another acorn ramble...
So I was thinking about race last night.. because of a thread on here about white privalidge.
Through my life, I have lived in 4 types of places:
1 - countryside, 100% white british, very few people, no problems, very traditional.
2 - town, 90% white british, larger more people, few problems, averagly traditional.
3 - diverse london university, 50% white british, loads of people, still very few problems, very modern.
4 - northern town, 80% white, lots of people, lots of problems, pretty modern.
i find myself torn a lot.. because there is a huge part of me that idolises the first two.. they were where I grew up as a child, lovely places, still had a lot of what I grew up viewing as english culture. though should be more specifically viewed as 'southern countryside english culture' as its not at all applicable to english cities/more modern places, and quite different from northern culture/tradition. -- but they not diverse at all. a close friend of mine was sikh, indian origin, and until I was 16, was my only non-white friend.. in my school, there were probably 6-10 non-white students out of over two thousand..
And yes, there was a fair bit of rasicsm.. a lot of older people in the areas, had never had any exposer to other cultures, or properly met anyone from a different race, so as an enviroment it bread intolerance.. because all those people knew about other races where what they read in the papers and saw on the news, which was never good.. (imagine your whole knowledge of islam comes from the daily mail)
now what I have been thinking about lately, is that it seems quite natrual that people who were happy with their childhood, want their children to grow up in a similar enviroment to them. You see it all the time..
'I wish my child could have grown up in the 90s, with all our culture'
' I wish my child could have grown up without phones/internet'
' I wish my child could have grown up when I did, where it was safe to play outside and leave your door unlocked'
They are all quite common opinions, and stem from our desire to give our children a good childhood.. and the only way many of us know how to do that, is drawing from either our own good childhood, or trying to make sure its different from our own bad childhood. It also stems, with technology, from what we view as acceptable for a child.
For my age (23) a computer + phone was a teenage thing. Most people were getting their first phones around 11-15, and mots people I know started using the internet and computers to al large degree, wen they were around that age also. - so thats what I view it as, something apropriate for a teenager.. but my idea of childhood is entirely without technologoy, because thats what I had (bar games consoles and things)
For my parents generation, a computer and phone are adult things.. because that is when they first experianced them, etc.
So what I am getting at is that it seems fairly normal for us all to have an internal fight between what we view is best for a child (based on our own experiances as a child) and the current state of modern life, and how children are raised now.. (see 3 year olds with ipads and such)
for me, a part of this though is that looking at the areas I grew up in, and where I would want to live..
They would be great for me. but my wife is not white, and our kids will not be white. so would it be best for my kids to grow up in an area that I know is fairly racist in places.. and I know that they will be a tiny minority.. an area that my wife will probably never have a larger community of people from her country that she can spend time with, and my kids will never really get to see that much of their mothers culture..
I have kind of lost track of where I am going with this.. but I guess until I got married, I always presumed that my children would be white, and my ideals about how I would build a family were based around that.. and I guess its only dawning on me now, that there will be a large number of considerations that i will have to factor in, now I may someday be raising a child that comes from two very different cultures, and will likely face problems in their life that I have never experianced or even worried about..