defensive. My conclusion is that OP is trolling. If not then I apologise to you and them for being wrong.
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    (Original post by 04MR17)
    Because it isn't right. OP is an actual dupe (confirmed by CT). And see here going on the defensive, trying to avoid confrontation.
    CT? And it's not about going defensive, it's about coming on here for advice because I didn't know who else to talk to. My apologies if my life appears like a troll
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    My dad found my profile one big whoop calm down
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    CT? And it's not about going defensive, it's about coming on here for advice because I didn't know who else to talk to. My apologies if my life appears like a troll
    Apology accepted. Yes CT is aware that you are a dupe. You have (until now) avoided the accusation that you have fabricated this event, you will need to re-assure contributors that this thread is genuine. There's your advice.
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Ok what if I ask him why he has tinder tomorrow but make him delete it and promise not to use it again so then I won't tell mum
    What's the point of that? He had the intention of cheating on your mum and you going to hide it from her? Yeah, i don't know about that.
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    That's the thing I don't want to tell my mum he's on there because then she'll find out I'm on there and have a fit. She thinks it's dangerous to be talking to randomers on a dating app and that they'll come and find me and rape me. She's so paranoid about online stuff it's actually really bad
    This sounds worse for your dad than you. How old are you? You sound young? My mate met her fiance off tinder
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    My neighbour, whose back garden is adjacent to my back garden, has been exposing himself to me for about 18 months. At first I saw him watching porn in the spare bedroom. Thought nothing more of it. I'm not a prude. But the TV was a large TV and it was right up against the window, with the screen facing outwards so I could see everything. I used to sleep in the big, front bedroom, but my teenage son nagged me to have the large room for his TV, X BOX and all his gadgets, so I agreed. Moved my things in to the small room at the back and a few days later was when I noticed the porn. Then I started waking up to different porn magazines on my back door, open at specific pages. Usually of a woman giving a man a blow job. As if whoever was leaving the magazines was sending me a message. Then early one morning he was sitting in his back garden in nothing but his dressing gown. His dressing gown was fully open and he was completely naked underneath. More porn on the TV. Always Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings when his wife was out working at the local Chinese takeaway. Then things escalated. He started coming in to his back garden whenever I went out to put clothes out on the line. Then one day he was sitting in the chair in his back garden, with his dressing gown on and was naked underneath, but he was masturbating. I told a friend of mine, who is a local Councillor. Not that I wanted him to do anything, but just so I had it written down as evidence that I had told someone. Another time in the back garden. I had just gone out to either put some clothes out or to bring them in, and suddenly he emerged from his house, dressing gown on which was undone. He was completely naked underneath. He started walking towards the fence, with his **** in his hand. I just turned on my heels to go in. But before I did I shouted, "I WILL report you to the police if you carry on you know". He practically ran inside his house shouting, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". Nothing for months, but recently I have been able to see right inside his house and he is walking around near the window completely naked. Always while his wife is at work. I'm telling you all this, because I was going to tell his wife exactly what kind of a man she is married to, and exactly what he gets up to in the evenings when she is at work. But she is such a nice lady. In the end I didn't have the heart to. But if it ever starts up again I WILL go to the police and press charges. But I said nothing not for his sake, but for his wife's. But OP, if that was my dad who was carrying on [or potentially thinking about it] I wouldn't protect him.
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    (Original post by 04MR17)
    Apology accepted. Yes CT is aware that you are a dupe. You have (until now) avoided the accusation that you have fabricated this event, you will need to re-assure contributors that this thread is genuine. There's your advice.
    Whats CT?
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    I don't know, I don't even want to know. I was just swiping through as I hadn't been on tinder for a while and was bored and his profile came up.
    What worries me is my profile has already come up on his tinder because I haven't been on tinder for ages
    You've not been on for a while so it's most likely you won't have shown up on his Tinder, however if it has, I'm sure he would have seen but hasn't said anything to save his marriage, he doesn't care that you're on it etc. Just leave it IMO.
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    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    What's CT?
    The Community Team. The fascists of TSR. The big big cheeses. They are responsible for dealing with problem users on TSR. They are the ones who ban users, remove bad posts etc. They can also do a quick IP check to see if pinkberry here has had another account with TSR. Which is the case here. Some groups on TSR (like the political parties) have a no-dupe policy. Also, there are some Previously banned users (PBUs) that like to return to TSR through fake accounts. CT specialises in removing them.
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    Literally do not understand why this is an issue for you.*

    You discovering your dad's profile is somewhat more of an issue for him, though.*
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    (Original post by 04MR17)
    The Community Team. The fascists of TSR. The big big cheeses. They are responsible for dealing with problem users on TSR. They are the ones who ban users, remove bad posts etc. They can also do a quick IP check to see if pinkberry here has had another account with TSR. Which is the case here. Some groups on TSR (like the political parties) have a no-dupe policy. Also, there are some Previously banned users (PBUs) that like to return to TSR through fake accounts. CT specialises in removing them.
    Oooh thanks so this thread isn't genuine?
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    Ok what if I ask him why he has tinder tomorrow but make him delete it and promise not to use it again so then I won't tell mum
    I don't think this will work. It might for a few months. But if your dad is determined to try and meet up with other women nothing and no-one will stop him. He will just use different methods, that's all.
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    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    Oooh thanks so this thread isn't genuine?
    The possibility exists that Pinkberry here is telling the truth. However, because they are a dupe, I am more than tempted to accuse them of making this up. Others have commented on how this thread "just doesn't seem right" (see page 3) and I support that view unless I am convinced otherwise.
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    Keep us updated because this is the most eventful thing that I've seen all day. On a serious note if he wasn't hacked or his friends didn't make him an account as a joke or something ,I'd tell my mum if I was in your shoes.
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    (Original post by markova21)
    I don't think this will work. It might for a few months. But if your dad is determined to try and meet up with other women nothing and no-one will stop him. He will just use different methods, that's all.
    That's what I'm worried about, that he'll cheat on my mum or He has done so already which would be even worse and heart breaking should I talk to my mum first or tell my dad first? I feel like if tell my dad first he'll make me feel bad and guilty about telling my mum so in the end I won't have the heart to do it

    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    Literally do not understand why this is an issue for you.*

    You discovering your dad's profile is somewhat more of an issue for him, though.*
    Given that it's my dad and my parents marriage, it becomes my issue as well 😬😬
    (Original post by needle_point)
    Keep us updated because this is the most eventful thing that I've seen all day. On a serious note if he wasn't hacked or his friends didn't make him an account as a joke or something ,I'd tell my mum if I was in your shoes.
    I was going to just let it slide, but I'm going to talk to him when he's alone and tell him I've found his account if he hasn't found mine already
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    If you were married to a man you loved dearly and had children together and one of your children found out something like this about your husband and their father would you want to know what kind of a man you were married to or would you want to continue playing happy families? HE is the one in the wrong. Not you. Not your mother. There's always the possibility of course that if you DO tell her, he denies it, and says he doesn't know why you would make something like that up, and she believes him. Some women are so in love and think their husband/partner is so wonderful they wouldn't believe it if you showed them the evidence anyway.
 
 
 
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