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18 and 32 weeks pregnant. AMA..

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    (Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
    Why didn't you have an abortion?!

    How did you not have a basic grasp of contraception at the age of 18. Didn't you ever think oh **** maybe I should actually use a condom. I'm a decade older than you and it probably wouldn't be the end of the world if I got pregnant but I'm still ultra safe - it's called taking some responsibility and control of your life! *
    It's simple. I didn't have an abortion because I didn't want to have an abortion.

    And I have taken some responsibility, I'm having a baby. I'm prepared to put my own life on hold to raise my child. I've lost several friends because they didn't want to be seen with me. I've worked hard for and saved every penny I have. I may not have made a responsible choice in the beginning but I am being responsible now.

    It's not the end of the world that I'm pregnant, there are worse things out there.

    Yes I did think that I should've used a reliable method of contraception but I can't go back now, what's the point of dwelling in the past?
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    (Original post by L'absurde)
    Did you get pregnant intentionally? Or did you not use contraception....?

    If yes: how do you feel knowing that you've just wasted your life?
    I'm sorry but why does it have to be wasting your life? My brother and his wife conceived their first child at 15, they now live in Germany, both with very successful careers, married with two other kids. (one born only a month ago)
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    (Original post by Mancitygirlx)
    What race is the father? Where are you from?
    He's also mixed. White & bajan. I'm from London
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    Ah that's ace I'm sure you will be a great mum. Did u want to go to uni? What's are your plans now?
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    He's also mixed. White & bajan. I'm from London
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    If you've been pregnant for 18 years and 32 weeks, why aren't you in the Guinness Book of Workd Records for the longest pregnancy?
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    From what I know (and remember) of eighteen-year-olds I sure as hell wouldn't want one as a parent; but good luck nonetheless.
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    If you've been pregnant for 18 years and 32 weeks, why aren't you in the Guinness Book of Workd Records for the longest pregnancy?
    I think she meant she is 18 years old :facepalm: not 18 years and 32 weeks pregnant :eek:

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    (Original post by Mancitygirlx)
    Ah that's ace I'm sure you will be a great mum. Did u want to go to uni? What's are your plans now?
    Thank you.
    Yes I planned to go to uni, but found out I was pregnant during my application process. I was going to defer but I doubt I'll be ready next year so I'll just have to wait a couple of years before I go. Still upset about that, but I just remember why I'm doing this. My plans are to go to uni once my child is maybe one or two. I did want to live away in halls, since that's no longer possible I'll just commute. My college thankfully allowed me to sit my A level exams in the summer which was really nice of them so now I have one less thing to worry about. My boyfriend works full time so he'll be the main provider. We have a savings account with some money aswell and both of our parents have said they'll help.
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    (Original post by Goaded)
    I'm sorry but why does it have to be wasting your life? My brother and his wife conceived their first child at 15, they now live in Germany, both with very successful careers, married with two other kids. (one born only a month ago)
    First of all, 15? Childbirth must've been traumatic at that age.
    Plus that's just anecdotal. Doesn't prove anything. I'm sure we can find exceptions to every trend, you might wanna look at my post below...
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    (Original post by L'absurde)
    "Of the estimated 50,000 mothers aged under 20 living in England in 2005, over 80 per cent were aged 18 or 19; over 60 per cent were lone parents; 70 per cent were not in education, employment or training; and they were much more likely to live in deprived neighbourhoods. By the age of 30, teenage mothers are 22 per cent more likely to be living in poverty than mothers giving birth aged 24 or over and are much less likely to be employed or living with a partner. Teenage mothers are 20 per cent more likely to have no qualification at the age of 30 than a mother giving birth aged 24 or over. According to theDepartment for Work and Pensions around 70 per cent of mothers aged 16 to 19 claim income support."


    "Teenage mothers are also three times more likely to smoke throughout their pregnancy and 50 per cent less likely to breastfeed than older mothers, both of which have negative health consequence for the child. For these and other reasons birth weights of babies of teenage mothers are more likely to be lower and the rate of infant mortality for a baby born to a teenage mother is 60 per cent higher than for babies of older women."http://www.lemosandcrane.co.uk/home/...q_dl865rte.pdf

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    (Original post by Profesh)
    From what I know (and remember) of eighteen-year-olds I sure as hell wouldn't want one as a parent; but good luck nonetheless.
    It's just an age though. I'd rather have a loving 18 or even a 16yr old as my parent as opposed to a 30yr old parent who couldn't care less about me
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    (Original post by mediaya)
    I think she meant she is 18 years old :facepalm: not 18 years and 32 weeks pregnant :eek:

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    (Original post by L'absurde)
    First of all, 15? Childbirth must've been traumatic at that age.
    Plus that's just anecdotal. Doesn't prove anything. I'm sure we can find exceptions to every trend, you might wanna look at my post below...
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    Actually said it was her easiest birth

    And I'm not saying it's the norm, but it DOES show that not every child is doomed (nor that the parent's lives are ruined) that is born to a young mother. The girl says her support system is good. I know plenty of people who are doing fine (my mother and one of my sisters included, both having children under 20 as well. And several people I went to school with).
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    (Original post by mediaya)
    I think she meant she is 18 years old :facepalm: not 18 years and 32 weeks pregnant :eek:

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's just an age though. I'd rather have a loving 18 or even a 16yr old as my parent as opposed to a 30yr old parent who couldn't care less about me
    Of course: but ceteris paribus, the tremendous gulf of knowledge, wisdom and stability—both emotional and financial—which separates eighteen from thirty will have non-trivial implications for the quality of your child's upbringing. Indeed, the fact that you're even proffering the above rebuttal (essentially, a straw-man predicated on a false dichotomy) is itself a case-in-point; you'll by no means make a bad parent, but your prior lack of restraint has almost certainly disadvantaged your offspring insomuch as anyone remotely suited to that role at 18 would have been exponentially better qualified another decade or so down the line.

    Notwithstanding, your attitude is at least a constructive one, but assuming your own parents were at all competent themselves I would strongly recommend soliciting as much advice from them as humanly possible before you embark.
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    Of course: but ceteris paribus, the tremendous gulf of knowledge, wisdom and stability—both emotional and financial—which separates eighteen from thirty will have non-trivial implications for the quality of your child's upbringing. Indeed, the fact that you're even proffering the above rebuttal (essentially, a straw-man predicated on a false dichotomy) is itself a case-in-point; you'll by no means make a bad parent, but your lack of restraint has almost certainly disadvantaged your offspring insomuch as anyone remotely suited to that role at 18 would have been exponentially better qualified another decade or so down the line.

    Notwithstanding, your attitude is at least a constructive one, but assuming your own parents were at all competent themselves I would strongly recommend soliciting as much advice from them as humanly possible before you embark.
    Do you go to Oxbridge? Because you should

    But anyway, I understand most of what you've said and I agree. I would've liked to wait a little longer, but I was just showing that age is as important a factor as other things
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you go to Oxbridge? Because you should

    But anyway, I understand most of what you've said and I agree. I would've liked to wait a little longer, but I was just showing that age is as important a factor as other things
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Boy: Jonah
    Girl: Isabella
    Beautiful names
    You shouldn't really care what everyone around you thinks(the 'negatives', I mean)
    There are so many 'success stories' out there with young parents- it's just that the 'failures' are heard of more. Don't be afraid to share your success -I hope- later on like the MILLIONS that were (due to social pressure), and prove it's not as bad as they think...

    On another note, If I were you I'd get married first
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's simple. I didn't have an abortion because I didn't want to have an abortion.

    And I have taken some responsibility, I'm having a baby. I'm prepared to put my own life on hold to raise my child. I've lost several friends because they didn't want to be seen with me. I've worked hard for and saved every penny I have. I may not have made a responsible choice in the beginning but I am being responsible now.

    It's not the end of the world that I'm pregnant, there are worse things out there.

    Yes I did think that I should've used a reliable method of contraception but I can't go back now, what's the point of dwelling in the past?
    just can't get my head round the passive attitude. It's like this baby has happened TO you. You must have had ambitions? Not saying you can't still fulfill those but I'm sure anyone would agree it's immensely harder once you've got a kid in tow. If you're anti abortion surely that would be even more reason to actually use contraception?! The mind baffles.*
 
 
 
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