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I've never been asked out, not even once

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Original post by Abstraction
> Doesn't realise that women are programmed to want the top 10% of men
> Doesn't know that women only use men for utility
> Hasn't yet realised that 99% of women are physically incapable of genuine love
> Doesn't see that even if he gets a girlfriend, she'll be bored of him in a few weeks and will merely be using him as a pit stop because she is always looking for 'better'
> Thinks that he'll get proper friendship and companionship in a relationship, when really he'll just get a bit of sex, superficial and temporary shows of care, and be in a constant state of worry about whether his girlfriend is cheating on or wants to leave him
> Doesn't see that only women and top men ever win the dating game in the long term
> Having read this, he'll still want to play the rigged game

OP, devote your mind to more rewarding and interesting pursuits.


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Got any proof for these claims?

Inb4 Having female friends and observing many women (aka stalking :colonhash:)

Quite sad that some men think like this and I know you're a troll don't bother trying to deny it. What you don't know is that there are many happy men in relationships with women, there are many happy women in relationships with women and they go on to live happy, fulfilling lives together. If what you claim is true, then couples that have been together for years and even decades wouldn't exist. It's always the small minority of bitter men that aren't after a woman for who she is but what she's got between her legs that come out with rubbish like this.

Then you say women only want money and status. :lol: the amount of men that are earning below minimum wage but are in relationships and even married should tell you otherwise. Stop making up excuses for your failure with women, the problem is you.

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Original post by Abstraction
Well that's a pretty predictable reaction. I know women vehemently denounce guys who let them know they are on to them :wink:

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Even the losers on Jeremy Kyle get women, you're obviously missing a trick.
Original post by Eva.Gregoria
Got any proof for these claims?

Inb4 Having female friends and observing many women (aka stalking :colonhash:)

Quite sad that some men think like this and I know you're a troll don't bother trying to deny it. What you don't know is that there are many happy men in relationships with women, there are many happy women in relationships with women and they go on to live happy, fulfilling lives together. If what you claim is true, then couples that have been together for years and even decades wouldn't exist. It's always the small minority of bitter men that aren't after a woman for who she is but what she's got between her legs that come out with rubbish like this.

Then you say women only want money and status. :lol: the amount of men that are earning below minimum wage but are in relationships and even married should tell you otherwise. Stop making up excuses for your failure with women, the problem is you.

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I'm not a troll, I genuinely believe this and am trying to inform OP. Though I guess you'll think "a troll would say that anyway". Believe whatever you want.

All men should think like this, but they don't want to look reality in the face.

Sure, I don't deny there are many people who seem to be in 'happy' relationships, but few really are. Once you dig beneath the surface, the determinants and benefits of the average relationship are pretty superficial and simple. Indeed, fulfilling lifelong relationships exist, but they are so few in number and so hard to get that attempting to get the 1 woman in 1000 that will give it is pointless. I'd also say that, though women have their constant desire for the 'best' men, it's simply opportunity, upbringing, class and possibly culture/religion that determine where they end up. Don't try and deceive me into thinking that most relationships consist of love from both participants, that's rubbish. Most are empty, and just exist to satisfy the innate desire for sex and companionship.

I know how hard it is for someone like you, the average participant in the ridiculously rigged game of society, to understand that a man doesn't actually want female companionship. I've never attempted at getting sex or empty relationships from women, and I never will. I'm fine with that. I've heard it all before on TSR - "you are the problem, you're inadequate bla bla bla". But I'm not falling for the same old corporate-society-fed message that wants me to fruitlessly exert energy jumping through hoops for promises of fulfilment, through women and sex, that never come true.

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Original post by Abstraction
I'm not a troll, I genuinely believe this and am trying to inform OP. Though I guess you'll think "a troll would say that anyway". Believe whatever you want.

All men should think like this, but they don't want to look reality in the face.

Sure, I don't deny there are many people who seem to be in 'happy' relationships, but few really are. Once you dig beneath the surface, the determinants and benefits of the average relationship are pretty superficial and simple. Indeed, fulfilling lifelong relationships exist, but they are so few in number and so hard to get that attempting to get the 1 woman in 1000 that will give it is pointless. I'd also say that, though women have their constant desire for the 'best' men, it's simply opportunity, upbringing, class and possibly culture/religion that determine where they end up. Don't try and deceive me into thinking that most relationships consist of love from both participants, that's rubbish. Most are empty, and just exist to satisfy the innate desire for sex and companionship.

I know how hard it is for someone like you, the average participant in the ridiculously rigged game of society, to understand that a man doesn't actually want female companionship. I've never attempted at getting sex or empty relationships from women, and I never will. I'm fine with that. I've heard it all before on TSR - "you are the problem, you're inadequate bla bla bla". But I'm not falling for the same old corporate-society-fed message that wants me to fruitlessly exert energy jumping through hoops for promises of fulfilment, through women and sex, that never come true.

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Still haven't given me your proof for all these claims, buddy.

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Original post by Eva.Gregoria
Still haven't given me your proof for all these claims, buddy.

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He only has his warped mind for "proof" you'll never get any off him.
Original post by StevieA
You're a girl and you've never been approached? Why do you think that is? This might be the first time I've ever heard a girl say this hmm... Usually they complain about way too much attention from (undesirable) guys. Which is ironic because after a lifetime of complaining about men catcallingand gazing at them, women suddenly start getting depressed and say how they miss all the attention they used to get and they feel invisible once they hit 40.


I'm also a girl who's never been asked out haha. Pretty sure there are quite a lot of girls in the same position. It's really not that unheard of. I can be quite shy with people at first so that may be something to do with it.
Original post by Eva.Gregoria
Still haven't given me your proof for all these claims, buddy.

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I don't need to give you proof. You're a woman, so you know what I'm saying is true but don't want to believe it - hence why you seem to feel so threatened. I don't have a scientific paper, just a combination of much anecdotal evidence, both in real life and on forums, and subtleties/patterns I've noticed from being a 19 year old guy who's been in school and college all his life. Naturally you will never think much of my 'evidence', so I'm not going to waste time here. You're welcome to believe what you want, it makes no difference to me.

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Can't believe they even took the bait. Hilarious how defensive people on here get lol.
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Original post by Abstraction
I don't need to give you proof. You're a woman, so you know what I'm saying is true but don't want to believe it - hence why you seem to feel so threatened. I don't have a scientific paper, just a combination of much anecdotal evidence, both in real life and on forums, and subtleties/patterns I've noticed from being a 19 year old guy who's been in school and college all his life. Naturally you will never think much of my 'evidence', so I'm not going to waste time here. You're welcome to believe what you want, it makes no difference to me.

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Threatened? Lol do you think your views are representive of what men think in real life? :lol: Please.

And lol at your logic, I'm a woman and you're thinking that your deductions of what I think like is correct without you being an actual woman. Ok :top:

Original post by SophieSmall
He only has his warped mind for "proof" you'll never get any off him.


I'm not taking any of this seriously haha, he can spend all his time online complaining about women while other men with a bit of sense are having happy and fulfilling relationships with women.

Fine by me :biggrin:

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Original post by StevieA
I don't think I look that bad , probably average or a little better and I'm almost 6'1'' and , 170 lbs and I dress nice, have good hygiene etc . Plus I've had plenty of gay guys try to chat me up when I lived around the gay area in Brighton (felt flattered in a way but no thanks, not my cup of tea). Why don't girls ever approach me? Is there something wrong with me or anything I can do to change it? I'm shy by nature but I have tried asking girls out quite a few times with little to zero success. :frown:

Is there anything I can do to have girls ask me out or will I die alone?:frown:


Hey you shouldn't worry about this, youl find the one!
One thing I would say is be yourself!
And if girls arnt noticing you or asking you out its there loss on your handsome style
Hope this helped:smile:
Hope we can be friends :smile:
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Original post by sarahussainxxx
Hey you shouldn't worry about this, youl find the one!
One thing I would say is be yourself!
And if girls arnt noticing you or asking you out its there loss on your handsome style
Hope this helped:smile:
Hope we can be friends :smile:


You're adorable! Unlike the nasty feminists giving me AIDS in this thread. I hope there are more girls like you in the world :frown: But I hope being friends isn't what all the other girls will say, I've been in the friendzone all my life. I am the Jean Valjean of friendzones, trying to escape :frown:
Original post by Eva.Gregoria
Threatened? Lol do you think your views are representive of what men think in real life? :lol: Please.

And lol at your logic, I'm a woman and you're thinking that your deductions of what I think like is correct without you being an actual woman. Ok :top:



I'm not taking any of this seriously haha, he can spend all his time online complaining about women while other men with a bit of sense are having happy and fulfilling relationships with women.

Fine by me :biggrin:

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Where did I say my views are representative of men in real life? I know I'm in an incredibly small minority. I never expected a good reception, though it's nice to see 1 person repped me. Most men decide to play the game because they have to, virtually all of them need female companionship to feel worth something. It takes a lot to get past that.

Where am I complaining about women? I said why I believed OP's annoyance at not getting women is wasted energy. I don't hate or dislike anyone, but a clear pattern of behaviour has shown itself to me. I am not lamenting over my "failure" in the eyes of society.

Yep, true, loads of men are enjoying the "companionship" at the moment, but they will pay the cost soon. Just look at divorce rates. And if you think people are going to tell you if their relationships are problematic, you're very naive.

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Men aren't supposed to be asked out.
I've never heard of a man being asked out in my entire life.
Original post by StevieA
I agree, it's nobody's ''job''. It's not 1952.


I'm not trying to perpetuate stereotypes, but in this instance I have to.
Women generally take rejection a lot harsher than men. They start thinking what's wrong with them, why they aren't good enough, and generally more commonly have an inferiority complex. Not to be a feminist, but a lot of pressure are put on women to look good also.

On the flip side, I know men could have this feeling as well but you just have to get over it. I've been rejected more times than I've been 'accepted' believe me. My success rate is probably 0.001% but I don't give up. Just gotta grow a pair and not be ashamed of looking like a fool I'm afraid (and if that doesn't work, lower your standards).
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I dont think its the looks.. i am an average looking girl. I am 5'5 :/ but anyways i know why guys wont approach me it is because i am muslim and i wear a hijab.. maybe there is something about you or the way you carry yourself they dont like or puts them off.. its a mystery or maybe the girls who like you are shy to approach you. I for one wouldnt approach a guy, id like him to approach me. Your girl is still out there.. keep looking :smile:
Reply 95
The OP will definitely die a virgin unless he accepts the advances from gay men.
Reply 96
yeah exactly the same here. There must be something about you (and me for that matter) that you're completely oblivious to, something which repels women.
Original post by Abstraction
Where did I say my views are representative of men in real life? I know I'm in an incredibly small minority. I never expected a good reception, though it's nice to see 1 person repped me. Most men decide to play the game because they have to, virtually all of them need female companionship to feel worth something. It takes a lot to get past that.

Where am I complaining about women? I said why I believed OP's annoyance at not getting women is wasted energy. I don't hate or dislike anyone, but a clear pattern of behaviour has shown itself to me. I am not lamenting over my "failure" in the eyes of society.

Yep, true, loads of men are enjoying the "companionship" at the moment, but they will pay the cost soon. Just look at divorce rates. And if you think people are going to tell you if their relationships are problematic, you're very naive.

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Whatever you say buddy :yy:

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Original post by IrishBoyInLondon
I'm not trying to perpetuate stereotypes, but in this instance I have to.
Women generally take rejection a lot harsher than men. They start thinking what's wrong with them, why they aren't good enough, and generally more commonly have an inferiority complex. Not to be a feminist, but a lot of pressure are put on women to look good also.

On the flip side, I know men could have this feeling as well but you just have to get over it. I've been rejected more times than I've been 'accepted' believe me. My success rate is probably 0.001% but I don't give up. Just gotta grow a pair and not be ashamed of looking like a fool I'm afraid (and if that doesn't work, lower your standards).


Men and women take rejection exactly the same. Difference is, women aren't constantly told that enduring rejection is an inevitable part of their existence, and so they don't get accustomed to it the way that a lot of men do.
Original post by BullViagra
what the **** is wrong with guys on tsr for the past few days?

actually laughed a little when i clicked this thread and saw that it was actually a male who was whining about not being asked out.

figure it out you nonce, girls seldom ask out the guy, that's your job. if you're too cowardly to do it, then tough.

btw stop trying to blame the other sex when it's clearly you at fault.


What's with the annoying stereotype? females get pissed off when they aren't asked out and it's OK, but when guys get pissed off suddenly you have a bunch of sexist ***** adhering to gender stereotypes. Females want equality, and yet they'd never do the stuff males do, i.e putting themselves on the front line, or actually asking a guy out. women need to put their arrogance behind and actually start making attempts, otherwise feminists aren't ever going to get there so called equality.

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