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    Some girls say they hate it, but honestly a genuine compliment can make a girl's day or even entire week if they don't get it very often. Seriously, girls want some charming guy to sweep them off their feet, something they can say to their friends, "you'll never guess what happened to me today!" Just don't do it in a weird way or try to BS her about why you're talking to her. If she's not into it then she can say so but don't make that decision for her and pretend it's because you're worried you'll inconvenience her.
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    You will have much better luck in a bar, or just outside the bar, which i guess is technically the street....ah whateva... :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by ilem)
    Did you really just compare house parties and approaching on the street? Getting to know someone at a house party where people are to socialise and have fun is far more likely to yield results without coming off as a complete creep than hitting on random girls on the street purely because you happen to like the way she looks.

    Have some standards instead of hitting on everything that moves. How desperate.
    The underlying principles are the same based on what you said your previous post. I have friend's who's parents met each other off the street. Some happily married for 15+ years. You're going on like every single girl you see, you hit on. Couldn't be further from the truth...if you're attracted to someone you go for it.

    It's got absolutely nothing to do with standards, and how desperate you are. In fact, it takes a lot of courage to go up to a girl, tell her that she looks beautiful today. If she says no, she says no and you move on.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The underlying principles are the same based on what you said your previous post. I have friend's who's parents met each other off the street. Some happily married for 15+ years. You're going on like every single girl you see, you hit on. Couldn't be further from the truth...if you're attracted to someone you go for it.

    It's got absolutely nothing to do with standards, and how desperate you are. In fact, it takes a lot of courage to go up to a girl, tell her that she looks beautiful today. If she says no, she says no and you move on.

    #foreverinthefriendzone #gameisweakerthanproevo
    No they aren't. People on the street are not there to be propositioned, they're simply going about their daily business while at a house party everyone's far more receptive and welcoming to all sorts of approaches. I'm baffled how you can even find someone attractive enough to pursue them on the street anyway. The only times I've been attracted to women was when we hit it off at a party or some other social occasion, got talking and then eventually things moved forward for both of us.

    The fact you're concerned with 'the friend zone' speaks volumes about you
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    (Original post by Barry2011)
    I just follow them home usually.
    Ahh the direct approach!

    Though to answer the OP.... If I guy asks me for my number straight out I assume he only wants me for sex or just physically so that doesn't inspire me to give him my information however if I had been speaking to the guy for a while and we both seemed to get on I would be more inclined to see him again and give him my number. It depends on the approach and the guy and yeah I have given my number to someone I had just met -he was a pretty cool guy.
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    No they aren't. People on the street are not there to be propositioned, they're simply going about their daily business while at a house party everyone's far more receptive and welcoming to all sorts of approaches. I'm baffled how you can even find someone attractive enough to pursue them on the street anyway. The only times I've been attracted to women was when we hit it off at a party or some other social occasion, got talking and then eventually things moved forward for both of us.

    The fact you're concerned with 'the friend zone' speaks volumes about you
    Haha look man, I see what you're saying but that's not strictly true. Let's just agree to disagree. There's no one single rule for finding that "perfect match". Also, most people are physically attracted to someone before they make a move on them...so finding someone attractive on the street is perfectly plausible in that scenario.
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    I wouldn't be creeped out - probably just annoyed cos you know I have things to do....
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    Just to weigh in on the drinks...

    Depending on the girl it can start an interaction on a positive, but if that's your go-to opener with women you're going to end up spending a lot of money if you do this with any regularity. It's also true that it's not going to display all the best qualities you want it to - yeah, maybe she'll think this guy is a gentleman and has money, but it also runs the risk of implying the willingness to pay for a woman's time. Maybe not at a restaurant since you're leaving it in the girls' hands whether to make an approach or not, but generally speaking.

    There are a lot of girls out there who will quite willingly flirt with a guy for free drinks and all you end up doing is massaging their ego. If it's your average girl it can probably go down pretty well, but if she's hot, forget about it - she's going to have guys coming out the wazoo trying to buy her drinks all the time. It's not going to set you apart and you run the risk of being seen as "just another guy" saying "please spend time to me, I'll even buy you a drink if you'll grace me with your presence" or however it's going to come across. If you're doing it just because you're a nice guy then fair enough, it's charity, but probably better to give to Amnesty International or something.

    Bottom line is, I don't think it's the worst, but it's not exactly the best either. If it feels right, okay fine, don't be a cheapskate, but if you just want to talk to the girl? Just talk to her - no need to fork out anything for it, she's only human.
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    It's a pretty sad reflection of humanity that people don't want to talk to strangers out of fear. Perfectly understandable though.
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    Honestly, as long as you don't come across as a creep and you spend some time making small talk and having a bit of a laugh with them, then they will more likely than not give you their number.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How do you girls feel about guys approaching you in the street for your number etc? I'm asking because I was in a restaurant a few days ago and there was this girl I really wanted to approach but she was sitting down with her friend and I didn't want to interrupt. Opportunity passed. How do you girls feel if I approached you in that situation? And how do you feel about giving out your number to a guy generally? Both gender's opinion welcome
    Don't do it, its harassment. I'm not kidding.

    Please see the everydaysexismproject for examples.
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    (Original post by Sizzzla112)
    It may just happen the love of your life is walking past you in the street...
    Oh come on now, this is not how it works. You've watched too many hollywood movies.
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    Wouldn't do it. There are a wealth of opportunities in life to meet people, where they expect and want to be approached.

    I just joined a new social group and it's the best thing that I've done in ages, just because of the interactions. And the fact that I enjoy the activity at hand, of course.

    The UK is overpopulated. There is absolutely no point romanticising over possibly meeting 'the one' in the street, because you're just as likely to meet 'the one' (if they exist) in a more comfortable setting.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Don't do it, its harassment. I'm not kidding.

    Please see the everydaysexismproject for examples.
    You mean talking women on the street is harassment? Please elaborate.
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    (Original post by Ade9000)

    You mean talking women on the street is harassment? Please elaborate.
    Lets be clear here: simply casually chatting to anyone, in an appropriate situation such as when standing next to them at the bar, waiting together at a bus stop, etc, is perfectly fine and commendable.

    The times when it is unacceptable are:

    a) a situation that is not conducive for casual conversation, for example going up to a girl sitting by herself on a park bench, or walking down the street with her friends.

    b) an "approach", where your sole intent is to attempt to get her number for romantic/sexual reasons.

    Both of these last two are harassment. I can't make that clear enough. Don't do it.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Lets be clear here: simply casually chatting to anyone, in an appropriate situation such as when standing next to them at the bar, waiting together at a bus stop, etc, is perfectly fine and commendable.

    The times when it is unacceptable are:

    a) a situation that is not conducive for casual conversation, for example going up to a girl sitting by herself on a park bench, or walking down the street with her friends.

    b) an "approach", where your sole intent is to attempt to get her number for romantic/sexual reasons.

    Both of these last two are harassment. I can't make that clear enough. Don't do it.
    No. If she makes it clear she doesn't want to be bothered (she says 'sorry I'm not interested', or she keeps walking) and you still pursue, THEN it becomes harassment.
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    (Original post by Ade9000)
    No. If she makes it clear she doesn't want to be bothered (she says 'sorry I'm not interested', or she keeps walking) and you still pursue, THEN it becomes harassment.
    I'm sorry, but you're very badly wrong. Please see the everyday sexism project for more details. Women do not appreciate being constantly harassed when they're just trying to go about their daily business.

    This is no laughing matter. Please do not harass strangers and make this country a less safe and pleasant place for us all to live in.
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    I wouldn't like it because I would kinda panic if a stranger approaches me.
    When I guy's approach me I always say I'm busy or hav other excuses. But I think iy always depends I have to admit if a very attractive guy approache me I would stop hav a nice lil convo with him, he can gice me his number but I would never give a stranger my number. But you can wat h YouTube bids and see the reaction of they females
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    If you're in a queue or random place together then there's no problem in striking up a conversation. You have to be ready to abandon ship though if they make it clear that they're not interested. I've met friends and partners for example, through noticing they were wearing t-shirts of a band I liked and just started talking to them.

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    (Original post by A Perfect Circle)
    If you're in a queue or random place together then there's no problem in striking up a conversation. You have to be ready to abandon ship though if they make it clear that they're not interested. I've met friends and partners for example, through noticing they were wearing t-shirts of a band I liked and just started talking to them.



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    Yes, I agree with your view. If you're already standing next to someone, it is far less weird for you to start chatting to them than if you purposefully make a beeline across the street towards them like some kind of sex trafficker.


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