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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    Flirting doesn't imply you're going to have sex
    It has sexual connotations. Would you flirt with an 12 yo? No- Why?
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    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    It has sexual connotations. Would you flirt with an 12 yo? No- Why?
    It really doesn't, unless you're having some sort of sex chat. I don't speak with any 12 year olds, but if I had a daughter I would playfully joke around with her and tease about random stuff because that's a normal part of social interaction.
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    Flirting doesn't imply you're going to have sex
    Why pursue a 15 year old in the first place?

    There's a reason why those accusations and assumptions are made in these situations.

    Then apologists like you cry about it and wonder why.

    It's funny how immigrants caught with bomb making equipment get charged with terror plotting.

    You're almost too dense to function.
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    (Original post by zippyRN)
    I suggest you learn a little aobut the law before making comments of this nature.

    unless the OP is in a position of responsibility in some way , the only offences would be underage sex if act sex took place ( i see a previous poster has listed which sections of the relevant legislat Have NOT been breached).



    slightly different i f the 18 year old is in a leadership / management position above the 15 year old.

    also a paedophile wouldn;t generally be interested in a 15 year old ...

    even if the law has been broken there is also the matter of the public interest test as to whether it is worth persuing things through the courts.
    i didn't say anything about him being classed as a pedophile lol;; just saying that flirting with a minor (read: a CHILD) is illegal ??? that doesn't make him a pedophile, i know that, i'm merely stating facts. if the police found out he'd been flirting with a 15 y/o he'd get put on the sex offender register.

    it doesn't matter if he intended to have sex with her or not, if she tells somebody he did he will get in serious trouble.

    it's not a matter of if the law 'technically doesn't class him as a pedophile' it's the matter that he flirted with a CHILD.
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    (Original post by sh9)
    Why pursue a 15 year old in the first place?
    He didn't know


    (Original post by sh9)
    There's a reason why those accusations and assumptions are made in these situations.
    In the real world, nobody cares apart from lower middle class idiots who have nothing to do with their lives


    (Original post by sh9)
    Then apologists like you cry about it and wonder why.
    I knew this thread would be full of people going mad at OP, that's exactly why I came

    (Original post by sh9)
    It's funny how immigrants caught with bomb making equipment get charged with terror plotting.
    Because bomb making equipment is illegal

    http://www.cps.gov.uk/legal/d_to_g/explosives/


    (Original post by sh9)
    You're almost too dense to function.
    Says the person getting triggered by the internet.
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    (Original post by renphobia)
    i didn't say anything about him being classed as a pedophile lol;; just saying that flirting with a minor (read: a CHILD) is illegal ??? that doesn't make him a pedophile, i know that, i'm merely stating facts. if the police found out he'd been flirting with a 15 y/o he'd get put on the sex offender register.

    it doesn't matter if he intended to have sex with her or not, if she tells somebody he did he will get in serious trouble.

    it's not a matter of if the law 'technically doesn't class him as a pedophile' it's the matter that he flirted with a CHILD.
    Under which law?

    The illicit flirting act of 1969 :rofl:
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    Under which law?

    The illicit flirting act of 1969 :rofl:
    solicitation of a minor.
    you can do up to two years in prison for talking with a minor in a 'alluring' way; and you get put on the sex offenders register.
    just a suggestion;; maybe op should talk to a girl who's actually legal in the future lol
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    (Original post by renphobia)
    i didn't say anything about him being classed as a pedophile lol;; just saying that flirting with a minor (read: a CHILD) is illegal ??? that doesn't make him a pedophile, i know that, i'm merely stating facts. if the police found out he'd been flirting with a 15 y/o he'd get put on the sex offender register.

    it doesn't matter if he intended to have sex with her or not, if she tells somebody he did he will get in serious trouble.

    it's not a matter of if the law 'technically doesn't class him as a pedophile' it's the matter that he flirted with a CHILD.
    What offence has been committed ?

    unless you can prove 'grooming' and the 'public interest' test is passed there is no offence.

    I don't know if you have recieved any safeguardign training, if you have the trainer is not fit for purpose ( incredibly common when poorly trained youth workers or none specialist social w**kers deliver such training compared to the same training delivered by teachers, FE teachers/ lecturers or health professionals)

    as for the matter of paedophilia - the number of people who perpetuate the conflation of paedophilia with sexual activity with a pubescent or post pubescent minor is a serious problem ... interestingly the law makes a distinction - having seperate offences based on the age of the victim ( with 12/13 as a cut off ) ...

    the age of consent and the age of majority are social constructs and arbitrary ... there is significant international variation on the age of consent ( and how it is policed , including 'age gap ' legislation - and where age gap provisions are in place the 15 +18 relationship is well within bounds, unless of course the 18 year old is misusing a position of authority )
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    (Original post by renphobia)
    solicitation of a minor.
    you can do up to two years in prison for talking with a minor in a 'alluring' way; and you get put on the sex offenders register.
    just a suggestion;; maybe op should talk to a girl who's actually legal in the future lol
    Flirting isn't solicitation, it would never make it past the CPS stage unless OP was literally trying to have a sex chat and asking for meets at hotel rooms.
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    Flirting isn't solicitation, it would never make it past the CPS stage unless OP was literally trying to have a sex chat and asking for meets at hotel rooms.
    There is no evidence of that.
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    Flirting isn't solicitation, it would never make it past the CPS stage unless OP was literally trying to have a sex chat and asking for meets at hotel rooms.
    exactly , it looks like people are making stuff up or have been taught safeguarding by the kind of idiots who have grabbed it in some youth organisations and try to use the fear of grooming prosecution instead of effective management oversight ...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay i am worried about getting in trouble. I recently just turned 18 and i have been talking to a 15 year old friend of mine, i have been flirty/cheeky at times. No nudes,no sex and no kissing. I have cuddled her once. Her ex boyfriend said i was only talking to her for sex and i explained that wasnt the case. She ignored me and i asked what was was wrong she said **** off you pedo you used me for sex. I havent had sex with her but thats why she thinks i was talking to her. I did some googling and found grooming but realistically can i get in trouble i am sick with worry and i only wanted a girlfriend
    you wanted a 15 year old girlfriend, you make clowns sad
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    It really doesn't, unless you're having some sort of sex chat. I don't speak with any 12 year olds, but if I had a daughter I would playfully joke around with her and tease about random stuff because that's a normal part of social interaction.
    Joking and teasing isn't flirtation sweetie.
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    (Original post by du pusi pls b0ss)
    Look mate, if her age is on the clock, she is ready for the cock. My recommendation is to lure her in with honey, *****es love honey.
    15 isnt on the clock, is she not ready for the cock
    Clowns are sad
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    (Original post by du pusi pls b0ss)
    Look mate, if her age is on the clock, she is ready for the cock. My recommendation is to lure her in with honey, *****es love honey.
    You need one of them fancy 24 hour clocks though.
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    (Original post by du pusi pls b0ss)
    You need one of them fancy 24 hour clocks though.
    Otherwise it's illegal.
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    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    Joking and teasing isn't flirtation sweetie.
    It really is, it's a social activity rather than necessarily explicit sex chat.
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    (Original post by du pusi pls b0ss)
    You need one of them fancy 24 hour clocks though.
    (Original post by du pusi pls b0ss)
    Otherwise it's illegal.
    :rofl:
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    (Original post by MagnetoWasRight)
    It really is, it's a social activity rather than necessarily explicit sex chat.
    They aren't mutually exclusive.

    What sort of a reaction do you think you'd get if you say told your coworkers, that your flirt with 12 year olds?

    And why do you think you'd receive that reaction?
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    (Original post by Twinpeaks)
    They aren't mutually exclusive.

    What sort of a reaction do you think you'd get if you say told your coworkers, that your flirt with 12 year olds?

    And why do you think you'd receive that reaction?
    You would never say such a ridiculous thing and any reaction you get would be the result of saying such a thing.

    Pretty much every father flirts with his daughter, even radfems like Germaine Greer agree with me because I'm so right here.
 
 
 
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