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    (Original post by MostUncivilised)
    Good bloody comment. I hope all these lads who are whining about how crap a condom feels get penis warts and their willies fall off
    Is it a bad thing to not like how condoms feel now?
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    (Original post by minimarshmallow)
    Yeah but when you're looking through this thread and others like it, you see people mentioning that condoms are awful and they'd rather she was just on the pill, so women seem to be doing more than men in these situations.
    Condomless sex often doesn't just feel better for the guy. If both people want condomless sex, then it's more or less down to the woman to take contraceptive measures.
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Is it a bad thing to not like how condoms feel now?
    It's tiresome when people whine about it, yes
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    (Original post by Blue Rose)
    Neg me, don't care, the MAIN purpose of sex is reproduction so why be surprised if you fall pregnant if on or off contraception? If you know you're not ready for a child don't have sex simple.
    1) Negs haven't existed for quite some time...

    2) Not to be pernickety, but strictly speaking there is no 'purpose' when it comes to the mechanics of biology. Things have functions, and the useful functions tend to stick around through the millennia. The 'biological purpose' of something isn't a meaningful phrase. Sex has consequences, one of which is procreation. That is all.
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    (Original post by MostUncivilised)
    It's tiresome when people whine about it, yes
    But it's relevant to the question? And they are really ****..
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Are you taking the piss? Condoms are awful !!
    To be honest, this. They're a mood killer (who the heck wants to stop in the middle to put a plastic bag around their ****?), they feel uncomfortable and stop sensation, and are really fiddly sometimes (i've lost more than one erection faffing on trying to find them in the heat of the moment, open it with moist hands, put it on etc.).

    We stopped using them after a few weeks of being sexually active as she's on the pill. I still pull out anyway as it's harder to clean out when it's inside her as opposed to on her
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    (Original post by james1211)
    To be honest, this. They're a mood killer (who the heck wants to stop in the middle to put a plastic bag around their ****?), they feel uncomfortable and stop sensation, and are really fiddly sometimes (i've lost more than one erection faffing on trying to find them in the heat of the moment, open it with moist hands, put it on etc.).

    We stopped using them after a few weeks of being sexually active as she's on the pill. I still pull out anyway as it's harder to clean out when it's inside her as opposed to on her
    Exactly :lol: I used one once, and it was awful, painful and just uncomfortable. So glad I didn't use one the first time I had sex. Don't know how people deal with them!
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    I have never had sex with someone wearing a condom. I got tested and I'm clear. My boyfriend is also clear.
    If you don't get tested and then proceed to have sex without a condom having not been tested, it's irresponsible.
    The same goes for not using contraception. Fair enough, there might be negative side effects to the pill (mood swings, period irregularity, weight gain, etc) but not every pill will affect every woman the same way. Mine was prescribed to reduced period pain and my menstrual cycle has run like clockwork since day one - I even know the hour I'll start, aside from the couple of times when I've had my break and there's been no blood (I've never been pregnant). My sister used to faint due to severe period pain and was prescribed her pill after collapsing twice in one day. I have a friend who had to change hers as she was bleeding non-stop. The only really negative side effect is that it can increase the risk of stroke. If you have family history or have migraines or smoke, the prescription is harder to make. I've heard that the pill won't be prescribed to a chain smoker at the age of about 40+ as the risk is heightened, although this was a few years ago. Unfortunately, aside from condoms, birth control is something aimed at women, so we do have to take responsibility for ourselves.
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    (Original post by BlackMagicV)
    I have never had sex with someone wearing a condom. I got tested and I'm clear. My boyfriend is also clear.
    If you don't get tested and then proceed to have sex without a condom having not been tested, it's irresponsible.
    The same goes for not using contraception. Fair enough, there might be negative side effects to the pill (mood swings, period irregularity, weight gain, etc) but not every pill will affect every woman the same way. Mine was prescribed to reduced period pain and my menstrual cycle has run like clockwork since day one - I even know the hour I'll start, aside from the couple of times when I've had my break and there's been no blood (I've never been pregnant). My sister used to faint due to severe period pain and was prescribed her pill after collapsing twice in one day. I have a friend who had to change hers as she was bleeding non-stop. The only really negative side effect is that it can increase the risk of stroke. If you have family history or have migraines or smoke, the prescription is harder to make. I've heard that the pill won't be prescribed to a chain smoker at the age of about 40+ as the risk is heightened, although this was a few years ago. Unfortunately, aside from condoms, birth control is something aimed at women, so we do have to take responsibility for ourselves.
    The mini pill can be prescribed for women who have a greater risk of stroke. They can also use both types of the coil, the implant and depo.

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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    I think it can take up to 3 months for the hormones in the pill to fully leave your system, this does not however mean it takes 3 months before you can get pregnant, in fact it only take 2 missed pills for that to become possible. What it means by 3 months to leave your system is that it takes (up to) that long for the woman's hormone cycle to regulate itself back to normal levels (though her levels once missing two pills are not subnormal enough to stop her getting pregnant)
    Oh yeah I know you can still get pregnant if you only miss one or two pills. My point was in response to someone else that argued that pills weren't always convenient as a means of contraception as they can mess up your cycle.
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    (Original post by Alys-Cait)
    Oh yeah I know you can still get pregnant if you only miss one or two pills. My point was in response to someone else that argued that pills weren't always convenient as a means of contraception as they can mess up your cycle.
    Oh I see, sorry I misinterpreted your post
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Oh I see, sorry I misinterpreted your post
    no problem I also meant to say that the official line is that it only takes 3 months, but it can take longer and even then have some strange effects on your cycle. Humans are weird.
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    (Original post by Alys-Cait)
    no problem I also meant to say that the official line is that it only takes 3 months, but it can take longer and even then have some strange effects on your cycle. Humans are weird.
    Aye fair enough, it's definitely the exception and not the norm though for it to effect your cycle in such a way it becomes inconvenient.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Aye fair enough, it's definitely the exception and not the norm though for it to effect your cycle in such a way it becomes inconvenient.
    I suppose it depends on what you consider inconvenient :P For instance, if you have irregualr periods you may have worries of being pregnant. Or never knowing when you're due it's impossible to plan around. Especially if you have heavy or painful periods.
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    (Original post by Alys-Cait)
    I suppose it depends on what you consider inconvenient :P For instance, if you have irregualr periods you may have worries of being pregnant. Or never knowing when you're due it's impossible to plan around. Especially if you have heavy or painful periods.
    I went on the pill to sort out my irregular cycle, used to have a period like once every 3 months

    I define inconvenient as irregular in when the period comes (outside of the usual week or so) for a month or two.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    I went on the pill to sort out my irregular cycle, used to have a period like once every 3 months

    I define inconvenient as irregular in when the period comes (outside of the usual week or so) for a month or two.
    ah see, that's more inconvenient than mine! I went on it for heavy and painful, then got too many headaches so stopped taking it. It's been weird ever since. But not so heavy, and no headaches! So, you know, I can deal with cramps and not knowing when it'll happen!
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    (Original post by Alys-Cait)
    ah see, that's more inconvenient than mine! I went on it for heavy and painful, then got too many headaches so stopped taking it. It's been weird ever since. But not so heavy, and no headaches! So, you know, I can deal with cramps and not knowing when it'll happen!
    Did you go on the combined pill? If that didn't work out for you could try one of the other types such as the minipill. I had a friend who didn't mesh well with the combined pill but she never did bother looking for an alternative....that didn't go so well :')

    Not that you haven't bothered though just giving an anecdote.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Did you go on the combined pill? If that didn't work out for you could try one of the other types such as the minipill. I had a friend who didn't mesh well with the combined pill but she never did bother looking for an alternative....that didn't go so well :')

    Not that you haven't bothered though just giving an anecdote.
    Haha I think I'm going to leave it for a bit, the cramps aren't that bad, only occasionally am I curled up crying! I can generally get on with it pretty well now. And the headaches have stopped which was the main thing. I get migraines so I should never have even been put on that pill. My nurse is ****.
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    (Original post by Alys-Cait)
    Haha I think I'm going to leave it for a bit, the cramps aren't that bad, only occasionally am I curled up crying! I can generally get on with it pretty well now. And the headaches have stopped which was the main thing. I get migraines so I should never have even been put on that pill. My nurse is ****.
    Oh man :/ that's awful I've never experienced cramps or anything like that so I guess I'm pretty lucky.
    I have no idea of the effect any of the birth control methods have on migraines but your nurse certainly should have, it's great when you get a fantastic sexual health nurse though.
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Oh man :/ that's awful I've never experienced cramps or anything like that so I guess I'm pretty lucky.
    I have no idea of the effect any of the birth control methods have on migraines but your nurse certainly should have, it's great when you get a fantastic sexual health nurse though.
    Yeah, I mean, maybe I just have a really low pain threshold, but I used to throw up My mum and I are quite similar in that respect, and when she was having me the nurses kept asking if she needed pain relief and it hadn't even reached her period pains yet. SHE WAS IN LABOUR WITHOUT PAIN RELIEF! That's insane. Boggled my mind! Anyway, it 2:41, I'm going to bed!
 
 
 
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