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    I really like the smell of cigarettes, especially when it's coming from an attractive girl
    As a non-smoker, I'd give it a go.
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    dont worry OP in the real world no one gives a ****

    only pruney TSRians are the fussy ones
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    Nope, doesn't bother me at all!
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    Yes, deal breaker. Not only is it a smell / taste thing, but it reflects upon the person who does it. If you're smoking in this day and age, when you know all the stuff it does to your body...what does it say about you as a person?
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    Yes, not only is the habit disgusting I firmly believe you have to be a moron to smoke these days when the health information is so obvious.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a girl and a light smoker (around 4-7 a day). I'm actually quite fit, I don't smell like an ashtray and always chew a gum after smoking as I don't like the aftertaste anyway. Would this be a dealbreaker to a lot of people? In other words, would you reject a smoker just due to the fact that they enjoy the occasional fag?

    P.S.: Even I probably wouldn't date someone who smoked like 2-3 packs a day, that's freaking insane. I'm talking about a light/reasonable smoking habit here.
    Surely like 1-2 a day is a light smoker lol?

    And no, it's gross to be around, and still gross in terms of smelly clothes, breath.

    Kissing a smoker is just nauseating.
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    Yes. The smell is awful, and it's a pretty vile habit.
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    Yes, it would be a dealbreaker in the majority of cases. The only exception would probably be if I'd liked someone for a long time, and found out they smoked (rarely) later on. Even then I'd be uncomfortable with it, I expect.
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    Yep. I tried to ignore it recently, but in the end I couldn't really tolerate it anymore. I was just so turned off.

    And for people saying something about "being hypocrites" for judging smokers because most eat unhealthily, drink, don't exercise, etc.: me possibly (not) doing those things will NOT affect someone else's health. Smoking, however, will. Anyone can do to their body what they want, but when it comes to smoking you're forcing others around you to smell and inhale your **** too.
    I wish my mum would stop smoking. I don't want her to get ill from it.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    dont worry OP in the real world no one gives a ****

    only pruney TSRians are the fussy ones
    Why is it pruney to be put off someone because of smoking?
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    I'd never date a smoker.

    If she used to smoke then it's different.. but having that smell constantly around me would drive me crazy

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    no...i wouldn't. i hate smoking...no need for it....
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    Not a deal breaker for me at all doesn't even bother me really
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    I don't find it attractive but it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

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    4-7 a day isn't light really, that's more moderate. If it was just 4 a day, that's light.

    Anyway, for the most part I wouldn't want to go out with a smoker. If the girl of my dreams came along though and the only problem was that she smoked, I wouldn't ditch her for that. We'd have to be on the understanding though, that there would be no smoking in the house if we moved in together, people that smoke in their houses have smelly houses and smelly clothes.
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    I don't have a problem with it. My boyfriend of four years smokes and we have lived together nearly a year. As long as my house doesn't reek I don't mind. He smokes a fair amount too but rarely in the house, maybe 2-4 a week in the house. If his mates come round and they end up drinking a lot and smoking alongside then I do need to aerate the house the next day though...

    Although I agree with the above poster 4-7 a day isn't a light smoking habit even if you cover it well and your friends don't know.
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    Total deal-breaker.

    There is nothing remotely attractive about smoking to me, and detracts greatly from a woman's other qualities.
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    Deal breaker if it's cigarettes. Wouldn't mind if it was cannabis. I don't smoke though.
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    (Original post by Mad Vlad)
    I strongly dislike smoking; it's not a total dealbreaker but the other person would have to be something pretty damn special for me to even consider them.
    Pretty much this. Smoking is one of those issues that would be extremely hard for me to tolerate.
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    I'm glad for the most part, majority of the forum are against smoking and don't find smoking "attractive".
    As if inhaling toxic smoke which kills you can be attractive - you don't see people saying to self-harm is attractive, I don't see why smoking can be.

    It's not money which is the main issue, money can be re-earned; in the end money are pieces of paper which cannot be compared to a human being's life.
    How can I watch the love of my life slowly kill themselves?
    If the person I loved smoked it would hurt me dearly!
    Smoking shortens your life span and causes your body to deteriorate, everyone seems to know this yet they do it anyway (??)

    If we were to stay with each other for better or worse, worse is that my partner would leave me sooner on their own accord all because they "enjoy the occasional fag" or simply because they never seriously thought about quitting. When you're old and frail, they may not even live to be by your side.

    Surely, if you wish you date someone you'd wish the feelings you have for each other would last forever and to lead to something long term. Well, "long term" isn't as long if you were to smoke. There's so much more activities to do in this world to get a rush or to relieve stress.
    If you hate sports you can go on holidays
    If you have no money you can go hiking and strolls
    If you hate hiking you can go camping
    Hate camping? View the stars
    Hate stars? Bake? Learn a new language meet new people learn new cultures

    Heck, playing The Sims 3 is better for you than smoking.

    If people are smoking to stay in a social group, ditch that social group and find one that's not self-harming. It'd be better for you, you only live once, don't poison it.

    End note - no, it hurts like crazy to see the one you love self-harm. Doesn't matter if it's light smoking or heavy, in the end - it's still harming your body.
    For those saying "It's their body, they can do what they like" - yeah sure, of course --- but if it's dating it's a different matter. Takes two to tango, and I don't want a partner that's going to collapse and run out of breathe or contract a deadly disease when I could've prevented it instead of having both of us suffer. You have to consider your partner's feelings if they were to see you in a hospital bed and vice versa. Can hardly find anyone able to justify it's a pleasant feeling to see your partner dying on a hospital bed unless you're missing a brain cell.
 
 
 
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