Girls aren't attracted to nice guys Watch

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http://i.imgur.com/rBrA8JY.jpg

*ahem*.. reminds me of some of the guys here
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typically a "nice guy" is someone who treats women as though they are not people but rather some ethereal superior beings...of course this is not attractive.
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If you have to say you're "nice", chances are you aren't lmao
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girls are attracted to good looks
if you're good looking then it doesn't matter if you are a nice boy or an ass
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Maybe because the majority of self-proclaimed "nice guys" are actually whiny, entitled, irritating brats who expect attention and sex because they were a decent person towards a woman maybe once in their lives and aren't nearly as nice as they think they are. Also can we stop pretending the reason women don't want to have sex with you is because they're all attracted to one type of man and just accept the fact that maybe it's your fault women don't like you because your personality sucks lmao.
I hate this discussion. There's too many assumptions, too much bias, too much negativity.

Okay, let's get this out of the way; women like strong, confident, capable men. Generally speaking.

There's a massive different between the stereotypical "nice" guy and a nice guy. Unfortunately the word nice ends up being applied to both.

There are men out there who are, as the last Anon quote above said, "whiny, entitled, irritating brats". They think women are something you put kindness coins into and then sex comes out. They're spineless, dishonest, manipulative, and usually just bad people overall. These are not "nice" men, so why oh why the word gets used to represent them I do not know.

There are plenty of nice men who get dates. Plenty. You don't have to be brooding and handsome, tall and muscular to get girls. You don't have to be this buffed up Alpha male who oozes confidence (which, by the way ladies, is usually fake). You can be 5'6", have a dad bod and still get girls. I'm not even going to rattle off why this is because it should be pretty evident; personality, presentation, interests, values, behavior all come into play.

Girls ARE attracted to nice guys. Girls ARE NOT attracted to men who are clingy, desperate and lie.


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Begs the question where I fit in when it comes to what type of man I am. Can't get dates, but fairly balanced when it comes to "niceness" and knowing how to assert myself. *shrug*
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Really good answer.
Sarcasm? :erm:
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PRSOM. :congrats:
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(Original post by Twinpeaks)
Any level of cocky. So try again.


The trouble lies in people's definitions of "nice guy". The men who complain that girls don't go for "nice guys", identify as nice guys themselves, but in reality they aren't.

They think that showering a girl with compliments, pining over her, and doing anything and everything for her in order to get her to bed is "nice guy" behaviour. But it's not. Truth is, most girls see right through it, it's not genuine if you are only being nice because you want a shag.

In my eyes I have much more respect for a man who is nice and considerate to people regardless of his interest in them, but at the same time isn't a carpet, doesn't do anything that's asked of him in order to ingratiate himself to the woman. But when needs to, puts his foot down. That is a guy I respect. No he's not cocky, he's not a "bad boy", just an honest, respectable man.

You guys are so clueless :rofl:


One of the biggest turn offs for me, is when a guy tries to compliment you by putting down other women. And I find that many guys who think of themselves as "nice guys" do this.


Oh and just because you are the reverse of a bad boy, just because you are quiet and geeky, that does not make you a nice guy. :rofl:
rubbish.
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you don't need to be 6 ft good looking alpha male. All you need is a big,fat, juicy


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Bull ****. Complete and utter bs.
Any respecting girl will run for the hills.
nope, I think I'd know a little more about this than you seeing as I'm the one out there experiencing what girls like and don't like - as a girl you'll just think "hmm, well I like _ so that's what every girl likes therefore". no. we don't live in an ideal world. most girls like jerks because they're *****es. they attract themselves.

Although you might harbour some success with girls suffering low self esteem.
it's not low self esteem - it's called being a normal girl. it's normal psychology.

What you just stated is actually a mechanism used by perpetrators of domestic abuse,
what?!
so when girls themselves also play "hard to get", and believe me, the ****ing norm is for women to play hard to get, then what exactly are you implying?

lowering the woman's (or man's) self-value by persistently insinuating you are the better one. And then you are more likely to retain her/ him despite your poor behaviour, because they feel you are the best they deserve.
yep. that's just how it goes.

I cannot stand that you think you are some big success with women, you are probably absolutely hanging mate :rofl: Jog on
I'm really not though. and please don't attempt that dialect again for the love of god
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I forgot if I repped this already but PRSOM.
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Depends on what you call a nice guy. Girls will never be attracted to weenies but clever girls will be attracted to brave, respectful and manly men Although, there is another question there: Can you handle a clever girl?
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(Original post by ||TheUnknown||)
Sarcasm? :erm:

haha not at all
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If what you say is true (I don't know, I'm not a girl), then I guess I'm gonna be forever alone.
Oh heavenly blessed beauty, whose inner beauty is simply diving and everlasting, I would love to be your princess. If you want to talk to a good friend, honest, sweet and tender, you can do with me at any moment, I am a good person, kind, loyal and sincere. My friendship that I offer you is clean and transparent. I congratulate to you, because you are very beautiful, your beauty, your charming figure, your pleasant and angelical smile, your personality, your happiness, your charm, your kindness, your beautiful eyes, your lips soft and exquisite, delicate your hands, your legs precious Your beautiful, spectacular and divine body, you have all these qualities and more, you are a wonderful and perfect man, your gaze is tender and sweet, penetrating my soul. The beauty of a rose has no comparison with the sweetness of your face and the beauty of your heart. I am of the people, I like to have a good relationship with all my friends.
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The fact is girls are attracted to confidence. You need to stop worrying about others and be confident about who you are and what you do (even if you're not in the most flashy position at work/school). Also, girls aren't the best thing ever, they don't solve all your issues. The most important thing is you, so you have to worry about bettering yourself. Either physically or intellectually. Last thing, you shouldn't ever change your personality for someone else. If you're a shy person, be a shy person. Someone will accept you for that.
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(Original post by PrinceHarrys)
Oh heavenly blessed beauty, whose inner beauty is simply diving and everlasting, I would love to be your princess. If you want to talk to a good friend, honest, sweet and tender, you can do with me at any moment, I am a good person, kind, loyal and sincere. My friendship that I offer you is clean and transparent. I congratulate to you, because you are very beautiful, your beauty, your charming figure, your pleasant and angelical smile, your personality, your happiness, your charm, your kindness, your beautiful eyes, your lips soft and exquisite, delicate your hands, your legs precious Your beautiful, spectacular and divine body, you have all these qualities and more, you are a wonderful and perfect man, your gaze is tender and sweet, penetrating my soul. The beauty of a rose has no comparison with the sweetness of your face and the beauty of your heart. I am of the people, I like to have a good relationship with all my friends.
I love this. :rofl:
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haha not at all
Oh. :lol: Thanks!
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nope, I think I'd know a little more about this than you seeing as I'm the one out there experiencing what girls like and don't like - as a girl you'll just think "hmm, well I like _ so that's what every girl likes therefore". no. we don't live in an ideal world. most girls like jerks because they're *****es. they attract themselves.



it's not low self esteem - it's called being a normal girl. it's normal psychology.



what?!
so when girls themselves also play "hard to get", and believe me, the ****ing norm is for women to play hard to get, then what exactly are you implying?



yep. that's just how it goes.



I'm really not though. and please don't attempt that dialect again for the love of god

You think you are able to speak for an entire gender because of your own selective experience?
Like I said, clueless.
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(Original post by Twinpeaks)
You think you are able to speak for an entire gender because of your own selective experience?
Like I said, clueless.
:| look who's talking
at least I *have* experience in this case
how often do you hit on girls? never, right?
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Hot guy, who's nice but looks bad is the best type.
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Girls aren't attracted to boring guys*

"Haha you look nice (:" and other generic nice comments isn't going to get a girl wet.
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Hot guy, who's nice but looks bad is the best type.
how does one look bad?
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how does one look bad?
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikiped...kson_-_Bad.png
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