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    Not gonna lie, the fact that you were so obsessed with being masculine and attractive to women to get cosmetic surgery seems really sad to me. I had a bad time in school too and am not as sexually gregarious as modern male culture tells me I should be but I don't think the answer should be to modify yourself so drastically just to fit in with an ideal made up by the advertising and pornography industry. I hope you don't think your appearance is the reason why you "have no friends" or are still a virgin - it's your self-perception that is your issue here. Do you/have you ever seen a MH professional about your issues?
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    I don't have a question but WOW
    You are handsome!
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    OP why didn't you use your opportunity as a gross kid to develop your personality, like us fat chicks have to do?
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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    If I went out alone, I would look like a weird loner... especially given my socially ineptitude.
    Why does it matter if you go out alone? I go to movies, festivals and gigs on my own all the time and no-one I have ever met has thought that was a "weird loner" thing to do. Occasionally, if I meet people at these events, they may ask why I'm not with anyone, to which I say I came for the event itself or didn't have anyone to come with. The reactions are quite the opposite of what you would assume, it's actually seen as a signifier of confidence and independence, rather than weird or lonely. I have met quite a lot of people through going to things alone.

    N.B. I have previously, and occasionally do, suffer from bad social anxiety so I do know where you are coming from re: social ineptitude.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    OP why didn't you use your opportunity as a gross kid to develop your personality, like us fat chicks have to do?
    I have made a lot of progress.

    I was diagnosed with asperger's as a kid. The diagnosis really didn't do me a lot of good because I used it as an excuse a lot and just accepted I would be unable to blend in.

    In the last couple of years of high-school and the early years of university, I overcome a lot of my prior behaviour. And by that I mean, I am now able to look people in the eyes when I talk to them, I can sometimes initiate conversation and I don't mind people touching me anymore.
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    (Original post by z3ro-one)
    Not gonna lie, the fact that you were so obsessed with being masculine and attractive to women to get cosmetic surgery seems really sad to me. I had a bad time in school too and am not as sexually gregarious as modern male culture tells me I should be but I don't think the answer should be to modify yourself so drastically just to fit in with an ideal made up by the advertising and pornography industry. I hope you don't think your appearance is the reason why you "have no friends" or are still a virgin - it's your self-perception that is your issue here. Do you/have you ever seen a MH professional about your issues?
    I barely had any surgical operations. All I did was have jaw implants and brow-ridge filler. That's two procedures.

    Being ugly and having asperger's is a DEATH SENTENCE. I may as well fix ONE.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    OP why didn't you use your opportunity as a gross kid to develop your personality, like us fat chicks have to do?
    Women have personalities?
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    Women have personalities?
    Get out of my cyberspace.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    Get out of my cyberspace.
    What?
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    Sorry but if that is you then you really don't need that much of a personality to get laid. Some of the hottest girls I know have the personality of a used condom but that never holds them back.

    However developing social skills is important in the long run. So join clubs, get a job if you don't already, go travelling and you'll be forced into meeting and talking to new people.
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    (Original post by IamJacksContempt)
    Sorry but if that is you then you really don't need that much of a personality to get laid. Some of the hottest girls I know have the personality of a used condom but that never holds them back.

    However developing social skills is important in the long run. So join clubs, get a job if you don't already, go travelling and you'll be forced into meeting and talking to new people.
    Usually being described as "full of spunk" is a good thing. Or at least it used to be :shakecane:
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    What?
    Get out of my cyberspace.
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    (Original post by IamJacksContempt)
    Sorry but if that is you then you really don't need that much of a personality to get laid. Some of the hottest girls I know have the personality of a used condom but that never holds them back.

    However developing social skills is important in the long run. So join clubs, get a job if you don't already, go travelling and you'll be forced into meeting and talking to new people.
    It is substantially easier for females to acquire sex. It is simply the nature of the game: the men pursue, the women are pursued. A consequence of this is that, because females are in demand, sex is never a scarcity for them. So, if you are even a somewhat attractive female, you will be able to get laid easily... even if you can barely utter a coherent sentence.

    It's not the same for guys... in the few times I have gone to pubs/clubs, I always end up coming across weird/creepy when girls approach me because male/female interactions haven't been ingrained into my subconscious like they have for people with normal upbringings/adolescences.

    I once went to a bar by my own. I sat at the counter and a fairly attractive 22-25 year old sat down on the stool next to me and asked if I was a gymnast for some reason (she said I had a gymnast's body). I said "no, I lift weights", and then she eventually asked me to buy her a drink to which I replied, "I don't have ID but I can get you a soft-drink if you like". She looked at me oddly and then asked if I wanted to play darts. I told her I didn't because my brother once got a dart thrown in his leg and I prefer to abstain from darts if I have the choice. After that, she said she was going to the toilet and then left.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    OP why didn't you use your opportunity as a gross kid to develop your personality, like us fat chicks have to do?
    Because being fat is something you can change naturally.
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    (Original post by iAre Teh Lejend)
    Because being fat is something you can change naturally.
    Nothing to do with what I actually asked, but ok.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    Get out of my cyberspace.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    Nothing to do with what I actually asked, but ok.
    I misread your question lol. Forgive me I'm tired. :c
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    (Original post by iAre Teh Lejend)
    I misread your question lol. Forgive me I'm tired. :c
    :yy: get working on that spiffy haircut I suggested.
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    (Original post by FrankTeller1234)
    I barely had any surgical operations. All I did was have jaw implants and brow-ridge filler. That's two procedures.

    Being ugly and having asperger's is a DEATH SENTENCE. I may as well fix ONE.
    Do you have any pictures of what you looked like before you had surgery/worked out/roid'd up?
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    :yy: get working on that spiffy haircut I suggested.
    I'm on it girl <3
 
 
 
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