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    (Original post by Marshall Taylor)
    Just keep it in hand that your future girlfriend/wife may not respect you as much...
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    See what I did there?
    They almost certainly will never find out.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am a former escort.
    I used to always see men like you. Men who can't build relationships or even cop off with women for one night. They convince themselves that there is an attraction from the woman and it isn't just the money making her sleep with him.
    Honestly, I wouldn't bother. Wait until it happens organically in your life.
    It's looking like it won't happen. Spent a lot of money trying to make it happen the normal way.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    Your post is all well-and-good, but you make it sound definitive. Simply making a woman laugh and feel good is not going to be enough to attract women. The OP's situation is almost identical to mine; intelligent, attractive, have gone beyond what is really necessary to try attract women. Sometimes it does not work. I don't blame the OP in wanting to find comfort even if he does have to pay for it, because it's extremely demoralizing to be in this situation.

    If the OP weren't making an effort or didn't know how to talk to women full-stop or he was a massive ****, then we'd have other suggestions for him. Going by his account alone, however, he seems to have exhausted all other options.
    What frustrates me is that if a guy is attractive then that has no value to a woman when they're looking for a partner. The only thing that matters is his character. But if a woman is attractive men are instantly attracted irrespective of what her personality is like. That's why you won't see many attractive single women. I would say on the whole women find intelligent men repulsive. What they're after is humour.
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    (Original post by goam)
    If i were you I'd investigate in a really good therapist
    Done this. Hasn't resolved the issue. My depth of my wallet is finite.
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    Don't do it, you can catch herpes from her ! people who have sex with multiple people on a regular bases have a very high risk of herpes.

    Herpes weakens your immune systems, it is not something that can be cured, but the reoccurring herpes sores that are painful can be treated.

    Herpes can lead to not being able to have kids.

    Get yourself an attractive girl... as attractive as you can manage without too much hassle, then have sex with her everyday of the week if she lets you ! enjoy this, beautiful girls don't stay beautiful for long, and ugly girls aren't that ugly when they are naked and you are having sex.
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    [QUOTE=Anonymous;66758262]What frustrates me is that if a guy is attractive then that has no value to a woman when they're looking for a partner. The only thing that matters is his character. But if a woman is attractive men are instantly attracted irrespective of what her personality is like. That's why you won't see many attractive single women. I would say on the whole women find intelligent men repulsive. What they're after is humour.[/QUOTE


    Who told you that women find intelligent men repulsive ? I don't
    I don't look for humour, infact i hate it when men think they need to make me laugh but every other woman thinks that is important which it is not.
    All i care about is that a man acts like a gentleman and treats me with respect, not theses blokes nowadays that love swearing on a first date, I don't need anybody to try to make me laugh, i especially hate it when men try to tell me jokes.
    I usually find that women who have a list of what they expect from men like making them laugh, etc do not have good relationships and after a few years they are miserable in that relationship. The same applies to men who put women in categories of ugly/goodlooking and have a similar ridiculous list and say and think stupid things like certain women they would bring home to meet their parents or marry and certain other women they would not but just use them for sex until they meet someone better.
    But the worst ones are men who know their partner is nuts but stay with them or go on to marry them as if they think these crazy women will change and treat them better after marriage like on that tv show Bridezillas. That's what frustrates me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi

    So I've come to the decision at least for the time being that I'll visit an escort regularly because quite frankly women that I find attractive will simply not give me a chance. Tried everything, thrown a lot of money away trying to do it the normal way.

    Basically my childhood was dreadful and I was psychologically abused and bullied for years when I was growing up. This has meant that now as an adult I feel defective as a human being. I simply cannot change the past and I've thrown thousands of pounds at trying to recover from past events.

    I'd consider myself a physically attractive male. I have a good job and I'm intelligent but I'm simply not attractive to some women when it comes to my personality.

    What would you do in my situation?

    Why don't you try approaching women you like the look of on the street as men have always approached me in this way to ask me out but expect to get lots of rejection and don't let that put you off trying because for every rejection at least one might say yes and aswell as giving your number always ask for their number too, if they don't want to give it don't push it because that's a big turn off for me if a man keeps asking me for my number when i don't want to give it. you just start off by asking for directions then ask them out because it does actually work if you have the balls to try it or you will always be single if you are not brave enough to try something different because it does'nt always work for people to meet someone at their work place or in a club or bar because Not everyone is lucky enough to meet someone in the normal way because only 2 weeks ago a man asked me for directions then asked me out. We went on a date a couple of days later but he could not speak very good English.

    It's hard enough going on a date trying to think of things to talk about with someone who does speak English but with someone who does not speak much English it's a nightmare. No, it wasn't really that bad but i decided afterwards that i genuinely would prefer to be just friends but i did not know how to tell him this as i know men hate being told that so i waited til a few days to tell him.
    He was not really my type because i'm not into foreign men but i thought i would give it a chance because normally when men ask me out on the street or anywhere Most of the time i have always said no but then later on or the next day i regret it and think i wish i had at least taken their number just incase i change my mind because everytime i have said no because i was not sure they are my type i end up being single for a long period of time so i did not want to make the same mistake again so i gave him my number. He was really good looking and i found out on the date that he used to be a model.
    I would like to stay in conctact with him and go out with him as a friend especially as he does not have any in this country.

    If i think a man is my type or he is goodlooking i will give him my number but if i'm not sure about him being my type or he is not that goodlooking i will not give my number but i will take his because i don't want them pestering me with calls especially after midnight and i find that the men who are not that attractive act more desperate constantly calling the same day and especially late at night and wanting to meet up the next day.
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    The only thing you'll regret with escorts is the price. Face it, modern women are picky as hell and cold, it's nigh on impossible to get sex.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The only thing you'll regret with escorts is the price. Face it, modern women are picky as hell and cold, it's nigh on impossible to get sex.
    Casual sex is much easier to get these days.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    Casual sex is much easier to get these days.
    It's actually very very difficult for an average dude to get laid.

    The effort that the typical bloke has to put in is extremely disproportionate relative to a woman.

    Without going too much into looks, an inoffensive looking bloke with ok social skills and presentation would have to put in a fair amount of effort to get laid if he isn't already in a relationship.

    A woman of the same traits, I have no doubt could get laid with an almost 100% guarantee if she wanted.
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    (Original post by neal95)
    Also escorts are not prostitutes for Christ sake :L
    >_>
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The only thing you'll regret with escorts is the price. Face it, modern women are picky as hell and cold, it's nigh on impossible to get sex.
    :console:
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    (Original post by Trinculo)
    It's actually very very difficult for an average dude to get laid.

    The effort that the typical bloke has to put in is extremely disproportionate relative to a woman.

    Without going too much into looks, an inoffensive looking bloke with ok social skills and presentation would have to put in a fair amount of effort to get laid if he isn't already in a relationship.

    A woman of the same traits, I have no doubt could get laid with an almost 100% guarantee if she wanted.
    I agree it's harder for guys to get casual sex than women, but it's easier than it used to be. I know plenty of male friends who are average looking and have casual sex.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    I agree it's harder for guys to get casual sex than women, but it's easier than it used to be. I know plenty of male friends who are average looking and have casual sex.
    I'm not saying it's impossible - but it's difficult and a lot of effort a lot of the time - and that's for average blokes.

    If you add in sub-optimal looks and some social traits (eccentricities, introversions, whatever you want to say) then it becomes exceptionally difficult.

    It's not difficult to see why OP wants to pay for sex. I mean, it's a simple and obvious solution.
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    Sex is far too overrated. Who cares if you still a virgin.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    Casual sex is much easier to get these days.
    I must just be bad at it. Cos it isn't my looks.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What would you do in my situation?
    I'd get over myself and stop thinking that I deserve a girlfriend just because I'm good looking, intelligent and have money...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I must just be bad at it. Cos it isn't my looks.
    I'm sure you aren't bad at it. Maybe it's a confidence thing?
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    I used to visit an escort quite often, not for personal business but because she was my aunt...… so I guess I'm like an expert with escorts, ask me anything <3
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi

    So I've come to the decision at least for the time being that I'll visit an escort regularly because quite frankly women that I find attractive will simply not give me a chance. Tried everything, thrown a lot of money away trying to do it the normal way.

    Basically my childhood was dreadful and I was psychologically abused and bullied for years when I was growing up. This has meant that now as an adult I feel defective as a human being. I simply cannot change the past and I've thrown thousands of pounds at trying to recover from past events.

    I'd consider myself a physically attractive male. I have a good job and I'm intelligent but I'm simply not attractive to some women when it comes to my personality.

    What would you do in my situation?
    Get the "Beige Phillip podcast app" sign up and listen from episode 1, then sign up for a private consultation. You'll be fine in no time at a way lower cost than "escorts"
 
 
 
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