You've never seen the person you are in a 'relationship' with?(Original post by lizlaz350)
I'm in a long distance relationship, most of it is carried out by texts or instant messaging. If neither of us had the right personalities, we wouldn't last 5 mins together no matter what we looked like.
Even if we weren't long distance, personalities are still important. You can't spend that much time with someone you don't like even if they're good looking.
Looks obviously play a part but personality DOES matter, don't be stupid and say otherwise.
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Face, looks, money and status is what attracts us. Not personality. watch
- 17-11-2013 15:49
- 17-11-2013 15:53
A person who is attractive will have to rely less on personality to find a partner and hence they will often value personality less, seeing looks as having more social value. This type of person will often make the mistake of getting themselves the best looking partner without focusing much on their personality and then they will learn over time that they've made a mistake if the personality isn't very nice. People will always value what their own particular forte is more. Personality is a better thing to focus on though as in the long term it's less likely to change than looks. In order to have sex with a person most people need to be attracted to the other person so looks do need to come into play for most people to some extent but the extent varies a lot. Peer pressure is also a major thing influencing a person's choice of partner.
- 17-11-2013 16:09
(Original post by isabelle york)
- 08-01-2014 07:28
@Bold part, this is what I don't like about us women.
Your threshold for not looking like a cat was just dragged in is disproportionately high.
Pretend this man has all of the personal qualities that you describe. Does he meet your physical threshold? No? then he is equivalent to a cat being dragged in, and that is your average male...
He looks a bit younger than me (23) but I don't care, if he's someone I have a good time with then hell yes I'd date him. And i wouldn't date him just because of personality either, I don't like the testosterone-super-duper-man look. I hate it if a guy's even 50% as hairy as the beaver that lives downstream from my childhood home, I like it when a guy is clean shaven, and I hate it when guys have shaved/too short/too long hair. If it wasn't the fact that I am not attracted to (even though I can admit someone is good looking) the western style of man, I'd call myself shallow. Here's the thing though, I like quirky, different and a little less masculine than most, but if I met a great guy who looked like that I'd go out with him too. OP is just bitter, not all fish in the sea are the same.