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    (Original post by Cinnie)
    Aunt just came into my room, started crying, said she has to tell me something because it's been on her mind constantly. Said that she was really upset that my boyfriend came to stay when they were on holiday and i didn't tell them before hand. It was a last-minute decision and they were already away. Now I feel awful. Am I in the wrong? Be honest.

    I am 22 and paying rent for this room, and she said before that I could have people over whenever I wanted.
    Wouldn't say you are in the wrong at all.
    If she had said that, then I really don't see the issue.
    It would have been courteous to say beforehand, but if you didn't know then there isn't much you could have done.
    Why is she upset by it anyway? A bit annoyed I can understand, but upset and crying? :confused:
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    (Original post by Cinnie)
    Aunt just came into my room, started crying, said she has to tell me something because it's been on her mind constantly. Said that she was really upset that my boyfriend came to stay when they were on holiday and i didn't tell them before hand. It was a last-minute decision and they were already away. Now I feel awful. Am I in the wrong? Be honest.

    I am 22 and paying rent for this room, and she said before that I could have people over whenever I wanted.
    I'd say it would have been best to send them a message just to check and be polite, but she shouldn't have said you could have people over whenever if she didn't mean it. So you're not in the wrong I reckon, but I'd be more cautious in future.
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    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    Wouldn't say you are in the wrong at all.
    If she had said that, then I really don't see the issue.
    It would have been courteous to say beforehand, but if you didn't know then there isn't much you could have done.
    Why is she upset by it anyway? A bit annoyed I can understand, but upset and crying? :confused:
    She's a very very emotional person. Cries at everything. Blames menopause.
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    how can you beat anxiety and paranoia?
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    (Original post by superwolf)
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    Apparently it made her feel vulnerable. Idk. Yes I should have checked. But if they were already away if wouldn't have made a difference. I don't know. But yeah I probably should have asked.
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    :hugs: Hope you'll be ok.
    Thanks :hugs: She's being really tasteful about it actually once I'd calmed down. Bit triggery but it's all good.

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    Woke up remembering ex calling me ****ty things, not great…doesn't help I'm on ESA lying in bed today lol

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    spoiled, selfish brat, don't know how lucky I am, stop moaning about my problems, let people down, 'weren't there when I needed you'
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    (Original post by Anonymous #2)
    I hope you get yourself sorted Laura :hugs:

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    Tearing up in my lecture, really don't feel good. It's about MH problems and it's making me uncomfortable
    Thank you, feel free to vent to me if you need to!
    (Original post by WelshBluebird)
    To be fair when I have had to phone 111 they were bloody useless so not sure if that would actually be any help for you Laura!
    Btw, you do know you will probably never live that one down?
    As long as you are kind of ok now though!
    I don't even wanna think about it rn :lol:
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    (Original post by games211)
    how can you beat anxiety and paranoia?
    Are you getting professional help? Your GP is usually the best place to start.

    There are medications which can help with both issues, and also various talking therapies or lifestyle changes that might help.

    There was a fantastic thread made a while ago on coping with anxiety - I'd really recommend giving it a read and having a think about how you can change things for yourself.
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    Are you getting professional help? Your GP is usually the best place to start.

    There are medications which can help with both issues, and also various talking therapies or lifestyle changes that might help.

    There was a fantastic thread made a while ago on coping with anxiety - I'd really recommend giving it a read and having a think about how you can change things for yourself.
    but wont medications have side effects
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    (Original post by games211)
    but wont medications have side effects
    There's always the risk of side-effects, yes, but it would be up to you and your doctor to weigh up whether the pros outweighed the cons. Not all people experience side-effects from every drug, and each drug has a different side-effect profile. I'd definitely see your doctor to discuss treatment, whether or not that includes medication.
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    Been given a volunteering start date, but it's while I'm down visiting my sister. :facepalm: Have emailed for a different date.
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    (Original post by superwolf)
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    You are magic, and yes I cried. :lovehug:
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    (Original post by tasha96)
    You are magic, and yes I cried. :lovehug:
    :blush: :blush: :blush:
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    (Original post by Asexual Demigod)
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    I might as well just kill myself now then. I don't want to live a life full of paranoia, social phobia, depression, anxiety and personality disorder related difficulties. I just want that **** to go away. My psychologist will stop seeing me if I don't go to social groups but people are the problem; they make me ill by mistreating me, neglecting me and abandoning me...
    Sorry you're feeling so bad. :console: Could you spoiler this though please? Could be triggering. :sadnod:
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    (Original post by superwolf)
    :blush: :blush: :blush:
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    (Original post by tasha96)
    :loveduck:

    You deserve all the fun stuff and more. :suith:
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    Finished lecture, had an introductory one to the central nervous system and its already confused me :lol:


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    (Original post by Odd socks)
    Finished lecture, had an introductory one to the central nervous system and its already confused me :lol:


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    welcome to the past 6 weeks of my life :lol:
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    (Original post by Asexual Demigod)
    Then why are you laughing at someone deriding me?
    I was laughing at the emoticon.

    If you're going to post here, follow the rules.

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