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    (Original post by Jaegon Targaryen)
    "Sluts" , you the real MVP
    That makes no sense... I'm proud of my choices in life.
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    "You're old enough to be her father"
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    (Original post by Antifazian)
    I really regret not doing a study abroad year, and generally using the uni summers to travel more as I could have got a few more trips in quite easily.

    That brings me to my second thing, the reason why I didn't travel more, because I was in a relationship, such an error! Don't get into relationships at uni, for God's sake. They're such a distraction, and usually not a positive one.

    And I needn't have spent so much time worrying about everything, because things have a habit of working out.
    I'd just like to say that I'm in a relationship and I travel a lot and did a year abroad in Mexico. A relationship doesn't need to hold you back, you just need to be a bit more independent of your partner.
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    (Original post by Jaegon Targaryen)
    Is it really that bad of an idea to get into relationships at uni ? I know of people who met their wives / husbands etc at uni ,I can see why it might jeopardize your grades and one of the most important parts of your life , but I always thought Uni was like the last opportunity you get to mix with tons of people at once , the place your most likely to find your OH.

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    I was thinking this. I think it depends what kind of person you are. As long as you're not one of these people who lets their boyfriend/girlfriend become their whole life, you'll be fine. You shouldn't spend all your time with your other half, just like you shouldn't spend it all going out with friends partying, playing a sports or participating in society stuff. It's just about time management. During exam season or when you've got a deadline nearing, prioritise your degree over anything else.
    Yeah, I think it can be fine depending on what kind of person you are and what kind of relationship you're in. My boyfriend and I are pretty independent and so far have done a year of being a three hour drive away and then a year of being an 11 hour flight away, we've been okay.
    I'm not the kind of person who enjoys having a lot of casual sex (it's fine if you do- I have loved it in the past!) so in that respect I don't feel like I'm missing out.
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    (Original post by AmyAintDead)
    Love this thread! Would joining 2 societies be a good idea for someone like me who's doing dentistry, so will have a LOT of studying to do, or is 2 too many?
    As many as you like. There are so many choices it's often hard to whittle it down into single figures. Start with several and try some new things, then decide what to keep going with once you've tried a few. I don't think it's likely you'll be restricted to one by your subject choice: there's usually time to fit everything in so long as you manage your time.
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    (Original post by gemmam)
    After you've completed this first year drop out and change to something more vocational. You'll regret it when you graduate if you don't.
    So you wasted £9000 plus living expenses?
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    How hard is it to maintain more than one sports society at once? I want to join around 3 - Rugby Union, American Football and Boxing, would this be hard on top of studying
    and partying?

    How experience do you need for the Sports? I've only ever played American Football twice (loved it) and didn't play properly by the rules, so quite a beginner, would love to be on the team in the BUCS though

    Also I have a bit of a confidence issue when meeting new people (when not drunk) due to having a lisp, it holds me back and I stutter quite badly when meeting new people etc, (sometimes I can't pronounce words properly which does lower my self-esteem) will this effect chances or anything, if anyone has experience with this
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    I read somewhere on TSR that the only societies that are worth joining are sport ones. Are the rest just rubbish and nor run properly? I sure hope not

    If anyone knows, Id love to hear about uni of Leicester's societies. I tried looking it up on a website but found nothing
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    (Original post by Jaegon Targaryen)
    Is it really that bad of an idea to get into relationships at uni ? I know of people who met their wives / husbands etc at uni ,I can see why it might jeopardize your grades and one of the most important parts of your life , but I always thought Uni was like the last opportunity you get to mix with tons of people at once , the place your most likely to find your OH.
    In my honest opinion, yes it is a bad idea. You will not be completely focused on yourself if you are in a relationship, and uni is a time to be a bit selfish, make use of the time and opportunities you have freely available to develop as a person, and in terms of your future career.

    I don't understand the whole rush to get into relationships though, surely at uni you're too young to be looking for life partners anyway...
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    (Original post by suzannataylor)
    I'd just like to say that I'm in a relationship and I travel a lot and did a year abroad in Mexico. A relationship doesn't need to hold you back, you just need to be a bit more independent of your partner.
    Yes of course, but this is 'advice to your fresher self' - so, in hindsight.

    I do believe that relationships hold you back in many other ways whilst at uni, though.
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    (Original post by Joshale)
    How hard is it to maintain more than one sports society at once? I want to join around 3 - Rugby Union, American Football and Boxing, would this be hard on top of studying
    and partying?

    How experience do you need for the Sports? I've only ever played American Football twice (loved it) and didn't play properly by the rules, so quite a beginner, would love to be on the team in the BUCS though

    Also I have a bit of a confidence issue when meeting new people (when not drunk) due to having a lisp, it holds me back and I stutter quite badly when meeting new people etc, (sometimes I can't pronounce words properly which does lower my self-esteem) will this effect chances or anything, if anyone has experience with this
    For the confidence issue mate, don't worry about it.

    I'd happily be mates with someone who had a lisp.

    Make sure you smile and ask questions
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    (Original post by Ruffiio)
    So you wasted £9000 plus living expenses?
    I lived with a family member so I paid my living expenses out of my student loan to them. But yeah basically. I was going to drop out after the first semester of the second year but was nagged into staying. I should've just gone with my feelings in hindsight.

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    (Original post by Antifazian)
    I don't understand the whole rush to get into relationships though, surely at uni you're too young to be looking for life partners anyway...
    Not everyone starts university straight from sixth form.


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    (Original post by Antifazian)
    Yes of course, but this is 'advice to your fresher self' - so, in hindsight.

    I do believe that relationships hold you back in many other ways whilst at uni, though.
    In what ways do you think they hold you back?

    Yeah, but I think it would be better advice to say not to let your relationship limit you, or not to get into a relationship if you're the kind of person that will only focus on your partner. Like the boyfriend I had in first year was a bad bet haha.
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    (Original post by gemmam)
    Not everyone starts university straight from sixth form.


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    Sure, but the vast majority do.
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    (Original post by suzannataylor)
    In what ways do you think they hold you back?

    Yeah, but I think it would be better advice to say not to let your relationship limit you, or not to get into a relationship if you're the kind of person that will only focus on your partner. Like the boyfriend I had in first year was a bad bet haha.
    I agree with this. I know people who had relationships all the way or most of the way through university and did well. I also met my boyfriend towards the end of my second year and my grades weren't effected. As long as your not one of those people who are dependent on your partner and/or don't get into a relationship which has a lot of drama then I don't think it'd make a difference.

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    (Original post by suzannataylor)
    In what ways do you think they hold you back?

    Yeah, but I think it would be better advice to say not to let your relationship limit you, or not to get into a relationship if you're the kind of person that will only focus on your partner. Like the boyfriend I had in first year was a bad bet haha.
    I think that, as most people at uni are quite young when they get into these relationships, they're not necessarily mature enough to have healthy, more independent ones that allow them to still focus on personal development, travel, and generally growing up.

    Doubtless, that won't apply to everyone, but I think it's true for a lot of people at uni. It certainly was for me! I knew of a lot of people in relationships who spent a lot of time caught up in needless drama, or spending a lot of time with their partners that wasn't spent doing something which, in my opinion, might be a far better use of their time at that formative period of their lives.

    Horses for courses, of course, but if someone were to ask me then I would always advise staying clear of relationships whilst at uni. If you're a bit older, then maybe it's a different story.

    Ultimately, I still managed to do really well and fit a lot in to my time as an undergrad, but I know it would've been a lot easier, and I could have done even more if I didn't waste time on a relationship. But there are always two sides, and I learnt a lot from that relationship too.
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    Actually go to societies/extra curricular stuff. I had so little work to be doing that looking back I'm pretty disappointed I didn't use my time to do these things. Other than that I had a great first year & hopefully second year will be even better as I get into societies & such.
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    Ignore everyone. Do you. They're all users. Don't socialise. People will seek you out if they want to be friends.



    Play it cool is the name of the game.
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    Don't let the negative thinking get the better of you so much. First year will be awful in terms of your mental health but it does get better.
    Just because you aren't great at making friends doesn't mean you will never have good friends.
    And don't drink all those jagerbombs in freshers week, your tongue won't feel the same for weeks afterwards.
 
 
 
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