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    (Original post by lccy)
    There was no 'coping'<br />
    I liked being in a relationship when I was in one. I have never cheated in a relationship. I didn't find it difficult at all. X<br />
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    Fair enough. Not judging you at all either i'm just curious, have a lovely weekend.
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    (Original post by BunnyMisery246)
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    Fair enough. Not judging you at all either i'm just curious, have a lovely weekend.
    You too!


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    Yes, I've had one, and almost never commit to exclusivity with partners, but then I'm a male, whose purposes this tends to suit, and who can 'get away with it' :dontknow:

    (Original post by BunnyMisery246)
    not sure what to do
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    No way. I'd get too jealous having to share a guy.
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    God no, I'm too jealous and possessive as it is.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Yes, I've had one, and almost never commit to exclusivity with partners, but then I'm a male, whose purposes this tends to suit, and who can 'get away with it' :dontknow:

    :begone:
    Yeah... Interesting to see how you're getting no crap for your choices yet in getting loads.


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    (Original post by lccy)
    Yeah... Interesting to see how you're getting no crap for your choices yet in getting loads.


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    Don't tell me you're asking for gender equality as well as having a sex life?! :eek:



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    (Original post by superwolf)
    Don't tell me you're asking for gender equality as well as having a sex life?! :eek:



    I know yeah, hard to believe we'd want such things


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    This thread has become lively, it's cheered me up at least.
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    (Original post by BunnyMisery246)
    This thread has become lively, it's cheered me up at least.
    Glad to be of service! :hat2:
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    (Original post by lccy)
    Yeah... Interesting to see how you're getting no crap for your choices yet in getting loads
    I've had plenty of emo out of some of the girls themselves, in the past, but.. a few related thoughts as to why I get away with it:

    • I am relatively addictive (so girls will tend to excuse almost anything, especially if they understand male sexuality)
    • I am relatively classy, and discrete, in the manner in which I conduct myself
    • I am relatively above board, and unabashed/unapologetic, about 'what this is' (when the topic comes up)
    • I tend to see girls in situations/for durations that negate the prospect of major drama
    • I tend only to get casual with girls whom I know are reasonably mature/sexually liberated vs. sensitive little lambs
    • I invariably make it about anything but her e.g. 'at uni/at distance/because of my health/not cut out to be a bf' = "looking for something light"
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    OP if he's proposing this after two years, something's probably up. If you're not happy with the idea of an open relationship, then it would be doomed to fail anyway. If he insists on it, then so is the relationship.

    (Original post by bmjordan)
    If I was in this situation I would see this as the end of my relationship. Anyone that is wanting to be with you will want you and just you. I can't get my head around the open relationship thing.
    Just because you can't get your head around it, doesn't mean you can speak for everyone.

    (Original post by BunnyMisery246)
    Typical male response. :rolleyes:
    And neither can you OP.
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    (Original post by lccy)
    Or maybe it just shows that I haven't been exposed to healthy relationships, nor have I been in ones where I was treated properly and I don't wish to be in a relationship now. And I'm just going to say again that I did NOT have 'multiple boyfriends'.

    I'm really sorry you keep misunderstanding the situation.

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    So because you had a bunch of bad relationships, this means you thing it's a good idea to have multiple at once? What? Did you actually have an open relationship i.e. being romantically involved with more than one person at a time, or did you just go on a bunch of dates? :confused:
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    (Original post by superwolf)
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    You still haven't answered how it makes you feel that clearly you are not enough for the person you love. That's a weird idea of love "I love you, but tonight I'm going to be intimate with someone else."
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    I tried to write a coherent reply to the stupidity but realised I was assuming they would understand basic logic and psychology. Back to the popcorn for me.
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    (Original post by CJKay)

    Just because you can't get your head around it, doesn't mean you can speak for everyone.
    Sure you can. But because you disagree, that doesn't mean you don't understand it. What I understand of it is that on the outside people proclaim they are happy, but really they are doing it because they have massive trust issue and it helps alleviate this insecurity by having not just fall back girls/guys, but having multiple at once. I've yet to meet someone who is mentally well adjusted who thinks that an open relationship is a good idea. However if you want to find goths and rock kids who have a history of self harm and abusive pasts who are into it, well there are plenty to choose from...
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    (Original post by geoking)
    So because you had a bunch of bad relationships, this means you thing it's a good idea to have multiple at once? What? Did you actually have an open relationship i.e. being romantically involved with more than one person at a time, or did you just go on a bunch of dates? :confused:
    Did I say that?

    And yes, I was romantically involved with all of these guys, but the word 'boyfriend' implies exclusivity, which there was not.
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    (Original post by lccy)
    Did I say that?

    And yes, I was romantically involved with all of these guys, but the word 'boyfriend' implies exclusivity, which there was not.
    Define what you mean by "romantically involved". And you didn't say that, but that's what you did
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    (Original post by geoking)
    You still haven't answered how it makes you feel that clearly you are not enough for the person you love. That's a weird idea of love "I love you, but tonight I'm going to be intimate with someone else."
    I have a more open view of what love is, what can I say? Somehow I've managed not to solely equate sex with love, and can in fact enjoy one with or without the other. I don't like to say I'm better than other people (say you for instance) but... I don't mind strongly implying it.

    Oh you did have a look through my post history? How delightfully creepy of you. No doubt you took note of my general bad character, what with the disgraceful working hard for my degree, abhorrent volunteering with the NHS, and absolutely vile intentions of studying occupational therapy with a view to helping out those suffering from mental ill health. Or did you dismiss me because I happen to be different to you and your itty bitty view of what's 'normal'?
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    (Original post by geoking)
    Define what you mean by "romantically involved". And you didn't say that, but that's what you did
    I liked them not just physically but also emotionally/I had feelings for them/we would do romantic things together.... I even got to a point with one of them where I considered a relationship (but didn't because we wanted different things).
 
 
 
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