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    It depends. In most cases I'd say no, I don't welcome disloyalty or weakness.
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    No. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
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    Sorry but no. And I don't know why people keep saying we are saying no because we are young, that's the type of talk that has people stuck in unhappy marriages.

    My mum is 52 and she told me to never accept two things from a man

    1. Abuse
    2. Cheating

    I can deal with a man losing his job, getting ill, anything but sorry I will not accept someone cheating on me or verbally or physically abusing me.

    When my uncle cheated on my aunt. She left everything the house, the car everything and even though she had to eat beans on toast for two years she's my hero. I respect her more than those women whose husband is shagging everyone in the office and they stay 'for the kids'.

    And when the kids turn 18 and leave what do you do then ?!

    Just no.
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    (Original post by PrincessAlexis)
    Sorry but no. And I don't know why people keep saying we are saying no because we are young, that's the type of talk that has people stuck in unhappy marriages.

    My mum is 52 and she told me to never accept two things from a man

    1. Abuse
    2. Cheating

    I can deal with a man losing his job, getting ill, anything but sorry I will not accept someone cheating on me or verbally or physically abusing me.

    When my uncle cheated on my aunt. She left everything the house, the car everything and even though she had to eat beans on toast for two years she's my hero. I respect her more than those women whose husband is shagging everyone in the office and they stay 'for the kids'.

    And when the kids turn 18 and leave what do you do then ?!

    Just no.
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    I would never forgive that person, what a betrayal. I don't care if we have children or have been together for 30 years, I would dump him right then & there.
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    It depends. For some people there may be many factors as to why they cheat. Some are just *******s and some, it may have been a one off thing that they immediately regret and seek forgiveness for. For that I would consider forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes. It depends on the situation.
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    (Original post by Queen Cersei)
    At the weekend I got involved in a rather heavy debate about whether a wife would forgive her husband if she found out he had cheated on her with someone from work. (This is going on at my friend's workplace)

    I personally couldn't even imagine continuing with someone who had betrayed me- and in the case outlined above the husband has been telling someone at work that he could make them so happy etc, and for me that kind of emotional cheating is even more unforgivable...

    Would you/have you ever forgiven cheating?
    I have forgiven in the past only for me to be cheated on again. But the past couple that have cheated on me, I never forgave them for it and it will be the same in future if someone cheats on me.
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    For the people who say that they should stay together for the children. I don't think that they should. My parents divorced (not for cheating) and I'm glad. I would have had to endure a toxic household. Just because one forgives the other doesn't mean it will be all hearts and flowers. I think it is dangerous for children to be in the midst of a tense relationship. It could alienate them about how relationships work when they create their own.


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    Relationships aren't supposed to be monogamous evolutionary science shows this though concepts like sperm competition.I personally think people who believe so strongly about monogamous or else are living in denial and are very selfish,why can't someone go with someone else as well as you?Of course you don't love the person if from the smallest of things you dump them/divorce them you seriously are in denials if you think having an affair is the worst thing a married couple is going to have to face, we forgive much worse things happening to us and being so prone to holding a grudge shows immaturity.I would advise being grateful for what you have if you are happy with your relationship then you shouldn't let small incidents ruin it.
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    Going along with what my mum says "once a cheater, always a cheater" while that may not necessarily be true, it is true that if this person was inclined to cheat once what's to say they wouldn't do it again? I'd likely break it off for good.
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    I personally wouldn't.

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    It absolutely depends on the circumstances for me. There is a massive difference between a) a drunken kiss with a random after we've just had argument and for which he feels genuine remorse, or b) an on-going affair involving an emotional connection.

    These are two extreme examples obviously, and there's a very large grey area in between, so on the whole, I think I could only judge on a case-by-case basis, and I could never state in absolute terms that I would 'never' forgive someone for cheating.
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    If it's just kissing then possibly, depending on the situation/how it was initiated and if the person is fully honest.. but sex is definitely unforgivable.
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    (Original post by dhr90)
    No. Once a cheat, always a cheat.
    That's not true, everybody makes mistakes. If they've learned and want to change then fair play.

    I don't find it surprising that so many people are certain they wouldn't, many people say they wouldn't until it actually happens and then they do because they still love them and can't bring themselves to end it.

    It would be very difficult to make it work from that, the paranoia and jealousy will drive you mad, will be next to impossible to trust them again but that's the truth tbh.

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    Can't be that attracted to me if they feel the need for a side-hoe.

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    There is an old French saying "Cela ne dit pas tout ce que je suis en train de faire semblant qu'il fait pour faire valoir mon point sonne mieux et de me faire sonne plus intelligemment" it simply means that the future cannot be told by the past.
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    (Original post by Ninja_Master9000)
    There is an old French saying "Cela ne dit pas tout ce que je suis en train de faire semblant qu'il fait pour faire valoir mon point sonne mieux et de me faire sonne plus intelligemment" it simply means that the future cannot be told by the past.
    I'm translating that very literally and uh.... how does that make that?
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    (Original post by Wilfred Little)
    That's not true, everybody makes mistakes. If they've learned and want to change then fair play.

    I don't find it surprising that so many people are certain they wouldn't, many people say they wouldn't until it actually happens and then they do because they still love them and can't bring themselves to end it.

    It would be very difficult to make it work from that, the paranoia and jealousy will drive you mad, will be next to impossible to trust them again but that's the truth tbh.

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    These people have low self esteem.

    'love is not enough.
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    (Original post by PrincessAlexis)
    These people have low self esteem.

    'love is not enough.
    If you say so. You're assuming you can just act rationally when you're so emotionally involved with this person.

    This thread is filled with sanctimonious kids with no real idea.
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    Tbh I can admit that I am a cheat, but, I would dump any gf in an instant if she cheats. It's hypocritical, but then again I am not going to admit I am a particularly selfless person, I am pretty honest with myself.

    I don't think anyone would admit it here, but having an affair is exciting. The sneaking around, the amazing sex, the fact that you know it is the absolutely wrong thing to do. Why do men see escorts, prostitutes, strippers, office girls, girls from the gym, other people's gf's/wives? It's sexually exciting. It's seedy. Does not mean they are emotionally tied to these women, far from it, but it makes you feel alive.
 
 
 
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