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    (Original post by stefano865)
    Cool.

    Let me know if you get on.


    Really hope you find a good guy.

    Put yourself out there and it should happen.

    Do you want kids out of interest?
    Eventually. My eggs aren't getting any younger.

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    If you're going to wait nothing will change, except your age.

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    Good luck with trying new things.

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    Is there any cultural significance to this misspelling?
    No, just a bit of tongue in cheek humour, making light hearted humour of my own situation.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Sounds like you have no problem attracting men, so I'd say it comes down to a few things. I'm just going to throw a few out there, and I'm not judging you.

    A) Something about you is unattractive. It could be your appearance or personality, or perhaps both.

    B) Your standards are too high.

    C) You had chances but never took them up.

    D) You're just not meeting the right guys. I would say this is the culprit, given your history of being with men who didn't want commitment; it sounds like you're attracted to the very type of men who you aren't looking for in the long-term.

    Not sure what else to suggest other than to keep living your life and putting yourself out there. The right guy should come along eventually (and I know this is frustrating to read). If you are the person you say you are, might be just a case of you not finding love as easily as others.
    Thanks for taking the time to respond. In response to your suggestions:

    A) Appearence - if I was unattractive, I wouldn't be pulling guys. People have always said I've got a good personality, even my manager said I've got a good personality when I had my performance review.

    B) I don't have high standards at all. Ok I don't accept any old rubbish but I'm not stuck up or am I picky. I'm very easy going & believe whatever comes my way I accept & work with. I'm not one of those girls from Take Me Out who are so stuck up its unreal.

    C) Never had previous chances. All encounters with guys have either been dates or FwB situations or play thing while gf is busy!

    D) Spot on! I think this is the issue; I get lured in by these guys, I think they're genuine & then BAM I get **** on! I don't know how else to sift them out :dontknow:

    Thank you for your reply. I guess I'll just keep doing me / life & just wait it out I guess. I just don't want to get to 50, & be a cat lady with grey wire like hair. :-(
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    [QUOTE=DancinBallerina;62847243]Eventually. My eggs aren't getting any younger.


    This is a famous article.

    Worth a read if you eventually want kids.

    http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/...ry-him/306651/
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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    . . .I turn 30 in 2 wks, and I am YET to have a proper relationship. I have been on dates, had FwB situations, but all the guys I date never ever want to progress anything. I have tried online, blind dates, bars, people in the work place, friends of friends, but nothing works.

    I don't dress provocatively, I believe I am a fun, bubbly, friendly person with a good personality, woman with career in progression, I'm independent, have my own property. So I don't get where I am going wrong. People tell me someone somewhere will sweep you off your feet . . they've been saying that for the past 10 years, and I am still no further forward.

    So ladies I want to know what is the 'nack' to getting a bf / relationship?
    You haven't tried me

    Honestly, it just sounds like you aren't going for the right guys
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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    Thanks for taking the time to respond. In response to your suggestions:

    A) Appearence - if I was unattractive, I wouldn't be pulling guys. People have always said I've got a good personality, even my manager said I've got a good personality when I had my performance review.

    B) I don't have high standards at all. Ok I don't accept any old rubbish but I'm not stuck up or am I picky. I'm very easy going & believe whatever comes my way I accept & work with. I'm not one of those girls from Take Me Out who are so stuck up its unreal.

    C) Never had previous chances. All encounters with guys have either been dates or FwB situations or play thing while gf is busy!

    D) Spot on! I think this is the issue; I get lured in by these guys, I think they're genuine & then BAM I get **** on! I don't know how else to sift them out :dontknow:

    Thank you for your reply. I guess I'll just keep doing me / life & just wait it out I guess. I just don't want to get to 50, & be a cat lady with grey wire like hair. :-(

    Anything else you haven't mentioned?

    Are you 6'2?

    That could explain it.
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    (Original post by Andy98)
    You haven't tried me

    Honestly, it just sounds like you aren't going for the right guys
    For the past 10years?....

    (Original post by stefano865)
    Anything else you haven't mentioned?

    Are you 6'2?

    That could explain it.
    I'm 5ft 9...so quite tall. But I've never let my height make me feel insecure and etc. If anything it's a plus as men see it as tall = long legs! Lol

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    Keep going to as many social events as possible
    Will keep plodding on.....:-), thanks
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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    For the past 10years?....



    I'm 5ft 9...so quite tall. But I've never let my height make me feel insecure and etc. If anything it's a plus as men see it as tall = long legs! Lol



    Will keep plodding on.....:-), thanks

    Long legs. :awesome:

    I suppose a woman your height often wants a man 6'+. You may be narrowing your options.

    Average men like me (5'10) often want women much shorter than you.

    Just a thought. It could be significant. Especially on dating websites.
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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    For the past 10years?....
    It's possible. Although you sound awesome, and I would probably consider dating you irl

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    Be attractive
    True, although you forgot the other key ingredient..

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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    . . .I turn 30 in 2 wks, and I am YET to have a proper relationship. I have been on dates, had FwB situations, but all the guys I date never ever want to progress anything. I have tried online, blind dates, bars, people in the work place, friends of friends, but nothing works.

    I don't dress provocatively, I believe I am a fun, bubbly, friendly person with a good personality, woman with career in progression, I'm independent, have my own property. So I don't get where I am going wrong. People tell me someone somewhere will sweep you off your feet . . they've been saying that for the past 10 years, and I am still no further forward.

    So ladies I want to know what is the 'nack' to getting a bf / relationship?
    maybe your too independant if you understand what I'm saying learn to depend on a man or someone a little more
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    (Original post by stefano865)
    Long legs. :awesome:

    I suppose a woman your height often wants a man 6'+. You may be narrowing your options.

    Average men like me (5'10) often want women much shorter than you.

    Just a thought. It could be significant. Especially on dating websites.
    Last guy I was seeing for 6mths (that ended because he didn't know what he wanted), he was 5ft 10. So yes I'm tall, but I'm not all about going for the tall men.
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    (Original post by Andy98)
    It's possible. Although you sound awesome, and I would probably consider dating you irl

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    maybe your too independant if you understand what I'm saying learn to depend on a man or someone a little more
    Someone said that to me last year.....a guy in fact who appeared on the Channel 4 show , First Dates. He said I'm a bit intimidating because I'm independent. Surely that's a good thing though? Just a bi odd!!
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    True, although you forgot the other key ingredient..

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    ....which I'm not!
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    I've never had a proper relationship really that wasn't when I was younger only random flings so I would like to know the answer too 😂


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    Watching this thread because this will be me in 10 years :lol:

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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    Last guy I was seeing for 6mths (that ended because he didn't know what he wanted), he was 5ft 10. So yes I'm tall, but I'm not all about going for the tall men.

    I guess considering men shorter than you would further widen your options.
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    Watching this thread because this will be me in 10 years :lol:

    :cry: :getmecoat:

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    No it won't.
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    (Original post by isabellacappio)
    I've never had a proper relationship really that wasn't when I was younger only random flings so I would like to know the answer too 😂


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