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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not in the least but reluctant to slove the problem. I wouldnt have done this otherwise.
    That is debatable. If you had used an account with your picture then the majority of comments would not be here; leaving you with genuine help, or complements regarding your looks. Instead you choose to continually defend an irrelevant point (by your own admission) to save potential embarrassment.

    This is your problem. If you like someone do not wait for them to come to you; approach them. Imagine the potential happiness you could have with a boyfriend who loves and cherishes you. Do you not want that? All it takes is a little effort; forget the pride and approach someone - please.
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    (Original post by kates:))
    OP, don't worry I'm the same! I'm 19 and have had only one proper relationship with a guy which lasted 6 months, nothing proper since being at uni and I'm told I'm attractive too?! Tho a lot of the time I don't believe it . I go out, I have lots of friends, am easy to chat to/sociable etc. My mother's theory is that I come across as v.self assured, confident in myself but not to the point of arrogance or cockiness and generally seem v.strong - all of these things are apparently v.obvious to guys so some feel intimidated by me. Also probably doesn't help that I'm 5ft8 :p:. But are these really things to put boys off?! :confused: (I have a profile pic if anyone wants to look and judge!)
    Sometimes it gets me down but I think the key is to be happy with yourself, enjoy life, have fun with your friends and then boys will approach you. As I've been told by boy friends a girl always seems attractive if she's enjoying herself and looking relaxed and happy so just try to do that!
    Let's kick one off then. I mean, I know I'm a bit far away, but it can be done.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im female, 17, nearly 18.

    I dont think I'm particularly attractive, I know I'm not hideous, but I've been told quite a bit that I'm pretty/attractive/beautiful etc. and that I have a good figure (size 10), yet I've had literally no love life EVER.

    Any reasons why? What should I do?

    I know this sounds quite desperate but it is annoying me. I am SO bored of being single!
    How large are your breasts? I'm guessing small.
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    OP - I sympathise with your situation. I'm 18, and have never had an official boyfriend either - however, I believe that this lies in the foundation that I generally go for the wrong guys, and that I have standards that are (in all probabilities) far too high. Until I can overcome my own deficits, I don't think that I will be in a position to have a successful relationship - despite (and, please don't interpret this as arrogance) being asked out by a few boys in my time.

    Perhaps you have to examine yourself - look outward, attempt to be objective, and gain some momentum. Good luck.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    Then that suggests to me that you're giving off 'don't mess with me' vibes.
    Make sure you're aware of how you're coming across to others - body language for example is an easy one to see if someone's open or not. Crossed arms suggest feeling insecure or uneasy, so keep your arms relaxed. Smile - it's amazing how a smile can warm people to you. Look interested, don't lean and keep chatty when you're socialising. Just a few things to try the next time you're out.
    I've noticed this. Once or twice, I've been walking up the road to see my gran, and there's been a girl waiting at the bus-stop, who's smiled at me as I walked past.

    Made me feel pretty warm. :yep:
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    I dont think my standards are too high so thats not the problem.
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    No need to worry. There's also attractive guys that haven't got a girl..like myself. ;p

    But this thread is worthless without pics really. But just to let you know, looks don't REALLY matter all that much, I know for a girl its more stressed, but it doesn't necessarily mean you hvae to be good looking. Like you said, your average looking, so maybe you could work your personality, start talking to more boys, be in more social places where there's more boys, etc.

    PS: POST PICS!
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    Because being physically attractive isn't everything.
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    No need to worry. There's also attractive guys that haven't got a girl..like myself. ;p

    But this thread is worthless without pics really. But just to let you know, looks don't REALLY matter all that much, I know for a girl its more stressed, but it doesn't necessarily mean you hvae to be good looking. Like you said, your average looking, so maybe you could work your personality, start talking to more boys, be in more social places where there's more boys, etc.

    PS: POST PICS!
    I cant post pictures and stay anon so NO!
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    (Original post by learner_dancer)
    ROHYPNOL!


    Nah, you're only young. You WILL find someone.
    Haha, near enough every post I've read of yours has included Rohypnol..are you a date rapist?
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    (Original post by Bleurgh)
    Calm it, I'm 17, never had a boyfriend and I'm not particularly worried. It's not the end of the world :P
    but you are buff
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    Haha, near enough every post I've read of yours has included Rohypnol..are you a date rapist?
    Nah- I just have shares in the product. I therefore try and endorse it as much as possible.
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    (Original post by evantej)
    That is debatable. If you had used an account with your picture then the majority of comments would not be here; leaving you with genuine help, or complements regarding your looks. Instead you choose to continually defend an irrelevant point (by your own admission) to save potential embarrassment.

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    So what you are saying is that I cant get any 'genuine help' without posting pictures?
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    (Original post by Prokaryotic_crap)
    but you are buff
    Haha, thanks?
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    Ugh I hate girls when they get desperate and make stupid posts on internet forums about it.
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    (Original post by Tom1390)
    Ugh I hate girls when they get desperate and make stupid posts on internet forums about it.
    I'm not desperate, just bored.
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    (Original post by kates:))
    I go out, I have lots of friends, am easy to chat to/sociable etc. My mother's theory is that I come across as v.self assured, confident in myself but not to the point of arrogance or cockiness and generally seem v.strong - all of these things are apparently v.obvious to guys so some feel intimidated by me.
    Some may be intimidated but I think its more of a risk assessment If a girl seems confident then guys feel like there is more chance of them coming to them and therefore they don't need to take the risk. Trust me alot of my mates wil just stand there and hope that a girl will come and talk to them... WTF? It does happen but not often... alas they still don't understand
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im female, 17, nearly 18.

    I dont think I'm particularly attractive, I know I'm not hideous, but I've been told quite a bit that I'm pretty/attractive/beautiful etc. and that I have a good figure (size 10), yet I've had literally no love life EVER.

    Any reasons why? What should I do?

    I know this sounds quite desperate but it is annoying me. I am SO bored of being single!
    Do you have any male friends? maybe you could practise pulling them - if they're up for it... seems like fun to me!
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    (Original post by Bleurgh)
    Calm it, I'm 17, never had a boyfriend and I'm not particularly worried. It's not the end of the world :P
    try 20 lol
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    (Original post by DeSiFiEd)
    try 20 lol
    Lol I'm saying it's not a big deal... I reckon there's a strong chance I'll be in the same position at 20.
 
 
 
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