Need to decide by tommorrow if I want to take my hijab off

You lot are stressing me out
And I didn't write this is my initial post because I didn't want a full blown religious debate but seeing as it has already turned into that I might as well say my piece. My sister read around Islam a lot and she left Islam because she didn't find the religion to make any sense whatsoever. She then told me to do my own research instead of blindly following a religion I was born into. This past summer I have been reading around Islam and so many things unnerve me about this religion, why can a man 'plough his field whenever he wants to'? Why did the prophet marry a six year old and have sex with her when she was 9? Why is homosexuality punishable by death? Why can a wife not frown in the presence of her husband but her husband can 'lightly beat her with a miswaak?' So yh in addition to my initial post, I really am starting to become disillusioned with Islam. But again I'm scared of what people will say/do if I take off the hijab. My uncle left islam and became a priest and he was beaten by the community and forced to move elsewhere. His whole family also disowned him so yh I just want to take things one step at a time rn

You're going to get both very different opinions on here.
Muslims on one hand will tell you to keep it on, non Muslims on the other will tell you to ditch it.
This will probably confuse you even more.

I think the problem is you don't understand the reasoning behind wearing the hijab. You're just wearing it because you were told you had to, or for some other reason which has led you to wear it just for the sake of it.

Before you make your decision just make an effort to research why Allah (SWT) has sent down this command, what the actual purpose is behind wearing it and why it's important.
Have a read online and offline, and watch some videos to help you.
Then make your decision after this.

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YESSS!!! JazakAllah Khairan someone knows whats its all about!

Is your mum ok with your sister leaving Islam? If she is then respect to her. Muslim communities need more people like your mother.

You lot are stressing me out
And I didn't write this is my initial post because I didn't want a full blown religious debate but seeing as it has already turned into that I might as well say my piece. My sister read around Islam a lot and she left Islam because she didn't find the religion to make any sense whatsoever. She then told me to do my own research instead of blindly following a religion I was born into. This past summer I have been reading around Islam and so many things unnerve me about this religion, why can a man 'plough his field whenever he wants to'? Why did the prophet marry a six year old and have sex with her when she was 9? Why is homosexuality punishable by death? Why can a wife not frown in the presence of her husband but her husband can 'lightly beat her with a miswaak?' So yh in addition to my initial post, I really am starting to become disillusioned with Islam. But again I'm scared of what people will say/do if I take off the hijab. My uncle left islam and became a priest and he was beaten by the community and forced to move elsewhere. His whole family also disowned him so yh I just want to take things one step at a time rn

Smh at the responses in this thread OP, you are the only person who will have to answer for your own actions, you cannot point the finger at other people and say they recommended that I take it off or keep it on. The choice is your own, I've known close friends who made the decision to wear it, it was a huge step for them and one they felt happy to take after feeling very nervous indeed.

Just remember: 'For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease.' (Qur'an 94:5-6)

And how does one cover their modesty? And I dont listen to Male scholars so please get your information right.

Your issues go far deeper than hijab. I would really recommend sitting down with someone knowledgeable in real life and going through them one by one or message one of the sisters from the isoc and talk it through. Like I do understand the hijab is one issue for you right now but you have other bigger issues which may push you to leave Islam.

So what was her reaction to when your sister left it? I admire both her and your uncle. It must be incredibly difficult and scary to openly come out to the community and leave Islam.

I'd say try working with e.g. learn about the Hijab and what it means etc & the rewards behind it. this is so you can understand the religious reasons that may encourage you to carry on wearing it & if you 100% feel you don't want to wear it then take it off. Don't consider it 'taking off' consider it as a way of improving your faith and start learning more about the religion. As far as others, ignore them and take pride in yourself. Goodluck inshaAllah youll be fine lovely Xx

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I have. I sat down with a scholar from my local mosque. I asked him why the prophet married aisha when she was 6 years old and had sex with her when she was 9. He said women matured earlier back then. I asked him why Allah didn't tell the prophet that it was still morally wrong. The scholar said that after the age of puberty a girl is biologically a woman so there is nothing wrong with having sex with her. I then asked him if it was okay for a grown man to have sex with a 9 year old who has hit puberty in this day and age (because he is following the sunnah of the prophet) The scholar said yes, it is permissible in Islam. I stopped listening to him after he said that.

This thread has thoroughly stressed me, and got worse with every post. I can't believe there are so many judgemental people on here. I'm Muslim and because I don't wear hijab, that makes me a muslim just by name? Who the hell are you to make such a statement about non hijabis? So, according to you, they aren't muslim enough and will not go to Jannah? Alhamdullilah, I have read the Qur'an and I pray five times a day. So, if I don't wear hijab, people will not take me seriously as a Muslim. What a stupid statement to make. And, my sister is a hijabi, and I'm not. But, let me tell you she gets more compliments than me out on the streets.

Also, I've seen many hijabis with see through clothing and tons of makeup. They also only have guys as friends.

I, on the other hand don't have any guy friends in real life, I don't hang out with guys like I've seen most hijabis do.

Once, I saw a hijab with skin coloured tight tight trouser. And, I could see her underwear and all of the guys on the train were staring at her voluptuous butt. So that's ok? After we got off the train, I asked her the purpose of her hijab when she is wearing such clothes. Do you know what she said to me? 'You don't even wear hijab so don't lecture me'. I was shocked.

I shop at the men's section. I wear clothes which are so so so baggy (long jumpers and loose track bottoms). You can't even see my figure. So, just because I don't wear hijab but cover the rest of my body with baggy clothes, I'm still destined for hell? Lol you guys make me laugh with your double standards.

(Not saying everyone has this kind of mentality but whoever does should try reevaluate theirs.)

This thread has thoroughly stressed me, and got worse with every post. I can't believe there are so many judgemental people on here. I'm Muslim and because I don't wear hijab, that makes me a muslim just by name? Who the hell are you to make such a statement about non hijabis? So, according to you, they aren't muslim enough and will not go to Jannah? Alhamdullilah, I have read the Qur'an and I pray five times a day. So, if I don't wear hijab, people will not take me seriously as a Muslim. What a stupid statement to make. And, my sister is a hijabi, and I'm not. But, let me tell you she gets more compliments than me out on the streets.

Also, I've seen many hijabis with see through clothing and tons of makeup. They also only have guys as friends.

I, on the other hand don't have any guy friends in real life, I don't hang out with guys like I've seen most hijabis do.

Once, I saw a hijab with skin coloured tight tight trouser. And, I could see her underwear and all of the guys on the train were staring at her voluptuous butt. So that's ok? After we got off the train, I asked her the purpose of her hijab when she is wearing such clothes. Do you know what she said to me? 'You don't even wear hijab so don't lecture me'. I was shocked.

I shop at the men's section. I wear clothes which are so so so baggy (long jumpers and loose track bottoms). You can't even see my figure. So, just because I don't wear hijab but cover the rest of my body with baggy clothes, I'm still destined for hell? Lol you guys make me laugh with your double standards.

(Not saying everyone has this kind of mentality but whoever does should try reevaluate theirs.)