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What kind of porn do you like and who are you watching? e.g. gay porn for the men, straight porn and you like the men and women etc?
Honestly, I dont watch much.. It tends to upset me these days - I just see a woman with a body that I would only dream of (which goes for all girls regardless of how they look) - and that can upset me

So I try to avoid it.. but when occasionally I do, umm, either straight or gay or bisexual or including trans people.. as someone who doesnt really have a sexual preference, it can be any..

(oh my.. this ended up being quite personal...)
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Ah ok, in which case - id say it depends on the person..

both have different struggles - in early stages, passing as a trans man, is pretty imposible.. and involves painfull binding, and often looking like a boy, rather then a man.. - but with hormones, it can be alot easier.. especially by bulking up a bit.. + with chest sugery.. though they have a really rough time with their lower sugery

For trans women, its very very variable.. for some they pass with no hormones or anything.. for others they may never pass at all..

- as for facial structure.. whilst it may not change your bones to much, it does alter the fat+mussle distribution of your body, which can often make your face apear slightly more femine..
take a look at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xjM-wJYMCg

and you will see what I mean
Surely the person in the video would have had some sort of facial reconstruction surgery? Can't have been all thanks to hormones...
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If I had sex with you would it make me gay?
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I know this is going to be difficult but can you explain the thoughts you were having when thinking you want to have a sex change? Like what was it about being female that felt more right than being a male?
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When did you realise you wanted to become a transwoman?


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If I had sex with you would it make me gay?
Sorry better re-word this, doesn't come across well.


If I was to have sex with you, or any transwoman, would that make me gay or bisexual in anyway?

Also, where would I put it? Would we have to have anal sex or would we just have non-penetrative sex?

But personal this one so I understand if you don't want to answer, but since coming out/being a transwoman, have you had sex with anyone and if you did was it a boy or girl? If you haven't, what would be your preference in the future? Are you attracted to boys or girls, or do you swing both ways?
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Right.. Im probably going to regret this - but time to be brave

(and quite frankly, if anyone knows me in real life, they will already know this is me.. from the information.. so.. screw it )

Oh crap... *panics*

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lily x
You look lovely Your hair and face shape in the last pic remind me of Alexa Chung a little bit.
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Right.. Im probably going to regret this - but time to be brave

(and quite frankly, if anyone knows me in real life, they will already know this is me.. from the information.. so.. screw it )

Oh crap... *panics*

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So there we go.. infomative trans-thread..

lily x

Sorry if I got to personal with the porn question. You look very pretty! Not as masculine as you said at all. Also your face shape looks more womenly than they before pictures
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If I had sex with you would it make me gay?
If you were to sleep with a pre-op or non-op transgender woman it would make you bi-sexual or maybe pansexual. If you slept with a post op trans woman you'd be straight by definition, because the person you have slept with is a woman. Unless you want to be some pathetic pedant, that is.
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You look lovely Your hair and face shape in the last pic remind me of Alexa Chung a little bit.
In my opinion if she made her eyebrows thinner she would pretty easily pass as a girl.
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If I had sex with you would it make me gay?
(Original post by Aust1n)
If you were to sleep with a pre-op or non-op transgender woman it would make you bi-sexual or maybe pansexual. If you slept with a post op trans woman you'd be straight by definition, because the person you have slept with is a woman. Unless you want to be some pathetic pedant, that is.
Also worth noting: sexual behaviour doesn't define your orientation, it's about who you are attracted to. Just like a gay person may marry someone of the same sex, but they would still be gay. As for being attracted to trans* people, it's a tricky area because sexual orientation labels are very binary and assume everyone is cis (the gender they were assigned at birth). In the end, labels are for the person to decide how they describe themself.
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In my opinion if she made her eyebrows thinner she would pretty easily pass as a girl.
Thick, dark, shapely brows are all the rage, apparantly See Kate Middleton for reference.
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Also worth noting: sexual behaviour doesn't define your orientation, it's about who you are attracted to. Just like a gay person may marry someone of the same sex, but they would still be gay. As for being attracted to trans* people, it's a tricky area because sexual orientation labels are very binary and assume everyone is cis (the gender they were assigned at birth). In the end, labels are for the person to decide how they describe themself.
As a bi/pansexual person, this is something I struggle with. I feel like pan implies I am attracted to every conceivable gender and people that have no gender at all, which I don't really have experience enough to know is true. I've found trans people attractive, but I'm attracted to a trans man in the same way that I'm attracted to a cis man (and the same for women), it doesn't really seem any different or feel like it needs a special label.
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both - and people who dont conform to either
This isn't exactly about transgender issues, more LGBT;

Do you identify as bisexual or pansexual? Or do you just not identify?
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As a bi/pansexual person, this is something I struggle with. I feel like pan implies I am attracted to every conceivable gender and people that have no gender at all, which I don't really have experience enough to know is true. I've found trans people attractive, but I'm attracted to a trans man in the same way that I'm attracted to a cis man (and the same for women), it doesn't really seem any different or feel like it needs a special label.
Yeah I think a lot of people have similar troubles. But then there are some people who very concretely identify as bi or pan, so I guess there must be something in it. Again it comes down to personal word choice. I saw a description of someone's definition of 'bi' where they said the bi was between 'same gender' and 'other genders' rather than between 'male' and 'female'. So in that sense the definitions would be almost identical. But then everyone defines their own identity differently.
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This isn't exactly about transgender issues, more LGBT;

Do you identify as bisexual or pansexual? Or do you just not identify?
I think it is easiest to just not identify to ignore stigmatism placed on various different labels.

I have been trying to embed I Am What I Am by Gaynor here but no avail. haha
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How long did you have to live as a transwoman before you were allowed hormones?

I have a friend who has been told she must live for two years as transwoman before being allowed any hormones. But she is scared and won't do it and has considered buying HRT online - is there anything I can say to convince her otherwise?! I just don't like the idea of buying something so suspect online and without medical help with the transition!

How much help did you ask from female friends? Have you had to study how to walk/talk/put make up on etc? How hard was that to do?

Also - stop being so negative haha! You look great, the hormones really are making you look good, and I bet if you put those pictures up without saying "I am trans" a lot of people wouldn't really think twice!!!
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If I had sex with you would it make me gay?
I think the other poster has answered this pretty well

Just the physicall act of sex cant make someone gay.. - gay is about attraction, but through various means (viagra etc) you can have 'sex' without any attraction..

when it comes to trans peple there is no set rule on what is considered gay, and straight.. Ive met lots of guys, who consider themselves straight, and yet like transgirls..
Equally ive met many gay guys who dont like transgirls at all..

Labels are just labels, and when you get something which blurs the labels, like a trans person - it opens things up for inperpretation.. and people to make thier onw minds up
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I know this is going to be difficult but can you explain the thoughts you were having when thinking you want to have a sex change? Like what was it about being female that felt more right than being a male?
id didnt feel more right - it felt right

Before that something was always off. I knew something was wrong, something wasnt normal.. but I didnt know what it was (for lots of my life).

Though it was at puberty when it became clear. Physical dyshporia is a *****, and is one of the worst feelings ive ever had. Its a complete and painfull disconnect with your own body.. its not wanting to carry on living in your own skin, pain and depression at what you are... what you may never be, and what you have missed.. to the extent where you just dont want to be alive.. looking in a miror is just a stab in the side..

Add to this the feeling of knowing what is right, seeing normal girls lead their life, and not bieng able to do anything about it..

It was all confirmed that I was doing the right thing, when I told the first few people, and they started to treat me as myself... it was a feeling beyond discription, the first time I had ever been happy with how someone treated me - it was so so special.. something most people take for granted, just being able to be yourself, and be recognised and treated as yourself by others..

hmm... Hope this kind of answers your question..
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When did you realise you wanted to become a transwoman?


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the first time I can remember understanding these feelings was when I was 14-15

Before then something seemed wrong, and I did things differently.. but I didnt understand what it was..
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