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Muslim TSR users, should I marry this man? Arranged Marriage Watch

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    (Original post by Free Kurdistan)
    What makes you think he's Muslim and if a non-Muslim can use his words you make you feel that way, how does asking for Muslims in particular benefit you?
    if a non muslim said it to me i would treat it the same as if a non muslim told me as its helpful to me. but i thought that if non muslims read this then they would tell me to live my life and stuff like that.
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    yeah he definitely will. i dont want to explain it on here as i will give myself away but me doing my degree wont be an issue at all.
    I still think you should study then marry personally but if you want to marry him then go ahead but like others are saying talk to him and get to know him beforehand.

    I knew a girl who married at 18 and did a degree but they don't have children yet but she is happy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    if a non muslim said it to me i would treat it the same as if a non muslim told me as its helpful to me. but i thought that if non muslims read this then they would tell me to live my life and stuff like that.
    I fully accept there are Islamic rules and you want to live your life the Islamic way, so telling you to go out and have sex with a load of guys to find yourself, is totally unhelpful but love is the most important component of your marriage and you have to appreciate the dangers (Islamic dangers) associated with agreeing to spend your life with someone you might not be compatible with.
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    I like that fact that he's somali and and has completed his hifdh. if you are interested and attracted set up a series of meetings to get to know him better with your wali there.
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    If you're flirting while married you'll flirt while not married (bigger sin). Learn to control yourself before contemplating marriage you seem too immature atm tbh.

    Regarding the guy, seems perfect (too good for you from the way you come across in this thread), just make sure your personalities gel.
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    I fully accept there are Islamic rules and you want to live your life the Islamic way, so telling you to go out and have sex with a load of guys to find yourself, is totally unhelpful but love is the most important component of your marriage and you have to appreciate the dangers (Islamic dangers) associated with agreeing to spend your life with someone you might not be compatible with.
    i know. obvs i will get to know him before hand to try to figure if we are compatible. i wouldnt walk into a marriage with my eyes ****
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    (Original post by chikane)
    I still think you should study then marry personally but if you want to marry him then go ahead but like others are saying talk to him and get to know him beforehand.

    I knew a girl who married at 18 and did a degree but they don't have children yet but she is happy.
    yeah i wouldnt want children straight away anyway maybe after a year
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    (Original post by Oilfreak1)
    If you're flirting while married you'll flirt while not married (bigger sin). Learn to control yourself before contemplating marriage you seem too immature atm tbh.

    Regarding the guy, seems perfect (too good for you from the way you come across in this thread), just make sure your personalities gel.
    I think you got the "not" in the wrong plane....

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    (Original post by Oilfreak1)
    If you're flirting while married you'll flirt while not married (bigger sin). Learn to control yourself before contemplating marriage you seem too immature atm tbh.

    Regarding the guy, seems perfect (too good for you from the way you come across in this thread), just make sure your personalities gel.
    i would never ever do that while married. ive been through it with my parents so i wouldnt do it. i understand your point that i may be immature
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    I think you got the "not" in the wrong plane....

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    you wrote n when you meant c
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    Imagine asking TSR for advice on if you should go through with an arranged marriage :laugh:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    i know. obvs i will get to know him before hand to try to figure if we are compatible. i wouldnt walk into a marriage with my eyes ****
    You should probably wash your eye before you get married

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    /jk I know what you meant - 'shut'
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    You should probably wash your eye before you get married
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    /jk I know what you meant - 'shut'
    lol i make silly typos like that all the time
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    you wrote n when you meant c
    Balls

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    If you feel as though he's the right one for you, if hes got a good personality, on his deen, then trust Allah, do istikhara and go with it
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    (Original post by Andy98)
    I think you got the "not" in the wrong plane....

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    yeah i did.
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    Are you serious or trolling...?
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    I think you should talk to him and find out what kind of person he is. Even though you're young he could be right for you. After talking to hin and getting to know more about him decide if you feel ready or not. However you're still very young so you obviously have time so don't feel pressured. ALSO do the istikhara prayer to see if your final decision is right or not. Gd luck!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    can all the people against the idea of arranged marriage not comment , i wrote this for the purpose of Muslims to give me advice. i dont need your western 21st century comments.
    :troll: Post in the Islam Soc then, it all sounds a little too inflammatory to be true really.
 
 
 
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