Original post by Neil_K**** whether or not a girl 'has a boyfriend'. Often, it's a bull**** line they come out with by default. It means nothing. It's usually just a test....
ALL women use this comeback on men at some point in their lives, and I'm pleased to tell you that when a woman says 'I've got a boyfriend', it's not always a problem!
Anyway, so why DO girls tell you they have a boyfriend? Well I think the first question should be 'Should I be asking girls if they have a boyfriend or not?'. Well, after many years doing this and much reflection, I've come to the conclusion that women lie an awful lot. If you ask a girl when you first meet her 'Do you have a boyfriend?' or 'What's your relationship situation?' or 'Are you single?', there is no guarantee you will get a truthful answer.
Some girls will genuinely be single and tell you that. Others will genuinely be taken, and tell you that. Other girls will 'pretend' to have a boyfriend so as to not seem easy or to 'test' how persistant you are. Heck, some girls will even pretend they're single if they really like you enough. I really have seen it all with their lies...
Either way, the bottom line is THERE IS NO WAY TO TELL IF A GIRL REALLY DOES HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR NOT, EVEN IF YOU ASK HER.
You might think you're being really morally correct to ask if she's got a boyfriend, but since you can't take a woman's answer to the question 'Do you have a boyfriend?' at face value, it really is futile to ask.
The solution, then, is to simply assume she doesn't have a boyfriend. Do NOT ask her if she is taken. Just approach her as you normally would. If she brings up the boyfriend objection at any point, ignore her and carry on as normal. You should know that I don't advocate sticking around too long trying to make conversation with a girl you've just met; I advocate approaching Direct and giving her your business card and telling her to call you when she's not busy. It's very unlikely you'll get the boyfriend objection from this kind of approach, although it does sometimes happen.
Once you've started giving out your business card to many girls a week, you'll naturally weed out the ones who want you from the ones who don't.
If a girl DOES give you the boyfriend objection, there are several 'comebacks' you can use. I usually tell them 'Well maybe it's time you upgraded to a MAN-friend instead of BOY-friend then!' Women say they want a MAN, not a boy, so I'm giving them the perfect opportunity!
As you now realise, the whole line 'I've got a boyfriend' is very ambiguous. It might be true, it might not. Since you're not a mind-reader and you haven't got a crystal ball that tells you whether she's lying or not, all you can do is do your approach as normal and then see how it pans out.
Once girls start calling you, you might get girls tell you they have a boyfriend but still want to see you. This is where things get a bit 'dodgy'. I've been on dates with girls who have boyfriends before, and it usually doesn't turn out pretty since the boyfriend usually gets jealous and starts hating me.
If a girl is in a monogamous relationship with a guy, yet is willing to cheat with someone she's just met, that proves she's dishonest, untrustworthy and doesn't respect her boyfriend. Would you really want to go out with a girl who is a liar and who you can't trust? **** no! We're real men, we don't put up with that ****.
But if you don't know if she's got a boyfriend and you see her, it's not your problem. If you've asked her, or better still not asked her, and she hasn't mentioned a boyfriend, ASSUME SHE DOESN'T HAVE ONE AND CARRY ON AS NORMAL.
I've found this the best way to handle the 'boyfriend' problem.
Also, there's another few points I want to make. A lot of girls are 'sort of seeing' guys, but are not that seriously involved with those guys. They will often refer to those guys as 'boyfriends', but in reality they are just beta guys that the girl is seeing until someone better and more alpha (like me or you!) comes along. So even if a girl says she 'has a boyfriend', you are most likely to be far more alpha and far more exciting than him anyway.
Anyway, a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship is not a marriage...who cares if she's got a boyfriend...you are the kind of man she's looking for, her 'borefriend' is probably just that, boring and predictable.
Most guys don't know how to handle disrespect or bad behaviour from women, and therefore end up letting a woman control them and take control of the relationship. Women lose attraction and respect for these guys. Also, most men are very bad in bed. They don't know how to give women orgasms. So guys, next time you hear the 'I've got a boyfriend' line, just smile, say to her 'Well maybe it's time you upgraded to a MAN-friend', and then give her your business card and tell her you'd love to get to know her and tell her to give you a call when she's not too busy.
Odds are she's either lying about 'having a boyfriend', or she's in an unhappy/unsatisfying relationship....in which case all the more reason for you to carry on as normal with her.
Good luck!