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    (Original post by anoon)
    I have cheated, every single time. Idk why and what happens to me..There comes a point when I cheat. in Every single relationship I have ever been in. Never actually been caught ever. But I just cant commit to one guy!
    Stop getting into relationships before one of your boyfriends finds out and shoots you.
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    Nope. I've in a few committed relationships and have never come close to doing it.

    This should be irrelevant but unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to trust bisexuals, thinking that in a relationship we cannot be satisfied and will spend the whole time pining over the gender we're not with. I am bisexual and have never considered cheating, no matter the gender of the person I'm in a relationship with or the person who I could cheat with. I don't miss the other gender; when in a relationship, you just sort of swing towards that person. I just wanted to mention that really, because it's a stereotype that bugs me and it's sort of related to the thread (i.e. people assuming bisexuals will cheat).
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)


    Hmm.. I guess if you didn't want to lose that person then that makes sense. Methinks I'd rather a partner of mine cheated on me because she found someone she felt closer to/made her happier, than just acted like a slutbag with a random.. but then I'm male, and strangely philosophical about these things :beard:

    Note: many women giving lack of emotional investment as a reason to stray - doesn't really wash with me unless someone is literally a prisoner in a relationship
    Maybe it's of the differences between men and women I just-especially when alcohol's involved you can do things you wouldn't normally do and not consider the consequences-and still be in love with the person you're with.If somebody's being closer to someone emotionally (like I was) then it indicates a far more complex problem-that relationships' not right.

    About the using emotional thing as a reason-I agree, I wasn't trapped.I should have left because I wasn't happy-I tried to more than once and he was always promising to change, my fault also for being naive and ass over other bits infatuated-I'd never let a man treat me like that again so I don't suppose the issue will reoccur
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    (Original post by dennisraymondsmith)
    Its common knowledge really
    It's common knowledge that we only use 10% of our brains too.

    Thing is that 'fact' is a lie, we use almost all our brain capacity.

    Just because a load of people say something doesn't make it true.
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    (Original post by Zuki)
    Sister cheated in AS biology exam
    What UMS did she get?
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    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    Maybe it's of the differences between men and women
    Yup, and contrasting attitudes towards members of the opposite sex engaging in coitus

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    especially when alcohol's involved you can do things you wouldn't normally do and not consider the consequences
    Sure you can, but do you really think inebriation is an excuse - if a boyfriend cheated when he was tipsy/drunk would that really soften the blow?

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    still be in love with the person you're with
    Call me old fashioned but my conception of what it is to be in love would mean thoughts of intimacy with others would make one physically sick

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    If somebody's being closer to someone emotionally (like I was) then it indicates a far more complex problem-that relationships' not right
    Indeed it does, which threatens your relationship and perhaps reflects that it is more seriously lacking than a 'brief encounter', but the later reflects worse on the character of the transgressor, which in turn reflects pretty poorly on you (judge of character).. so it's a tricky one!

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    I should have left because I wasn't happy-I tried to more than once and he was always promising to change, my fault also for being naive and ass over other bits infatuated-I'd never let a man treat me like that again so I don't suppose the issue will reoccur
    Ha, took me a few seconds to get "ass over other bits infatuated"

    You wouldn't be the first youngling to wind up in that situation, nor indeed the first to 'cheat' (didn't sound as if you did tbh). At least you seem to have learnt from it and developed an awareness/resolve that you otherwise might not have done aye We do learn some of our most valuable life lessons from our mistakes..

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    ..only some of us wind up making the same 'mistake' several times before we finally cotton on :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Sure you can, but do you really think inebriation is an excuse - if a boyfriend cheated when he was tipsy/drunk would that really soften the blow?
    It's a difficult one. Let's say someone gets drunk and cheats after being loyal in a healthy relationship of 2 years. They don't remember everything properly and they weren't thinking straight at the time but someone saw them. Does this mean they don't love the person they are with? Does one drunken act define how you feel for a person and replace the past?

    It's tricky.
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    No.

    I would feel so guilty if I cheated on somebody. Would rather just walk away from the relationship.
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    I have never cheated and never will. A few days ago my now ex-boyfriend of a year broke up with me because he has feelings for another girl. However much it hurt me that I didn't feel good enough anymore, I respect the fact that he ended it and told me the reason why. We're still friends which I think shows that if you 'love' someone, it doesn't always have to be shown physically, more so with trust and commitment; whether that's in the form of a relationship or not.
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    Nope, never. Don't see the point in cheating.
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    (Original post by dennisraymondsmith)
    Just as the title says really .
    You can answer anon if you want .
    Have you cheated if so how many times ?

    Reason im asking is because its no secret that most men cheat and we get alot of stick for cheating and rightly so but to me a lot of women cheat as well but we never really hear about this .

    Im not saying women cheat as much as men but a hell of a lot of women cheat and it gets brushed underneath the carpet .

    So ladies have you cheated then ?
    Nope and dont intend to. I have had chances to cheat in the past but never dared cheat. Im too loyal
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Yup, and contrasting attitudes towards members of the opposite sex engaging in coitus

    Sure you can, but do you really think inebriation is an excuse - if a boyfriend cheated when he was tipsy/drunk would that really soften the blow?

    Call me old fashioned but my conception of what it is to be in love would mean thoughts of intimacy with others would make one physically sick

    Indeed it does, which threatens your relationship and perhaps reflects that it is more seriously lacking than a 'brief encounter', but the later reflects worse on the character of the transgressor, which in turn reflects pretty poorly on you (judge of character).. so it's a tricky one!

    Ha, took me a few seconds to get "ass over other bits infatuated"

    You wouldn't be the first youngling to wind up in that situation, nor indeed the first to 'cheat' (didn't sound as if you did tbh). At least you seem to have learnt from it and developed an awareness/resolve that you otherwise might not have done aye We do learn some of our most valuable life lessons from our mistakes..

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    ..only some of us wind up making the same 'mistake' several times before we finally cotton on :rolleyes:
    It's not a good excuse I agree.
    It would soften the blow though, but not to the point I think it makes it okay!If that happened to me I guess it would need to be dealt with by means of the person recognising that they are not appropriately behaved when drunk-so ensuring it didn't happen again.
    It makes me feel sick too-hence why I said I was infactuated-now when I look back I am unsure it was real love at this point.I've experienced something totally different with my now partner.
    I was a poor judge of character for definite in that instance!

    I hope I have learned from it but relationship issues are so tricky.Nothing's black and white.There are things I do now that some people would class as cheating, but that my relationship is fine with.
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    (Original post by maskofsanity)
    They don't remember everything properly and they weren't thinking straight at the time but someone saw them
    Getting preyed upon/raped is a bit different to 'cheating' aye

    (Original post by maskofsanity)
    Does one drunken act define how you feel for a person and replace the past?
    Hmm, the trouble is it's not usually as if a person doesn't know how they get when drunk.. if you love and respect someone you wouldn't avoid putting yourself in a position where you don't know whether you could trust yourself and/or prepare yourself for that situation arising and how you are to deal with it in advance, so in a way it is still indicative of how you feel for a person/how seriously you take the relationship

    It's a little different for girls in the sense that they can be pressured into sex and lie there and do nothing and before they know it they've technically cheated but the flip side is girls don't tend to be as driven as we do, so really there's no excuse. If a girl can't handle her drink, or can't say no to guys, then really she ought to think twice about having a relationship in the first place if she's going to be drinking (heavily) around other blokes in the absence of her partner

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    It would soften the blow though, but not to the point I think it makes it okay!
    It might make you feel a bit better about yourself, and your value as a partner, at first glance – but then surely you get to asking yourself ‘what the **** am I doing with such a **** in the first place’?.. and ‘how much of a mug does it make me that I’ve build such feelings/hopes around such a chump’?

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    they are not appropriately behaved when drunk-so ensuring it didn't happen again
    Kinda ties in with what I’ve said to the other chap above, although we all know that leopards seldom change their spots in practice, and if a girl cheated on me under any circumstances, inc. when drunk, you can bet your ass it wouldn’t be happening again (because she’d be history)! :rolleyes:

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    I hope I have learned from it but relationship issues are so tricky. Nothing's black and white
    This is why men (like me) often end up trashing relationships, and women often get themselves into fixes ~ men do often think in black and white terms and hence have an innate capacity to (inadvertently) steamroller their way through life and women agonise over issues/turn them inward when they could be more pragmatic/proactive

    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    There are things I do now that some people would class as cheating, but that my relationship is fine with
    Hmm, you mean your partner is fine with*?

    My definition of cheating is breaching the agreed terms of exclusivity (if you actually outline what’s ok and what’s not with your partner – often a good idea e.g. in LDRs), or willingly engaging in an act of physical intimacy with a 3rd party that one’s partner would likely be seriously upset by, were they to witness it
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    Sort of, I kissed someone else and then progressed to sexting/skyping.
    It did give me the courage to end things with my (then) boyfriend as I realized I didn't have to settle.
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    Ive cheated twice with the same person and i wouldnt change that everything happens for a reason.
    (Original post by dennisraymondsmith)
    Just as the title says really .
    You can answer anon if you want .
    Have you cheated if so how many times ?

    Reason im asking is because its no secret that most men cheat and we get alot of stick for cheating and rightly so but to me a lot of women cheat as well but we never really hear about this .
    women probably cheat just as much as men!
    Im not saying women cheat as much as men but a hell of a lot of women cheat and it gets brushed underneath the carpet .

    So ladies have you cheated then ?
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    (Original post by wanna-be-doctor)
    Ive cheated twice with the same person and i wouldnt change that everything happens for a reason.
    I have cheated on my husband 4 times, and I wouldn't take it back. The only thing I regret is not knowing for sure if our three kids are all his.
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    Never cheated (though I've only been in one relationship) never would. Cheating is selfish, I've never understood it. If you feel the need to cheat you should leave your relationship. Holding on to them because you "still love them" etc is just selfish.
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    No I have never cheated and I never plan on doing so.

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    I'm going to cheat on my girlfriend tonight! I've been suffering having sex with only one girl for the past 3 frickin months. Thankfully she's gone to visit her family, I can finally invite another girl over and nail her instead, at least for a few days.
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    (Original post by Kazbian)
    Nope. I've in a few committed relationships and have never come close to doing it.

    This should be irrelevant but unfortunately a lot of people don't seem to trust bisexuals, thinking that in a relationship we cannot be satisfied and will spend the whole time pining over the gender we're not with. I am bisexual and have never considered cheating, no matter the gender of the person I'm in a relationship with or the person who I could cheat with. I don't miss the other gender; when in a relationship, you just sort of swing towards that person. I just wanted to mention that really, because it's a stereotype that bugs me and it's sort of related to the thread (i.e. people assuming bisexuals will cheat).
    Greedy bisexuals
 
 
 
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