I love my girlfriend but don't find her sexually attractive Watch

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Lol, can't believe I actually wrote that before. Sounds so horrible, I am horrible.
Yeah you ****ing well are for stringing her along.


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OP you're not only a scumbag but also a pussy so if I were you I'd hold onto this girl tight because chances are that the girls you're attracted to want a real man instead of some little ***** like you.

Hope that helped.
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It's not, its just the overall appearance. I'm sexually into a completely different body type, not going into details. I'm not looking for a "perfect girl" either if that's what some will think, but this girl just doesn't tick any of the boxes for me in terms of physical attraction.

I also believe attaction comes from more complicated things subconciously, such as movements of the face, looks, the way one speaks etc.



Lol, can't believe I actually wrote that before. Sounds so horrible, I am horrible.
mehhh.. i thought it was funny.

What IS horrible is you not manning up. Stop being a wuss about being alone and leaving the "future" till later. You have to do something NOW. Not several months later because it will hurt her more than it will now.

Set both of yourselves free asap. Break up with her.
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(Original post by A Perfect Circle)
OP you're not only a scumbag but also a pussy so if I were you I'd hold onto this girl tight because chances are that the girls you're attracted to want a real man instead of some little ***** like you.

Hope that helped.
Oh well hello Mr. Keyboard warrior! I would love to see you in real life, to see who is "some little *****".

Nice to have helpful people like you here on TSR! Don't stay posting here too late though, you'll miss out on the personal time with you and your little penis.

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On the other hand, thanks to all those who have replied with proper advice, even if negative. It's been helpful!
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Oh well hello Mr. Keyboard warrior! I would love to see you in real life, to see who is "some little *****".

Nice to have helpful people like you here on TSR! Don't stay posting here too late though, you'll miss out on the personal time with you and your little penis.

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On the other hand, thanks to all those who have replied with proper advice, even if negative. It's been helpful!
lol if you saw me in real life, you'd keep your head down and not say a word.

Not even because I'm an intimidating guy (I don't think I am) but if you can't even muster the balls to tell this chick you aren't attracted to her, then that tells me all I need to know about your character or rather lack thereof.

You've convinced yourself that you're being noble by staying with her but deep down you're aware of how weak you are.

I'm no keyboard warrior, just some guy who's telling it the way it is. Besides with your mature "penis joke", I'm not too sure whether you're the right person to be making those accusations.

All the best.
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lol if you saw me in real life, you'd keep your head down and not say a word.

Not even because I'm an intimidating guy (I don't think I am) but if you can't even muster the balls to tell this chick you aren't attracted to her, then that tells me all I need to know about your character or rather lack thereof.

You've convinced yourself that you're being noble by staying with her but deep down you're aware of how weak you are.

I'm no keyboard warrior, just some guy who's telling it the way it is. Besides with your mature "penis joke", I'm not too sure whether you're the right person to be making those accusations.

All the best.
I completely agree with you. OP is a little ***** who's scared that he can't do any better.


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I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 21 and we have been together for one and a half years now. We love each other and get on very well together, but there is also a big problem.

I was always taught that when it comes to a relationship looks don't matter, that's it's all about the personality. I then wen't for a girl who is an awesome person but who I don't really find sexually attractive.

We've been together for long and now this has really started causing problems to our relationship. I get quite uncomfortable when we get intimate and have sex as I'm not really sexually attracted to her. She has also always been very insecure about her looks and has been telling me that I'm out of her league etc, which itself is quite a turnoff. I sometimes think about other fantasies when we have sex which makes it a little easier for me but I realise this is very wrong.

I love her regardless and we do have a good time together in general and both love eachother.

Can a realtionship work just based on being attracted to someone's personality? I am now a shallow person but I'm starting to learn that maybe you need to have that lust and passion to keep a relationship going.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Please don't just reply "Break up with her" etc, I would much rather hear a bit more if you think it can work or not or if you have experienced something like this yourself.


I have the same problem with my girlfriend as well. We've only been together maybe 8 months or so and known each other for about a year. Both of us young..I'm 24 and she's 19. Only thing I'm really physically attracted to is how she's a country girl. Everything else, not really. I don't even get eroused when she takes her clothes off. I know for a fact that I'm straight..but this honestly is the longest relationship I've ever had, & most serious. I've had MANY gfs and all only lasted maybe a week-a couple months and was basically used for sex...so I kinda feel like maybe that makes me not want sex with her. I have a great time with her, we do almost everything together and I do love her. These days, she's the only loyal/sane/honest female in Va if not the country. I don't Wunna leave her..it would kill me..that and I won't date another girl and waste my time
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You sound like a very sweet and sincere person. Looks like you've got lots of helpful feedbacks. Sometimes, we already know what is right for us but need time to figure things out. Just be honest with her about what you are thinking and feeling. Even if it will hurt her..I think it is better than living a lie. Confront the situation. It will make you stronger and give you practice for when you meet that person you are attracted to, and can have real intimacy with. Speaking from personal experience.. Dont wait too long..It'll give you stress, anxiety and possible health issues. There might be a chance she will resent you for not being upfront and will ruin any chance of remaining friends. But what's important is your integrity and peace of mind. Thanks for sharing the post and keep us updated. Best of luck!
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1- cheat on her.
2- use potent psychedelic empathogenic drugs, ones that don't diminish penis power. Then, maybe you can see her from a different neurological perspective and find her sexy.
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OP do her a favour anf play the let's be fwends card cos when she finds oit the truth you will RUIN her
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It's possible.

I'm not physically attracted to my boyfriend, but emotionally, we're very close and I like feeling desired sexually. The sex is passionate and about how we make eachother feel, not what's being looked at. It's taken a long time though... Honestly we had issues with him not initiating out of insecurity and drinking too much but we're getting better and better.

She needs to grow more confident in herself and perhaps if you are both more in the moment rather than focusing on things that displease you aesthetically it can work. How actively engaged is she in sex? If she doesn't have the confidence to be more forward and attempt to seduce you or take a bigger role there lies the problem. Again I don't find my BF the prettiest but when he looks at me like he wants me it's a turn on.When he is confident enough to explore my body and take charge it's a turn on.

Maybe some sexy lingerie or dress up would be nicer for you to look at and empowering for her?
That seems very unusual, are you narcissistic or autoerotic?
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I hope you have done the right thing. ..
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isn't sexual attractiveness about how she looks?!
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Hey man, how are you and your girlfriend now? just wondering.
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Stop watching pornography and look away when you notice an attractive woman on the street and you'll start to find her very very very incredibly attractive within 90 days, guaranteed!
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I was with my girlfriend for 10 years I love her to bits but didn't fancy her no more.so I've just this weekend broke up with her I've destroyed tow familys.you've got to do what's right for you
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Hey, it must be really hard, it's easy to comment saying "break up with her" but when your emotionally attached it can be harder than it seems, maybe breaking up isn't the only option, talk to her about it, obviosuly be careful how you word things, maybe figure out why you don't find her attractive, is it her body, her hair, her face, figuring out your "type" may also help, i hope you figure out what to do
all the best, Samantha😇
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Life seems a lot more simple in single land.
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I'm 23 and my girlfriend is 21 and we have been together for one and a half years now. We love each other and get on very well together, but there is also a big problem.

I was always taught that when it comes to a relationship looks don't matter, that's it's all about the personality. I then wen't for a girl who is an awesome person but who I don't really find sexually attractive.

Can a realtionship work just based on being attracted to someone's personality? I am now a shallow person but I'm starting to learn that maybe you need to have that lust and passion to keep a relationship going.
I believe you're asexual mate. The relationship depends on you and the girl, so if you are really really uncomfortable, end the relationship OR tell her you love her for her personality and don't want sex.
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