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    (Original post by carlaraptor)
    20 in, say, a month... sure. But how old would the girl be when you marry her, how many boyfriends would she have had, etc? Say she's 25 when you marry her, and she's been sexually active since the age of 16... does 20 still seem like such a high number?

    *shrug*

    Personally, I think it's good if a person has had a decent number of sexual partners before getting married. They've had the chance to get various 'experiences', and might know more about what they want out of a relationship.
    There's a double-standard between guys and girls. Two partners a year doesn't sound like a lot but 20 total does sound a lot. I understand your logic and it makes sense but most women don't take two guys a year in during the span of ten years.
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    I dont think I know many uni girls whom havnt slept with more.
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    (Original post by learningisrad)
    ...but most women don't take two guys a year in during the span of ten years.
    I don't think it happens like that necessarily, but I fully believe that many women have slept with more than two guys in a year. There's been 1-2 years where I've only slept with one person, but there's also been a year where I've slept with significantly more than one.
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    Jeeze, no. I mean I don't mind maybe 3-4, providing they were relationships, but 20!? That's a lot of **** I really don't want to think about. That ain't the sort of carefree personality I'm looking for.
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    If she was late 20s I'd probably think there was something a bit strange if she hadn't.
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    (Original post by EllieC130)
    Not a guy but just saying, I'd marry a guy who'd done the same so long as he didn't cheat during the relationship therefore I don't see why the attitude shouldn't be the same the other way round.
    Marry me x
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    If she was late 20s I'd probably think there was something a bit strange if she hadn't.
    TBF, if she had over 20 dicks by the time she's in her late 20's, it just goes to show she's obviously not very good at maintaining relationships! Each bf/fling she has got to last only a year max.

    And would she move one with you? Probably if she's moved on for over 20 before
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    (Original post by Yoshimaidaz)
    TBF, if she had over 20 dicks by the time she's in her late 20's, it just goes to show she's obviously not very good at maintaining relationships! Each bf/fling she has got to last only a year max.

    And would she move one with you? Probably if she's moved on for over 20 before
    Do you have self-esteem issues? Why do you think she would move on from you?

    and what on earth makes you assume that all 20 were boyfriends? Have you never had an ONS or a FWB?
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Do you have self-esteem issues? Why do you think she would move on from you?
    It's got nothing with self esteem.
    If you think of it logically - if she can't stay with over 20 guys for more than a year, what makes you think you will be the one?

    Maybe it's you who is overestimating your ability to flatter someone like that.
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    (Original post by Yoshimaidaz)
    It's got nothing with self esteem.
    If you think of it logically - if she can't stay with over 20 guys for more than a year, what makes you think you will be the one?

    Maybe it's you who is overestimating your ability to flatter someone like that.
    lol no. I am only going off personal experience here. A lot of guys act like complete *******s when it comes to relationships, I don't. Hence in over 10 years of dating, no-one has ever broken up with me.
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    As long as potential spouse is disease free and stays faithful in the marriage/relationship, its irrelevant.
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    (Original post by CJKay)
    Jeeze, no. I mean I don't mind maybe 3-4, providing they were relationships, but 20!? That's a lot of **** I really don't want to think about. That ain't the sort of carefree personality I'm looking for.
    since when is a relationship carefree...
    I mean live and let live sure..its your choice
    Just personally I wouldn't be overly bothered about it.
    Tbh amount of bfs would more put me off....I know some girls have the same problem time and time again with lads..and just bounce from bf to bf instead of sorting the issue out...sex though..its much less clear cut.

    Considering 30 is the typical age to marry..20 doesn't seem that crazy..I mean 2 a year for 10 years..hardly a dealbreaker.
    (Original post by toonervoustotalk)
    OK I will try but I don't want ons or any sexual partners
    I only want a girlfriend rn

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    thats fair enough

    (Original post by carlaraptor)
    I don't think it happens like that necessarily, but I fully believe that many women have slept with more than two guys in a year. There's been 1-2 years where I've only slept with one person, but there's also been a year where I've slept with significantly more than one.
    yeh exactly 20 isn't much.I knew a guy who's dating a women who's been with roughly 500 men...that's men you might begin to worry!
    but 20 I mean..thats as close you get to a virgin these days with women by 30!
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    since when is a relationship carefree...
    I mean live and let live sure..its your choice
    Just personally I wouldn't be overly bothered about it.
    Tbh amount of bfs would more put me off....I know some girls have the same problem time and time again with lads..and just bounce from bf to bf instead of sorting the issue out...sex though..its much less clear cut.
    Uh, relationships aren't carefree? I think you misread what I wrote.

    Also agreed about the number of boyfriends part. I prefer somebody with self-restraint in general. I find people who generally just avoid jumping from person to person are much more reliable because they put their faith in you for the long-term.

    I like to think about and solidify my future, and somebody who just hops around for sex or relationships... generally doesn't have much of a plan.
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    (Original post by CJKay)
    Uh, relationships aren't carefree? I think you misread what I wrote.

    Also agreed about the number of boyfriends part. I prefer somebody with self-restraint in general. I find people who generally just avoid jumping from person to person are much more reliable because they put their faith in you for the long-term.

    I like to think about and solidify my future, and somebody who just hops around for sex or relationships... generally doesn't have much of a plan.
    but having 20 sexual partners is different to 20 bf's with ONS quite common these days..

    20 really isn't overly much..fair enough if its a dealbreaker for you but i'd wonder how strict you are on other criteria.
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    but having 20 sexual partners is different to 20 bf's with ONS quite common these days..

    20 really isn't overly much..fair enough if its a dealbreaker for you but i'd wonder how strict you are on other criteria.
    Criteria such as..?
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    (Original post by CJKay)
    Criteria such as..?
    Looks.
    Personality.
    Interests.
    Ambitions.
    Occupation.
    Ethnicity.
    and the list goes on...

    Ideally what you're looking for should match what you offer.

    i.e. the more you can offer the more picky you can afford to be generally speaking

    not to mention your personal circumstance in the opportunities you get to meet potential partners and your ability to get to the dating stage and so on..
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    Looks.
    Not particularly picky. I'm no looker myself.

    Personality.
    Ambitions.
    Prefer somebody aspirational, don't care what about. Somebody naturally maternal would be a plus but I've not exactly been known to pick out that sort of woman.

    Interests.
    Not bothered. Preferably at least something in common. Sciences, engineering, humanities, whatever; just not something like "women's studies" or "feminism".

    Ethnicity.
    :dontknow: Caucasian, Eastern, Latin, dunno.

    Hope that answered your questions. I think it's perfectly reasonable to not want somebody who puts such little emphasis on sharing personal space on basic terms, like "(s)he was hot so we banged".
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    (Original post by CJKay)
    Not particularly picky. I'm no looker myself.



    Prefer somebody aspirational, don't care what about. Somebody naturally maternal would be a plus but I've not exactly been known to pick out that sort of woman.



    Not bothered. Preferably at least something in common. Sciences, engineering, humanities, whatever; just not something like "women's studies" or "feminism".



    :dontknow: Caucasian, Eastern, Latin, dunno.

    Hope that answered your questions. I think it's perfectly reasonable to not want somebody who puts such little emphasis on sharing personal space on basic terms, like "(s)he was hot so we banged".
    yeh you don't seem overly picky so I'm sure you'll be grand

    either way you can picky regardless and it may still work out for you.

    such is life...so much of it down to pure luck

    I hope the luck is on the good side for you
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    20? Yeah, I don't see the problem.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    lol no. I am only going off personal experience here. A lot of guys act like complete *******s when it comes to relationships, I don't. Hence in over 10 years of dating, no-one has ever broken up with me.
    If you aren't a ******* in relationships AND no girls have willingly broken up with you...why did you break up then?

    Either you WERE a ******* and ran out of love for her, or she broke up with you.
 
 
 
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