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    (Original post by markova21)
    My neighbour, whose back garden is adjacent to my back garden, has been exposing himself to me for about 18 months. At first I saw him watching porn in the spare bedroom. Thought nothing more of it. I'm not a prude. But the TV was a large TV and it was right up against the window, with the screen facing outwards so I could see everything. I used to sleep in the big, front bedroom, but my teenage son nagged me to have the large room for his TV, X BOX and all his gadgets, so I agreed. Moved my things in to the small room at the back and a few days later was when I noticed the porn. Then I started waking up to different porn magazines on my back door, open at specific pages. Usually of a woman giving a man a blow job. As if whoever was leaving the magazines was sending me a message. Then early one morning he was sitting in his back garden in nothing but his dressing gown. His dressing gown was fully open and he was completely naked underneath. More porn on the TV. Always Friday, Saturday and Sunday evenings when his wife was out working at the local Chinese takeaway. Then things escalated. He started coming in to his back garden whenever I went out to put clothes out on the line. Then one day he was sitting in the chair in his back garden, with his dressing gown on and was naked underneath, but he was masturbating. I told a friend of mine, who is a local Councillor. Not that I wanted him to do anything, but just so I had it written down as evidence that I had told someone. Another time in the back garden. I had just gone out to either put some clothes out or to bring them in, and suddenly he emerged from his house, dressing gown on which was undone. He was completely naked underneath. He started walking towards the fence, with his **** in his hand. I just turned on my heels to go in. But before I did I shouted, "I WILL report you to the police if you carry on you know". He practically ran inside his house shouting, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". Nothing for months, but recently I have been able to see right inside his house and he is walking around near the window completely naked. Always while his wife is at work. I'm telling you all this, because I was going to tell his wife exactly what kind of a man she is married to, and exactly what he gets up to in the evenings when she is at work. But she is such a nice lady. In the end I didn't have the heart to. But if it ever starts up again I WILL go to the police and press charges. But I said nothing not for his sake, but for his wife's. But OP, if that was my dad who was carrying on [or potentially thinking about it] I wouldn't protect him.
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    I'm sorry for laughing, what you had to go through is not pleasant and creepy but I couldn't help but find it funny how ridiculous he is making himself look
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    That's what I'm worried about, that he'll cheat on my mum or He has done so already which would be even worse and heart breaking should I talk to my mum first or tell my dad first? I feel like if tell my dad first he'll make me feel bad and guilty about telling my mum so in the end I won't have the heart to do it


    Given that it's my dad and my parents marriage, it becomes my issue as well 😬😬


    I was going to just let it slide, but I'm going to talk to him when he's alone and tell him I've found his account if he hasn't found mine already
    Don't tell your dad about it. Don't you have any close friends, or siblings, then maybe tell them both together. Your dad will probably deny the whole thing, but if you want to go through with this, it is probably best to get it out in the open.

    That being said, he was probably just looking for some fun on the side, and i wouldn't get to worried about it. The guage of a marriage is less the fidelity of both parties, so much as the obstacles they are able to traverse, i would argue. Good luck! x
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    At least you won't have to travel far to hook up?
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    It doesn't matter if you're on tinder, who in the world cares. If this is serious, then you need to talk with your mother. God, I hope she's financially independent. The way I see it, your parents' marriage is already over. Your father clearly doesn't want to be with your mother and the deception is simply unfair on her.
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    What do I do? I'm so embarrassed I can't even face him right now. He's downstairs right now
    How many years have they been together, do you really want to wreck the whole thing, because of this one slip up?
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    (Original post by PHD2027)
    If he has an iPhone then you can find the apps he has downloaded by going on purchased section, I don't know what you could do on an android.
    If it's on an android, swipe right (not on tindr ._.) on the play store app, and on the apps & games section, there'll be an 'all apps' section, which shows whatever apps you've ever tried to download; but the problem is that the apps that are not currently installed can be deleted from the list.
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    @pinkberry_y

    Sorry, but some of the advice here is just insane.

    First - You've seen a profile on Tinder. That's it. You don't know for sure that he has seen yours.

    Second - you have a bunch of people here advising you to take the first active steps in potentially breaking up your family. Some people are saying stuff like "it's over already" etc. That's a bunch of crap. They don't know that. No-one knows that.

    Keep quiet and don't worry about it. Maybe you'll find out something more in the future - maybe not. All I would say is, don't listen to people on here with nothing at stake, advising you to throw a grenade on your family.
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    I swear you're a GCSE student?


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    (Original post by DamnDaniel2)
    I swear you're a GCSE student?


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    Is he how do you know?
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    perhaps your dad is sooooo goodlooking someone is being his catfish
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    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    Is he how do you know?
    I don't know if he/she really is but I THINK I saw pinkberry on GCSE threads posting their results.


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    (Original post by 04MR17)
    The Community Team. The fascists of TSR. The big big cheeses. They are responsible for dealing with problem users on TSR. They are the ones who ban users, remove bad posts etc. They can also do a quick IP check to see if pinkberry here has had another account with TSR. Which is the case here. Some groups on TSR (like the political parties) have a no-dupe policy. Also, there are some Previously banned users (PBUs) that like to return to TSR through fake accounts. CT specialises in removing them.
    Sounds like a covert operation.
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    (Original post by john2054)
    Don't tell your dad about it. Don't you have any close friends, or siblings, then maybe tell them both together. Your dad will probably deny the whole thing, but if you want to go through with this, it is probably best to get it out in the open.

    That being said, he was probably just looking for some fun on the side, and i wouldn't get to worried about it. The guage of a marriage is less the fidelity of both parties, so much as the obstacles they are able to traverse, i would argue. Good luck! x
    (Original post by john2054)
    How many years have they been together, do you really want to wreck the whole thing, because of this one slip up?
    I am an only child, so don't have any siblings to talk to :/ wish I did though it would make this easier. I'm so torn, people on here are making me question my judgement, the good side of me wants to think he hasn't actually done anything and has just made a tinder account and that's it. My parents have been married for 27 years, surely their marriage can't be that bad if they've lasted this long? But thanks anyway John
    (Original post by DamnDaniel2)
    I swear you're a GCSE student?


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    Wrong person, I'm going into second year of uni. However I have answered on GCSE threads in the past if someone needed advice on GCSEs/ their results
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    (Original post by 04MR17)
    The possibility exists that Pinkberry here is telling the truth. However, because they are a dupe, I am more than tempted to accuse them of making this up. Others have commented on how this thread "just doesn't seem right" (see page 3) and I support that view unless I am convinced otherwise.
    It seems like one of those stories you'd tell for attention. I didnt believe it was real and I'm glad someone else is agreeing with this. However, if I am wrong....I accept this and apologise. I say this because there is a 90% chance of me not being wrong
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It seems like one of those stories you'd tell for attention. I didnt believe it was real and I'm glad someone else is agreeing with this. However, if I am wrong....I accept this and apologise. I say this because there is a 90% chance of me not being wrong
    I feel as though this isn't authentic too it also doesn't help the OP completely blanking all of our replies questioning that, making me feel as though we're right.
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    (Original post by Popsiclez)
    I feel as though this isn't authentic too it also doesn't help the OP completely blanking all of our replies questioning that, making me feel as though we're right.
    Yep and when she replies its always dogding the actual question.
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    Lol!
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    (Original post by Pinkberry_y)
    What do I do? I'm so embarrassed I can't even face him right now. He's downstairs right now
    So does that mean ur dad has tinder too??? Freaky family lol
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    (Original post by john2054)
    How many years have they been together, do you really want to wreck the whole thing, because of this one slip up?
    John are you mad at me lol
 
 
 
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