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    wait I'm lost...are you Muslim or your boyfriend?
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    (Original post by satisfactionatlast)
    wait I'm lost...are you Muslim or your boyfriend?
    we're both muslim by name
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    don't listen to all the heartless d***s. chill. alot of people say "never" in the heat of a moment. dont take ur dad to heart too much. you can still see him at college, and maybe you dont HAVE to smoke with him even if u feel that way.
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    (Original post by CountMancula)
    Created a second account to back your post up OP? "I love shopping" sounds similar to "I love life" haha.

    Your trolling is about as subtle as an elephant in a kitchen.
    I'm a different person actually :rolleyes:

    I cannot believe how cynical some people can be!
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    If that was me and my parents forced me to choose, I would choose my boyfriend. Can't you just leave with him? If he wants to marry you, move out and declare yourselves homeless! I'm sure there is help out there for you both.
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    (Original post by princessnavi22)
    If that was me and my parents forced me to choose, I would choose my boyfriend. Can't you just leave with him? If he wants to marry you, move out and declare yourselves homeless! I'm sure there is help out there for you both.
    no i can't choose, i love them both, im the only child, i really can't do that to my parents..and we are both doing A2 now, i dont wana mess up his education he has applied to AAA course and needs to get his grades, i have to do well in my exams too
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    Your dad is a ****
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    (Original post by I-love-life)
    no i can't choose, i love them both, im the only child, i really can't do that to my parents..and we are both doing A2 now, i dont wana mess up his education he has applied to AAA course and needs to get his grades, i have to do well in my exams too
    See him behind your parents back for now, just lie. My friend is in a similar situation.

    Then when you aren't dependent on your parents, get out as early as you can and be with him.
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    (Original post by I-love-life)
    my parents had an arrange marriage, yea my dad propa lyked him b4, he is jus really angry now becoz he has all these images of me and him being together behind his back, my dad always called him son and really trusted him. this is why he is so angry and hates him
    That's a shame! I'm sure your dad doesn't hate him, but more betrayed in a sense, because your relationship was hidden. If his family are going to try to persuade your father to keep the relationship going, and I'm sure they are both Muslim too, would they not have the same morals as your father? If they are okay with it, why isn't he ? I hope your boyfriend's parents could talk your father into this.
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    I'm actually surprised your dad even let you have him as a best friend.. I mean for most Muslim parents that would be a nono and if he allowed that his reaction to you having a bf was a bit extreme.
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    (Original post by Rizzletastic)
    See him behind your parents back for now, just lie. My friend is in a similar situation.

    Then when you aren't dependent on your parents, get out as early as you can and be with him.
    I'll try but we go to different colleges and my dad will drop and pick me up everyday im grounded and can't go out, i have a part time job and he said that i have to quit my job since i dont really need the money
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    Safe, so no more threads
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    (Original post by DanielleT192)
    That's a shame! I'm sure your dad doesn't hate him, but more betrayed in a sense, because your relationship was hidden. If his family are going to try to persuade your father to keep the relationship going, and I'm sure they are both Muslim too, would they not have the same morals as your father? If they are okay with it, why isn't he ? I hope your boyfriend's parents could talk your father into this.
    yeah my cuz spoke to my bf today and she told me that he is gna talk to his parents and ask them to come and have a chat with my dad. they are muslim too but they were ok with us going out, they saw no harm as our relationship was serious to begin with and i really have helped my bf to become a better person during this last 2 years, his parents adore me
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    (Original post by I-love-life)
    Hey as u can see from my previous thread (http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1479372) my dad asked me to break up with my bf today and I did.. I called him this morning, my dad was in my room while i called him,
    My bf: hey u ok?
    Me: couldn’t stop crying and told him i need to see him today
    My bf: babe is everything ok? Why u crying?
    Me: can’t explain now but u need to come over to mine today, my dad wants us to break up, u need to come to my house now.
    My bf: what!!! Why, we haven’t done anything wrong
    (this whole convo was on loud speaker)
    My dad shouts: u haven’t done anything wrong??? can u do as your told and get here now.
    My bf: hello uncle, yes I will come over right now.
    So this was at 7 in the morning today, my bf didn’t go coll and came to my house around 8.
    He got here and sat in my living room waiting for my dad. My dad came in and the second he saw my bf, he went crazy, whyyy?? Becuase he knows my bf but he never taught that anything was going on between us, he thought that he was best mate and was lyk a bro to me,.
    My dad sat down and my bf said: hello uncle,
    My dad: don’t fcking call me ur uncle, u basterd, i trusted u, i loved u lyk my own son and u go and this behind my back.
    My bf: I’m very sorry, we are both very sorry but the only reason we lied to u and aunty was because we knew u would be against this relationship
    My dad: i don’t want to hear anything, I want you two to end it now and never speak to each other again..
    I was crying the whole time
    My bf: I’m very sorry for speaking but we really do love each other, why don’t u wana hear us out, what me and (my name) have is more than a crash. I am very proud to say that i love your daughter and I will do anything to be with her,
    My dad: are u going to shut up or do i need to kick u out. Lyk i said no more talking., I want u to leave now,
    My bf: can u just explain to us, why we need to end it? I want to marry ur daughter when I finish my degree, I understand me and (my name) have done things in the past against your wish, culture and religion. And we are very sorry and I am very sorry if I have been a bad influence to ur daughter in any way, but now we are both grown ups, love each other and want to have a future together, If u let me I want to ask for ur daughter’s hand right here right now?
    My dad: hahahaha u think u can ask for her hand and I will hand her over to u? U must think im stupid? Get out of my house, and don’t ever come around.
    I was so shocked, couldn’t believe my bf just asked my dad that, I was crying so much, couldn’t even speak, I wanted to go and give him a hug, can’t believe he just officially asked my dad if he i can marry him :O
    Anyway my bf looked at me and his eyes were filled my tears, he couldn’t even hug or kiss me good bye, my dad is so heartless, even my mum had tears in her eyes. I really do love my bf, i never actually thought that he loved me this much and tried to talk to my dad, my dad was very angry, so angry that even my mum didn’t have the guts to talk to him to this morning. I stil can’t stop crying, I didn’t sleep all last night, and can’t stop thinking about my bf, it is officially over now my dad told my mum: tell her to forget this guy, nothing will ever happen between them, unless im dead and she can go and do whatever she wants. I will never let her be with this guy, because they have both lied to me and broken my trust, tell her the sooner she gets over him the better for all of us, he even said Im sure that basterd is with another girl right now!!! How can he say this im so upset, my mum can’t even help me out, I was begging her to try and persuade my dad somehow And let me at least do nikah (Islamic marriage) with my bf, if this is the only way we can be 2gether but he said NEVER!!! She has to choose me or him!! I don’t know what to do?


    MY BF IS NOT MY CUZ< HE ONLY CALLS MY DAD UNCLE TO SHOW HE RESPECTS HIM, IT's A MUSLIM/ASIAN/ME THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Hey There can be right wierdo's who sit here dissing what people say.. its like get off the thread then!

    I've never been in your situation ever.. so can't even imagine what you must be going through.. but i dont know.. if you and him truly love each other and are made for each other.. you will work out trust me what will happen will ALWAYS happen.. nothing or nobody can change that.. not even your dad lol If he truly loves you which its quite evident that he does.. im sure he'll wait and keep waiting.. hopefully your dads heart will melt and he may see that.. and like I said just stay optimistic because what ever is written to happen will always happan

    Hope things work out for you..
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    (Original post by I-love-life)
    wtf?? troll!! no im not a troll, ffs i have other threads about this issue, it's not something that i just made up now coz im bored..
    What religion is your boyfriend? Sikh/hindu?

    Also no trollin here but if your dad said this can only go through when he is dead I say get the kitchen knife...
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    (Original post by Uzzy?)
    I'm actually surprised your dad even let you have him as a best friend.. I mean for most Muslim parents that would be a nono and if he allowed that his reaction to you having a bf was a bit extreme.
    Thats quite true that (having him as a best friend).. my parents wouldn't be keen on that at all.
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    (Original post by TinFish)
    What religion is your boyfriend? Sikh/hindu?

    Also no trollin here but if your dad said this can only go through when he is dead I say get the kitchen knife...
    You seriously are not funny!
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    (Original post by I-love-life)
    hey thanks for being nice we've bn together for two years now, my bf will take me back, it's not lyk we wanted to break up, my dad wanted us to, we had no problems and everything was perfect before this honestly my bf is the only person who gets me and makes me happy. no one understands me lyk him, he is everything that ive ever wanted and now ive lost him bcoz of my dad, i know my bf will do something. my cousin came over to my house, she goes to the same school as my bf's...she told me that my bf is getting his parents to come to my house to talk to my dad, his parents are more understanding and they knew about us from day one, so hopefully they can fix this mess
    This is scarily similar to what could happen to me and my boyfriend.. He's white, I'm Sri Lankan and my parents don't approve of him. His parents are completely fine and know me fairly well. I haven't told my parents that we've been together for nearly two years.. I don't know how to pick the right moment. Did you tell your parents from the beginning?? Just stay strong and don't let your parents make you lose him. Hopefully his parents will be able to help. I would feel bad though, if my boyfriend's parents have to get involved
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    (Original post by Rosi M)
    Thats quite true that (having him as a best friend).. my parents wouldn't be keen on that at all.
    yh but my parents have known him for a long time now, and they are ok with guy friends as long as they get to meet them..also my parents know i dont have many girl friends since girls dnt lyk me much, this is da only reason they are ok with guy friends..and my bf used to helped me out in my school work a lot and my parents were ok with this, since they knew him and liked him a lot.
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    Ok I have the diagnosis... Your dads an a$$ hole.
 
 
 
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