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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    Umm... no idea sorry. I couldn't even remember what the catfish reference was without Google / Urban Dictionary!
    he quite clearly means that girl joban keeps harassing on here
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wasn't interested in speaking to guys through catfishing, although I tried it once at the beginning to see what it was like and I ****ing hated it. Talking to guys bored me to death. They were all the same and only thought with their ****. Terrible at holding a conversation, showing no personality or passion about anything and only caring about sexual things. I wasn't into that at all and so I only spoke to girls for the rest of my catfishing because that's where I made real connections.

    As my real self I see myself as straight female, I don't want to be with or do anything sexual with other girls. But as the boy catfish that I created, I was consumed in being that character and those were straight relationships.
    I know that sounds really old, but read my above post about why I catfished girls (if you haven't already seen it) to understand it more.
    did you create characters and what were they like?
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    (Original post by Gora The Xplorer)
    did you create characters and what were they like?
    Characters as in the identity I played? I did, altogether I probably used 3-4 different identities but the one I stuck with, I committed to it for the last 6-7 years.

    At the beginning I got caught by someone who knew the person whose identity I stole and they all added me on MSN and so I had to change characters. That was scary ngl.

    So then the next identity I made and stuck with was of this boy who was in my year at school/college and I thought he was attractive and likeable. So I made a character out of him and shaped the character as this 'perfect guy' to the girls I catfished. He was 6'4 and had tattoos. It was kinda warped like when I talked about my day it was mostly accurate and I didn't lie about what I was studying, but I lied and said I lived in London when I don't.
    The real boy whose pics I stole didn't go to uni and wasn't active on social media, so it was hard to keep up with updates selfies, but girls didn't care much anyway.

    I was really vigilant and only used Twitter so that I wouldn't get spotted by anyone and on there it's normal to follow people you don't know irl. Creating a fake FB or anything else was way too much effort and too risky.
    The instant messaging I used were BBM and then iMessage.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Did you get catfished then?

    And are there any other questions you'd like answered?

    I hope this thread covers what people want to know from the catfisher's perspective and gives people a better understanding of why it may happen/how to look out for it, etc.
    Yes and no. Yes because I don't know who that really is, he is using a fake identity on Facebook. And no because we had skyped, he is the guy in the pictures, he just lied about everything else about himself.

    No more questions, I can understand insecure people like you were but I hate the psychopaths that do it with malicious intent, to purposely hurt people and exploit them.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Characters as in the identity I played? I did, altogether I probably used 3-4 different identities but the one I stuck with, I committed to it for the last 6-7 years.

    At the beginning I got caught by someone who knew the person whose identity I stole and they all added me on MSN and so I had to change characters. That was scary ngl.

    So then the next identity I made and stuck with was of this boy who was in my year at school/college and I thought he was attractive and likeable. So I made a character out of him and shaped the character as this 'perfect guy' to the girls I catfished. He was 6'4 and had tattoos. It was kinda warped like when I talked about my day it was mostly accurate and I didn't lie about what I was studying, but I lied and said I lived in London when I don't.
    The real boy whose pics I stole didn't go to uni and wasn't active on social media, so it was hard to keep up with updates selfies, but girls didn't care much anyway.

    I was really vigilant and only used Twitter so that I wouldn't get spotted by anyone and on there it's normal to follow people you don't know irl. Creating a fake FB or anything else was way too much effort and too risky.
    The instant messaging I used were BBM and then iMessage.
    Do you ever do this on TSR and are you doing it right now?
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    on every online website i used to sign up on from when i was like 8 i used to say i was 16 every year until i was like 15 and now im actually 16 and its so WEIRD not to chat ****
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    (Original post by Gora The Xplorer)
    Do you ever do this on TSR and are you doing it right now?
    Nah, I'm not established on TSR. I've asked a few things about uni/career and I watch threads now and then but I don't talk to anyone on here. Plus you don't need to reveal yourself, catfishing on this would not be worth the energy. I stopped catfishing in February and the twitter is still there but I don't go back to it.
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    (Original post by zanner)
    and its so WEIRD not to chat ****
    Lmao
    Same, accurate, relatable
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I still catfish. Because I'm a pathological liar and see no reason to be honest or 'true to myself'. Not even sure what that is. There is no self, beyond some vague reflection of that around me. An actor. A shallow existence, perhaps, but mine all the same.
    (Original post by Athematica)
    wow.. lol

    just wow
    That is what most serious catfishes are like; pathological liars with no fixed personality. I'm self aware now about what I did. I created my own world; a warped version of reality and I could play any role. My facade was delusional and my lies, but people would believe them because I was charming and they felt beautiful talking to me.
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    Any more questions?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That is what most serious catfishes are like; pathological liars with no fixed personality. I'm self aware now about what I did. I created my own world; a warped version of reality and I could play any role. My facade was delusional and my lies, but people would believe them because I was charming and they felt beautiful talking to me.
    And you felt beautiful in return. It's beautiful how narcissism works. one creates a delusion of grandeur which lures people in, and in turn they find you impressive and you get a sip of what it's like to be a person who is admired and a person who is loved. But you did it because you're not sure whether you can be loved or admired as you are. There's a pertinent difference between us both. My cat fishing is to hide my identity and still contribute/participate in a community. You sought connection through a false persona, because of a deep rooted sense of insecurity about yourself.

    I described my existence as shallow. It seems, given what you've described here, yours is better described as hollow.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And you felt beautiful in return. It's beautiful how narcissism works. one creates a delusion of grandeur which lures people in, and in turn they find you impressive and you get a sip of what it's like to be a person who is admired and a person who is loved. But you did it because you're not sure whether you can be loved or admired as you are. There's a pertinent difference between us both. My cat fishing is to hide my identity and still contribute/participate in a community. You sought connection through a false persona, because of a deep rooted sense of insecurity about yourself.

    I described my existence as shallow. It seems, given what you've described here, yours is better described as hollow.
    You speak the truth. Mine was a mixture of both, though. Delusions of grandeur is certainly something my character possessed.

    It was beautiful to have girls hooked on me simply through my sheer charm and charisma. I built trust and entrapped them to the point where they valued my conversation so much that they ignored everyone else and chose me over anyone else in their lives. Popular girls who have people fighting for their attention and only giving it to me..
    Having them say that their friends were jealous of me. Having the upper hand and them becoming clingy and protective over me, irresistibly starting the conversation first and doing the chasing.
    All of these things fed my ego, which was dangerous for them.

    Inevitably I had to break their hearts and make them lose interest in me as things were never going to progress. I got hurt in that process too, but in the final years I became shallow, or 'heartless'. An attitude that screams "you're nothing special and you hold no serious value".
    I cut off my absolute favourite person like she meant nothing at all to me. A girl who has an ego as high as the sky, who has hundreds of friends and people fighting for her attention, but she craved my attention because I was so much better than anyone else. I dropped her and left her life and it felt amazing.

    I know I am unforgettable and I'll be remembered forever by these girls, regardless of their resentment towards me now, because they will never find a real boy who possesses all of the qualities I displayed.

    Anyway, it's fascinating to hear from you as a catfish. I have a few questions for you if you don't mind answering.

    Are you fe/male? Age? How long have you been catfishing?
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    This is the exact reason I don't care for online 'friendships'. So desperately sad.
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    This is the exact reason I don't care for online 'friendships'. So desperately sad.
    Good, stay away from them for your own sake.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Good, stay away from them for your own sake.
    what do you do for a living?

    I haven't scrolled through all of the thread.
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    (Original post by hezzlington)
    what do you do for a living?

    I haven't scrolled through all of the thread.
    I've just started a grad job as a trainee accountant, I graduate later this summer. Irl is quite 'ordinary'.

    Cool, if you have more questions I'll direct you to anything that's already been answered.
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    Still answering any further questions anyone has.

    Catfishes are welcome to share their story also.

    Even if you need help spotting a potential catfish, let me know the deets. It will be obvious to me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Still answering any further questions anyone has.

    Catfishes are welcome to share their story also.

    Even if you need help spotting a potential catfish, let me know the deets. It will be obvious to me.
    I haven't read through all of the posts, but after 10 years you must be quite good at it. Ever thought of posing as a young girl and luring paedophiles, To Catch a Predator-style?
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    (Original post by Mactotaur)
    I haven't read through all of the posts, but after 10 years you must be quite good at it. Ever thought of posing as a young girl and luring paedophiles, To Catch a Predator-style?
    I'd say so.
    I got spotted once in the beginning as I was an amateur, but after that I was much more vigilant with my next identity and never got caught.

    Also, I recorded and edited together a YouTuber's voice from his videos to send as voice notes to the girls I catfished and they were fully convinced that I was a real guy, as the voice clips were always relevant to the convo.

    Hahah, I wouldn't do that myself but I do watch those paedo hunter videos on Youtube. If you care to scroll a few messages above, I explained why I had no interest in speaking to guys through catfishing.
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    How old were you when you started to Catfish?
 
 
 
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