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(Original post by samantham999)
Aw, this wouldn't have happened if you weren't just another naive girl who thinks the guy is in love with them for some magical reason which in fact he just wants to blow your back out. wake up love, you did it to yourself. Good luck X
Oh my god don't be ridiculous.
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I'm sensing done Sarcasm here.
i was being honest!
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Post coital depression is an actual thing, but it sounds like this guy is just bad. Wooden and not in a good way.
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Now his blood is in your blood. Keep ****ing and you'll be the one who's self-centered, either soon or later. Have a good life. (Y)
Does being mean to other people make you feel better about your life?
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(Original post by samantham999)
Aw, this wouldn't have happened if you weren't just another naive girl who thinks the guy is in love with them for some magical reason which in fact he just wants to blow your back out. wake up love, you did it to yourself. Good luck X
Loool funniest thing I've read all week.

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Post coital depression is an actual thing, but it sounds like this guy is just bad. Wooden and not in a good way.
Lol oh I'm over it now. Had a chat with the boyfriend and it's improved a great deal.
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[QUOTE=samantham999;68555278]
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Loool funniest thing I've read all week.

You're the joke love, hope he blows your back harder next time so you finally realise you're a cretin. X
What the **** is your problem?
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(Original post by Nirvana1989-1994)
Well, if you say so
Rob is right. Frankly, your advice is terrible (not trying to offend, genuinely, but it is)

To the OP, it sounds like it's a simple misunderstanding. It's going to hurt the first few times, not his fault, not your fault, just simple biology. It's completely understandable that when you asked him to put a condom on, he thought it was time for **** ing. The key to good sex is communication; if you want more foreplay then you have to express that desire, it's no good expecting someone to be a mindreader and then getting angry when they don't precisely deduce your expectations.

From your OP it sounds like he's basically a good guy, considerate. You can work with that; just communicate more and it will get better, you won't feel resentful about it.
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Rob is right, you are wrong. Frankly, your advice is terrible.

To the OP, it sounds like it's a simple misunderstanding. It's going to hurt the first few times, not his fault, not your fault, just simple biology. It's completely understandable that when you asked him to put a condom on, he thought it was time for **** ing. The key to good sex is communication; if you want more foreplay then you have to express that desire, it's no good expecting someone to be a mindreader and then getting angry when they don't precisely deduce your expectations.

From your OP it sounds like he's basically a good guy, considerate. You can work with that; just communicate more and it will get better, you won't feel resentful about it.
What? That I changed my mind, and he got on my back about it.
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What? That I changed my mind, and he got on my back about it.
I edited my post so it didn't seem so accusatory towards you. But I stand by it; I don't think your advice was particularly helpful. It sounds like the OP's boyfriend is fundamentally decent, all that's needed is better communication so that both parties can get what they need.

So many problems arise in relationships and sex when one party, or both, expect the other to be a mindreader and then get resentful when the other doesn't do exactly what they're expecting. This is easily remedied by being open with each other and talking about it, particularly when it comes to sex.

Anyway, that is my advice to the OP.
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Aw, this wouldn't have happened if you weren't just another naive girl who thinks the guy is in love with them for some magical reason which in fact he just wants to blow your back out. wake up love, you did it to yourself. Good luck X
Were you jilted recently?
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I edited my post so it didn't seem so accusatory towards you. But I stand by it; I don't think your advice was particularly helpful. It sounds like the OP's boyfriend is fundamentally decent, all that's needed is better communication so that both parties can get what they need.

So many problems arise in relationships and sex when one party, or both, expect the other to be a mindreader and then get resentful when the other doesn't do exactly what they're expecting. This is easily remedied by being open with each other and talking about it, particularly when it comes to sex.

Anyway, that is my advice to the OP.

I never even insinuated that OP was indecent.
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I never even insinuated that OP was indecent.
I didn't claim you did. You implied the OP's boyfriend was a **** and she needs to break up with him. That's not right. Anyway I've given my advice to the OP, it would be silly for us two to get into a dispute over a difference of opinion.

Peace
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Erm, just communicate this to him, rather than us? Just an idea. :beard:
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Were you jilted recently?
Never had a boyfriend actually, how was your daily ****? x
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I don't get it. So she should break up with him because he destroyed her during sex?
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Unfortunately, a lot of guys, especially the younger ones, have no real idea what is good for a woman. Many of them simply see what's in porn and assume that's how it goes and just concentrate on their own pleasure.

If you're going to continue having a thing with him you need to both sit down and talk about it. Then later just explore each other and learn what the other person enjoys. I know that can be a bit awkward, telling someone if that feels good or not, but obviously the guy is simply inexperienced and needs to learn how to do it so both parties enjoy it.

Everyone goes through their fair share of crap bed partners. And different things turn on different people. So a guy might have a lasting relationship where the girl teaches him that she enjoys it rough and he thinks that's how all girls work.

So basically just talk, even if it's really awkward.
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No relationship is going to have consistent great sex
You jest, surely?
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I don't actually see what he's done wrong lmao?

Sometimes when you're both giving movement it can be awkward to synchronise properly, so most of the time it's better if just one person is taking the lead (girl when she's on top, for example). Got nothing to do with being 'self-centered'.
I don't think you're understanding the actual problem lol. OP didn't have a problem with doing doggy or even him taking the lead (loads of girls like a dominant guy anyway) the problem is that it was actually centered around him and he didn't consider her at any point. There's a difference between the man taking the lead and the man only pleasing himself.

Hopefully that makes sense now, if it doesn't then.. ?
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the problem is that it was actually centered around him and he didn't consider her at any point.
She didn't give any good reason for us to think that the case, just that she had a 'feeling'
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So it happened this morning, the second time I've had sex since losing my virginity. We fooled around for a short amount of time (not long enough). I told him to put on a condom to prevent any accidents. Then within no time he put it in, it didn't hurt but i felt it more this time. When we moved positions for doggy he got really into it, whilst I struggled to keep in rhythm. He told me to relax whilst he did all the work which I did do. I felt like he mostly concentrated on getting himself off tbh and I was very disappointed that it ended so quickly.

I rolled over and tried to get some sleep whilst he tried to hug and kiss me. He leaned on me at one point and I told him to get off because I was in agony down there. He apologised for it and asked if he was a little too rough. I think he kind of forgot that I'm inexperienced. I kinda dragged myself around all morning and couldn't even go to the toilet because it hurt. I told him I thought we had sex too quickly and should of done more foreplay.
I still can't get over how self centred he was during though, I know it's my second time but shouldn't be be trying to get me to orgasm?
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