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    found 2 houses/flats for me and my girlfriend to view surprisingly hard to find places that aren't either taken or don't accept benefits though :/
    Well you sound like you're getting somewhere with it so well done! Hope they're nice
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    i only have 2 AS grades and 2 A level grades,

    did 3 in year 12, dropped one and took 2 through to year 13 then picked up another AS...

    so its deffinately ok!
    Thank you for the reply

    How have you been anyway, I haven't you in ages!?

    I hope you're fine.
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    Can't even watching cooking programs without feeling odd - watching somebody cutting into a joint of raw pork has made me feel all triggery and gross.
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    Hi guys,

    have any of you ever had a home visit from a member of your mental health team?

    I received a letter from mines and it seemed weird as I've been going to them in the past (albeit my last meeting went terribly, I sobbed uncontrollably). Obviously phoning them would help but anxiety and other stuff makes me put it off :/

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys,

    have any of you ever had a home visit from a member of your mental health team?

    I received a letter from mines and it seemed weird as I've been going to them in the past (albeit my last meeting went terribly, I sobbed uncontrollably). Obviously phoning them would help but anxiety and other stuff makes me put it off :/

    best.
    Yeah sometimes they like to do home visits, it might have been because of your last appointment going badly, nothing to worry about though.
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    Feeling really useless. I tried playing my bass yesterday and got so frustrated that I couldn't get a certain part of a song right, I think I might actually sell it because I'm crap, I've hardly progressed at all in the several years I've been playing.

    So there's that, then there's the fact I haven't got a job. I finished my masters in August, it's now mid-October and I've applied for exactly zero jobs. I'm pretty sure no one would hire me even if I applied, I mean who's going to hire some loser with a bunch of self-harm marks and who hears voices? I'm overweight, I'm ugly and my concentration level and social skills are appalling. But my wife keeps complaining about money, definitely gonna have to go into our savings this year. I want to get a job but I'm scared. I'm scared of rejection but also of acceptance. How's it gonna look if I do get a job and can't handle it? I mean I couldn't even handle volunteering, that was meant to be the first step and I quit after just a few times. I'm such a pathetic loser.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys,

    have any of you ever had a home visit from a member of your mental health team?

    I received a letter from mines and it seemed weird as I've been going to them in the past (albeit my last meeting went terribly, I sobbed uncontrollably). Obviously phoning them would help but anxiety and other stuff makes me put it off :/

    best.
    I have. :wavey: It was nothing to worry about, I think they just wanted to see me in a different enviroment because I get really really anxious about appointments. I have one tomorrow actually. Hope this helps! :hugs:
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Feeling really useless. I tried playing my bass yesterday and got so frustrated that I couldn't get a certain part of a song right, I think I might actually sell it because I'm crap, I've hardly progressed at all in the several years I've been playing.

    So there's that, then there's the fact I haven't got a job. I finished my masters in August, it's now mid-October and I've applied for exactly zero jobs. I'm pretty sure no one would hire me even if I applied, I mean who's going to hire some loser with a bunch of self-harm marks and who hears voices? I'm overweight, I'm ugly and my concentration level and social skills are appalling. But my wife keeps complaining about money, definitely gonna have to go into our savings this year. I want to get a job but I'm scared. I'm scared of rejection but also of acceptance. How's it gonna look if I do get a job and can't handle it? I mean I couldn't even handle volunteering, that was meant to be the first step and I quit after just a few times. I'm such a pathetic loser.
    Saber, you have an abundance of skills that employers consider highly valuable. Much of that is evidenced from your academic progression as an undergraduate and then when you got your masters. From your posts on TSR I can see how clearly you communicate and pass your knowledge on to others so that they too can learn - again valuable commodities. There will also a be another spectrum of transferable skills you have gained from the relationship you have built with your wife. I'm sure that you also possess many other fine qualities too.

    When you add all of that up, and look at that objectively as an employer, you could be their ideal man. Despite everything going on inside your head you kept battling for several years and got your degree. Despite everything going on inside your head you kept fighting, and through sheer bloody-mindedness, strength of character, a yearning to succeed, you created a method that worked and enabled you to get that treasured masters. Of course it ain't perfect dude, but nobody in life has it all nailed down. But that what makes it all so great. You can keep working on those areas that require improvement, that allow you to manage better and keep growing as a person, continually learning.

    What was your degree and master in btw?

    Can I PM you about this subject pls? Edit: I meant PM about the post topic, not the academic subject
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    (Original post by tasha96)
    I have. :wavey: It was nothing to worry about, I think they just wanted to see me in a different enviroment because I get really really anxious about appointments. I have one tomorrow actually. Hope this helps! :hugs:

    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Yeah sometimes they like to do home visits, it might have been because of your last appointment going badly, nothing to worry about though.
    Thank you both for your quick responses.

    Surprisingly the idea of them both coming over is making me **** scared. If I turned it down, do you think they'd get annoyed (I'd hate it if that gave off the "I'm too good for them" impression)?

    @Tasha96: hope your meeting goes well!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you both for your quick responses.

    Surprisingly the idea of them both coming over is making me **** scared. If I turned it down, do you think they'd get annoyed (I'd hate it if that gave off the "I'm too good for them" impression)?

    @Tasha96: hope your meeting goes well!
    I don't think it would be a problem unless you were deemed an imminent danger to yourself. I was in my EIS for three years and continuously refused to work with the home treatment team, or to have home visits from my CPN. My psychiatrist clearly thought I was weird but he never forced me to do anything I didn't want to do :nah:
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    Saber, you have an abundance of skills that employers consider highly valuable. Much of that is evidenced from your academic progression as an undergraduate and then when you got your masters. From your posts on TSR I can see how clearly you communicate and pass your knowledge on to others so that they too can learn - again valuable commodities. There will also a be another spectrum of transferable skills you have gained from the relationship you have built with your wife. I'm sure that you also possess many other fine qualities too.

    When you add all of that up, and look at that objectively as an employer, you could be their ideal man. Despite everything going on inside your head you kept battling for several years and got your degree. Despite everything going on inside your head you kept fighting, and through sheer bloody-mindedness, strength of character, a yearning to succeed, you created a method that worked and enabled you to get that treasured masters. Of course it ain't perfect dude, but nobody in life has it all nailed down. But that what makes it all so great. You can keep working on those areas that require improvement, that allow you to manage better and keep growing as a person, continually learning.

    What was your degree and master in btw?

    Can I PM you about this subject pls? Edit: I meant PM about the post topic, not the academic subject
    I don't remember the last time anyone described me in that way. You've actually made me feel really positive and want to apply for jobs. If someone else can think that about me, maybe an employer might feel the same. Thanks a lot.

    Of course you can PM me.
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    I can see that it would be. I for one love it. It's made mornings easier by far. I'm not a great fan of that sort of lighting either most of the time, it's kinda dim and depressing but it wakes me up enough that i can whack open the curtain to let more light in so it's all good :P
    lol that's handy
    Lol, good that it helps. I was kinda tempted to get a special SAD light but the prices put me off :eek:. Although since then I've found that missing my meds is a significant contributor to me feeling down.
    Yeah it was, it was a work light underneath the shelves above the desk and I'd been really tempted to replace the tube myself luckily they replaced it, the fixture makes a buzzing noise when switched on and there was no point in installing a new tube. However they didn't replace my bathroom light while they were there even though I'd informed there of it :rolleyes:, it has been flickering for 3 weeks although it has only really got worse in the last week. That means all three lights in my room have been replaced in 2 weeks (the room light gave up one morning as well ).

    (Original post by ParadoxSocks)
    Can't even watching cooking programs without feeling odd - watching somebody cutting into a joint of raw pork has made me feel all triggery and gross.
    :console: That's a bit of a shame, I don't like looking at raw meat either, and I eat meat. Hope you are feeling ok otherwise!
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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    I don't think it would be a problem unless you were deemed an imminent danger to yourself. I was in my EIS for three years and continuously refused to work with the home treatment team, or to have home visits from my CPN. My psychiatrist clearly thought I was weird but he never forced me to do anything I didn't want to do :nah:
    EIS = Early intervention service
    CPN = Community psychiatric nurse?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you both for your quick responses.

    Surprisingly the idea of them both coming over is making me **** scared. If I turned it down, do you think they'd get annoyed (I'd hate it if that gave off the "I'm too good for them" impression)?

    @Tasha96: hope your meeting goes well!
    No, I doubt they'd be annoyed. You have the right to refuse.
    I promise you though, it's not as bad as it feels right now (not trying to make you do it btw. :hugs: ) I was terrified at first, but once we got chatting I found I was a lot more relaxed and open with them than if I had gone in to see them. :yes:
    Thank you! :hugs:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you both for your quick responses.

    Surprisingly the idea of them both coming over is making me **** scared. If I turned it down, do you think they'd get annoyed (I'd hate it if that gave off the "I'm too good for them" impression)?

    @Tasha96: hope your meeting goes well!
    I don't think they'll get annoyed but I'd give it a try (having them come over). It's nice to be able to drink tea while talking to them. :cool: (although if you can, try and arrange to meet in a mcdonald's then you can drink milkshake while talking that's good too! )
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Surprisingly the idea of them both coming over is making me **** scared. If I turned it down, do you think they'd get annoyed (I'd hate it if that gave off the "I'm too good for them" impression)?
    Most people working for mental health are professional and will possess the ability to empathise. They will understand it is sometimes difficult and that the patient may not want to let them in. It's not a problem.


    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    I don't think they'll get annoyed but I'd give it a try (having them come over). It's nice to be able to drink tea while talking to them. :cool: (although if you can, try and arrange to meet in a mcdonald's then you can drink milkshake while talking that's good too! )
    Meeting outside in a neutral environment and chatting over a drink and snack can be a really effective in making people feel relaxed and works for many. Having said that, I once went to a diner with my mental health worker for a coffee and a chat and ended up bawling my eyes out in front of loads of people. Now I just let them in my front door, regardless of how sh**ty I feel.
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    Cant stop crying :bawling:


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    I have that horrible sinking feeling. Been free from depression for over a year and am worried that this is all starting to begin again. Had moments over the past few days where I have felt so horrible, cycling past car and wondering what it would be like if I just went to the side a bit and in front of the car. I am in my final year of university now and I don't want this to hinder my progress but keep getting that feeling inside like I am about to burst from the outside in. Currently lying on the floor trying to calm down.
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    Cant stop crying :bawling:


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    :hugs: :loveduck: :hugs:

    What's up?
    Uni stress, job stress... Blahhh


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