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    (Original post by spiral87)
    I went clubbing on my own again last night, came across people I saw back on the NYE club event, made more friends, nearly got with another girl (she asked for my number at the end), life is good!
    See I could never do that, let alone go clubbing on my own


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    (Original post by Jack22031994)
    See I could never do that, let alone go clubbing on my own
    Why not?
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    Why not?
    First of I would feel uncomfortable going to a club in my own

    Second - due to lack of confidence I do t think I could make friends like that

    Thirdly, personally I think I would feel uncomfortable getting with a girl outside of a relationship (never have though so I may think differently if it happened)


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    Well i'd get whatever it is in your eye out of it Or are you trying to provide me a seductive wink? :mmm:

    Pfft I like the fact it's you who put the twist on it obviously!
    Aaaah what gave it away?

    Because I'm special? n'awww you cutie!




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    Aaaah what gave it away?

    Because I'm special? n'awww you cutie!




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    It's the way you love me totes

    There's only one of you in the world (like everyone else) and you're so great that one is enough Something everyone can say :yep:
    I'll be a little more discreet next time

    It could just be because I'm tired, but I read the second half of that message 4 times and couldn't for the life of me understand it


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    (Original post by Jack22031994)
    First of I would feel uncomfortable going to a club in my own

    Second - due to lack of confidence I do t think I could make friends like that

    Thirdly, personally I think I would feel uncomfortable getting with a girl outside of a relationship (never have though so I may think differently if it happened)


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    First off, so do I. I've gone twice alone now, both times I thought before I went "Why the **** am I doing this? What is the point?" And then friendships just happen. People talk to you. Stand on your own anywhere in these places and people will approach. Especially if you smoke. A lot of these people are regulars, you'll see them week in week out. They'll introduce you to more people. It'll build your confidence,

    Third point...well, eventually desire to f*** takes over. I personally wonder why I was ever so uptight about how I get with girls. It's hard enough meeting someone decent, so you might as well do it when and how you can, so long as you find them attractive and they you. I personally thought before that giving myself away to a ONS was 'losing' in some way, but it's not at all. What a great compliment that you're good looking enough and talk the right talk that you can get a girl to fall for you within hours rather than days or weeks. Although my general feeling is that it's a heat of the moment thing, the next day you add them on Facebook, you see what they look like again and the attraction is gone. And that's great because you don't feel upset if it doesn't work out, you're not crippled by loneliness when they're not around and if they find somebody else, who cares? Welcome to temporary, disposable love.
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    I'll be a little more discreet next time

    It could just be because I'm tired, but I read the second half of that message 4 times and couldn't for the life of me understand it


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    That can only happen if I ever leave

    Basically i'm saying there is only one of you in this world and because of how great you are, one is enough because then the world would be spoiled. That's something that everyone can say about themselves too
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    (Original post by IDukem)
    That can only happen if I ever leave

    Basically i'm saying there is only one of you in this world and because of how great you are, one is enough because then the world would be spoiled. That's something that everyone can say about themselves too
    And you aren't leaving anytime soon

    N'awww thank you Dukeeeey :hugs:


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    (Original post by spiral87)
    First off, so do I. I've gone twice alone now, both times I thought before I went "Why the **** am I doing this? What is the point?" And then friendships just happen. People talk to you. Stand on your own anywhere in these places and people will approach. Especially if you smoke. A lot of these people are regulars, you'll see them week in week out. They'll introduce you to more people. It'll build your confidence,

    Third point...well, eventually desire to f*** takes over. I personally wonder why I was ever so uptight about how I get with girls. It's hard enough meeting someone decent, so you might as well do it when and how you can, so long as you find them attractive and they you. I personally thought before that giving myself away to a ONS was 'losing' in some way, but it's not at all. What a great compliment that you're good looking enough and talk the right talk that you can get a girl to fall for you within hours rather than days or weeks. Although my general feeling is that it's a heat of the moment thing, the next day you add them on Facebook, you see what they look like again and the attraction is gone. And that's great because you don't feel upset if it doesn't work out, you're not crippled by loneliness when they're not around and if they find somebody else, who cares? Welcome to temporary, disposable love.
    I see what you mean and it does seem easier for smokers to socialise (I don't smoke)

    I do feel more confident for this year though


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    (Original post by spiral87)
    First off, so do I. I've gone twice alone now, both times I thought before I went "Why the **** am I doing this? What is the point?" And then friendships just happen. People talk to you. Stand on your own anywhere in these places and people will approach. Especially if you smoke. A lot of these people are regulars, you'll see them week in week out. They'll introduce you to more people. It'll build your confidence,

    Third point...well, eventually desire to f*** takes over. I personally wonder why I was ever so uptight about how I get with girls. It's hard enough meeting someone decent, so you might as well do it when and how you can, so long as you find them attractive and they you. I personally thought before that giving myself away to a ONS was 'losing' in some way, but it's not at all. What a great compliment that you're good looking enough and talk the right talk that you can get a girl to fall for you within hours rather than days or weeks. Although my general feeling is that it's a heat of the moment thing, the next day you add them on Facebook, you see what they look like again and the attraction is gone. And that's great because you don't feel upset if it doesn't work out, you're not crippled by loneliness when they're not around and if they find somebody else, who cares? Welcome to temporary, disposable love.
    Yeah I'm gonna second this, although I often have a wingman. Quick disposable one off loving is the way to go, and if it turns into something more then even better. It's easier than it looks too, im average looking and with a bit of Dutch courage I've stood at a bar and seen a girl I though was hot and gone over to her, danced around a bit badly, initiated contact by holding their hands and pretending it was part of the dance then voila next thing you know youre making out with them.


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    And you aren't leaving anytime soon

    N'awww thank you Dukeeeey :hugs:


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    What if I am?

    No worrrriesss darlin' Don't let other people douse your fire and even if they do, rise above the ashes like a fire phoenix and soar higher than ever before :hugs:
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    What if I am?

    No worrrriesss darlin' Don't let other people douse your fire and even if they do, rise above the ashes like a fire phoenix and soar higher than ever before :hugs:
    Are you high dude?

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    What if I am?

    No worrrriesss darlin' Don't let other people douse your fire and even if they do, rise above the ashes like a fire phoenix and soar higher than ever before :hugs:
    You wouldn't do that to me

    N'awww someone's being nice and friendly tonight! Wise words m'dearrr


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    When's your party?



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    (Original post by james1211)
    Are you high dude?

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    I have Rock of Ages on at the same times where Stacee Jaxx is talking about a fire phoenix

    (Original post by itssimplyme)
    You wouldn't do that to me

    N'awww someone's being nice and friendly tonight! Wise words m'dearrr


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    Well you never know, things can change

    Wow that implies that this is the firts time i'm being friendly :unimpressed: Thank you!
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    When's your party?



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    I decided not to go tonight

    It would have started 7 minutes ago though hehe :') Evening in on TSR got anything planned for tonight?


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    I see what you mean and it does seem easier for smokers to socialise (I don't smoke)

    I do feel more confident for this year though
    I didn't smoke either until last night, but then I'm home today and I feel fine, I don't need it, so it's cool. If your friends smoke they'll ask you to hang in the smoking area with them while you talk, so you really don't need them.

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    Yeah I'm gonna second this, although I often have a wingman. Quick disposable one off loving is the way to go, and if it turns into something more then even better. It's easier than it looks too, im average looking and with a bit of Dutch courage I've stood at a bar and seen a girl I though was hot and gone over to her, danced around a bit badly, initiated contact by holding their hands and pretending it was part of the dance then voila next thing you know youre making out with them.
    Wingmen are overrated, you leave them in limbo when you actually get with someone and if they like the same girl as you, you only cockblock each other.

    As for holding hands, that's the key to the whole thing! Breaking the touch barrier makes all the difference. If you can put your arm around her to bring her closer while you chat (over the noise of the loud music), suddenly she begins to feel comfortable. Then you can reel her in closer like a fish on a line, touch her a little more for a little longer. Move your hands from her shoulder to her waist. Introduce your other hand. Before long you're basically embraced, talking into each other's ears and it's only a matter of time. It works SO well. Unless they're not interested in which case the initial touch will make them feel mildly uncomfortable and they'll pull away and that's your cue to give up.

    Do you wait for any signs before approaching though James? I don't hit on girls unless they give me 'the look', or like last night, we were just in the smoking area and got talking.
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    (Original post by IDukem)
    Well you never know, things can change

    Wow that implies that this is the firts time i'm being friendly :unimpressed: Thank you!
    You're too nice, you wouldn't leave me

    Hahaha, I'm joking sweeeetie!



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    I decided not to go tonight

    It would have started 7 minutes ago though hehe :') Evening in on TSR got anything planned for tonight?


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    Aww ok - no I don't - probs be on here.

    Have no idea what to talk about though really


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