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    Why must you place your happiness on mere three words & people?

    In my head, words cannot describe how great I am.
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    Some people don't get called good looking or intelligent, for the simple reason that they're not.

    Have you considered that this might be true?
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    People never compliment me on anything and it's probably the other way around. I am always being criticised. But it only motivates me.
    Keep it real don't let people's thoughts about you affect you and don't expect them to say things to you. That will make you weak
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    You have a diamond inside of your heart,a light that shines bright as the stars. Don't be afraid to be all that you are, you'll be fine
    this is lovely
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    (Original post by Smash Bandicoot)

    Because looks don't matter much. Okay, maybe it makes life easier but very few people are stunning and cope just fine
    really? I don't want to hurt OP but people are notoriously shallow, himself included judging by his 'do I have a chance with Penny from TBBT?' threads
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    Been following the thread. Have you guys noticed he hasn't posted? I think you might have made him quit on life :/
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    (Original post by Imperion)
    Been following the thread. Have you guys noticed he hasn't posted? I think you might have made him quit on life :/
    several posters including myself and AnharM probably triggered him with our brutality, so he went to go socialise with some people more sensitive to his insecurities. He'll be back.
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    (Original post by Smash Bandicoot)
    several posters including myself and AnharM probably triggered him with our brutality, so he went to go socialise with some people more sensitive to his insecurities. He'll be back.
    I said what I had to say for his own good...someone had to say it straight to him. I thought these self-pitying threads will eventually stop, so I let him off until now.
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    (Original post by AnharM)
    I said what I had to say for his own good...someone had to say it straight to him. I thought these self-pitying threads will eventually stop, so I let him off until now.
    bro has chronic social anxiety and subclinical depression of the 'low mood/low self-esteem' variety, he needs a little therapy tbh.
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    (Original post by Imperion)
    Been following the thread. Have you guys noticed he hasn't posted? I think you might have made him quit on life :/
    I haven't quit on life aha I've still been following the thread. I just wanted to get a gauge all the views of different people. Some people are more blunt then others that's for sure I'm thankful for the positive replies though I don't think I've posted that many "self pitying" threads to be honest & certainly not recently.

    It's just that I can't help the way I feel sometimes & feel a bit trapped with not many other people for support, however I admit positing a thread with a bunch of strangers might not be the best place as there's bound to be some replies that might hurt me inside. However I guess I just have to grow a thicker skin & deal with it. Hopefully it will make me stronger as a person
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    (Original post by Multitalented me)
    I haven't quit on life aha I've still been following the thread. I just wanted to get a gauge all the views of different people. Some people are more blunt then others that's for sure I'm thankful for the positive replies though I don't think I've posted that many "self pitying" threads to be honest & certainly not recently.

    It's just that I can't help the way I feel sometimes & feel a bit trapped with not many other people for support, however I admit positing a thread with a bunch of strangers might not be the best place as there's bound to be some replies that might hurt me inside. However I guess I just have to grow a thicker skin & deal with it. Hopefully it will make me stronger as a person
    OP it's not your problem it's society's problem but by virtue of being part of society it has become unfairly your problem-you're too sensitive and really I feel you need judging by your multitude of threads in the past 3 years, therapy for social anxiety (for self-esteem boost, which is the difference between us since I am just plain mentally ill). There is nothing incredibly wrong with you, you are just insanely I mean very transparently insecure and unfortunately as a guy people can rip you to shreds for it. So I'm giving you a heads up and looking out for you bro, just a thought.
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    (Original post by Smash Bandicoot)
    OP it's not your problem it's society's problem but by virtue of being part of society it has become unfairly your problem-you're too sensitive and really I feel you need judging by your multitude of threads in the past 3 years, therapy for social anxiety (for self-esteem boost, which is the difference between us since I am just plain mentally ill). There is nothing incredibly wrong with you, you are just insanely I mean very transparently insecure and unfortunately as a guy people can rip you to shreds for it. So I'm giving you a heads up and looking out for you bro, just a thought.
    Ah ok thanks, I guess some people might think I'm trying to attention seek & stuff when I really do need a little bit of help, or some nice words of support to raise my self-esteem. However is TSR really the best place for this, I need to try & raise my own self-esteem by myself, I know I'm a guy so there's more of an emphasis on me to stay tough & everything but well I'm human too, yeah I might naturally be a bit more sensitive than other people. I can't help it but I think I can at least improve with the right support base & developing a better mental attitude. I appreciate your post though
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    (Original post by Multitalented me)
    Ah ok thanks, I guess some people might think I'm trying to attention seek & stuff when I really do need a little bit of help, or some nice words of support to raise my self-esteem. However is TSR really the best place for this, I need to try & raise my own self-esteem by myself, I know I'm a guy so there's more of an emphasis on me to stay tough & everything but well I'm human too, yeah I might naturally be a bit more sensitive than other people. I can't help it but I think I can at least improve with the right support base & developing a better mental attitude. I appreciate your post though
    a) no it's not, the Internet is not a great place for insecure people in general. A lot of haughty, arrogant views are passed here and some things which would be considered socially unacceptable, even if there is some grain of truth

    b) yes you are, so please seek the help of a professional who couldn't discriminate on gender basis if they wanted to

    PM me tomorrow, if you need a chat and some resources
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    (Original post by Multitalented me)
    I haven't quit on life aha I've still been following the thread. I just wanted to get a gauge all the views of different people. Some people are more blunt then others that's for sure I'm thankful for the positive replies though I don't think I've posted that many "self pitying" threads to be honest & certainly not recently.

    It's just that I can't help the way I feel sometimes & feel a bit trapped with not many other people for support, however I admit positing a thread with a bunch of strangers might not be the best place as there's bound to be some replies that might hurt me inside. However I guess I just have to grow a thicker skin & deal with it. Hopefully it will make me stronger as a person
    When I was really young I had a 'similar' problem. My teacher told me "At the end of the day, it's you and yourself." If you rely on emotional support to live, sorry but this current world will tear you limb to limb.
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    well... how are we supposed to know if you are attractive if you have such a small picture? Anyway, I know how you feel, as I don't get enough people telling me I am attractive though my mirror tells me different. I'm sure you are intelligent too. To the person who posted above me... your truth is not everyone elses truth. I think this guy was brave to post that, I could have so easily predicted the comments that would follow. I do sympathise with the OP. Anyway, bye.
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    (Original post by Multitalented me)
    The main compliments I seem to receive from the few people that I know is that I'm nice/lovely/sweet/friendly/funny but yeah seemingly never the aforementioned two qualities, it would just make me feel kinda good if people could say that I'm handsome or intelligent as well :daydreaming: (& preferably not family or older people to be totally honest). Anyway I dunno why I made this thread really :erm: Anyone else who can empathise perhaps?...
    Pull yourself together and brush up and be confident. Moping won't get you anywhere....
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    (Original post by Multitalented me)
    The main compliments I seem to receive from the few people that I know is that I'm nice/lovely/sweet/friendly/funny but yeah seemingly never the aforementioned two qualities, it would just make me feel kinda good if people could say that I'm handsome or intelligent as well :daydreaming: (& preferably not family or older people to be totally honest). Anyway I dunno why I made this thread really :erm: Anyone else who can empathise perhaps?...
    Why do you value sexual attractivity and intelligence over your other qualities? Merely because you lack them? Are you charismatic? Empathetic? Moral? All very good qualities. They will take you quite far in life too.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Why do you value sexual attractivity and intelligence over your other qualities? Merely because you lack them? Are you charismatic? Empathetic? Moral? All very good qualities. They will take you quite far in life too.
    -charisma requires intelligence 90% of the time-and confidence (boom boom)

    -Empathetic and moral traits get you 'sweet' and 'nice', I'm sure OP has plenty of beta provider traits, he'll need a serious confidence boost before he can acquire/project other high value traits. Either that or he needs to wait until his late 20s when everyone's hormones die down and financial security is the prerequisite
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    (Original post by Jumbledog)
    well... how are we supposed to know if you are attractive if you have such a small picture? Anyway, I know how you feel, as I don't get enough people telling me I am attractive though my mirror tells me different. I'm sure you are intelligent too. To the person who posted above me... your truth is not everyone elses truth. I think this guy was brave to post that, I could have so easily predicted the comments that would follow. I do sympathise with the OP. Anyway, bye.
    who, me? I greatly sympathise with OP. In fact we're very similar people-I'm just more confident and he's more emotionally stable.
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    (Original post by Smash Bandicoot)
    -charisma requires intelligence 90% of the time-and confidence (boom boom)

    -Empathetic and moral traits get you 'sweet' and 'nice', I'm sure OP has plenty of beta provider traits, he'll need a serious confidence boost before he can acquire/project other high value traits. Either that or he needs to wait until his late 20s when everyone's hormones die down and financial security is the prerequisite
    Dreaming about being different from how he is will not do anything for his confidence.

    The first step to being confident is being introspective and knowing fine well what your best qualities and worst qualities are, making adjustments where possible and then making the best out of what you have thereafter.

    With that comes an inevitable confidence boost and with confidence life is much easier.
 
 
 
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