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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    I wouldn't invest in either a girl you're not that sold on, or a girl whom is engaged, if I were you, unless it's for friendship/networking. Be careful what **** you sew..
    Good advice. Thing is engaged girl is engaged full stop. So I'm not going to do anything now! Just wish she had pointed that out and slightly worried she wanted to meet up with me.

    #2 girl seems to be a complete tease, user and blocker. She neglected to tell me as her friend she has a bf, but has been touching me well in my personal space and constantly interrupting me when talking to other women. She seems adamant to stop me meeting a particular girl as well. I have now been avoiding this so called female friend. She's messing with my social life.

    Trouble is she really ****ed up me meeting a really hot girl. I don't know how to do it. I'm happy to approach her on my own, but I have no access to that department building. I'm not an expert on fb following lol, so don't know how to find her. There are so many girls on campus! But I guess I'll have to try another. Thing is my crush looks like a model. She's so hot. No wonder jealous #2 wants to block!

    Any advice? Or do I just have to move to other girls and let #2 friend win in terms of blocking me meeting my crush?
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    (Original post by Eboracum)
    Class post man. I enjoyed reading. Admire the honesty at the end as well.

    The trouble you'll have is that you'll end up with neither. You won't get to bang foot job girl, because she's got a boyfriend, and you wouldn't want to get involved with somebody in a relationship anyway as it's only going to end badly. I admit, it would be difficult. I'd be having wild sexual fantasies about a girl if she rubbed her foot on my crotch in public, but she's a tease, you've got to let her go man. Yeah she doesn't sound like ideal gf material if she's physically flirting with other men whilst she has a bf. It is difficult as I say and if you can, you should congratulate yourself immensely. Never let women play with your head. Footjob girl is either bang or avoid, and in this case bang is not an option.

    You best bet is a massively gulp of confidence and just try to meet the other girl. Can be extremely difficult if you're not in the same class or anything. I mean it's going to be almost impossible to approach her at lunch if she's with her mates and it's just you, although if you already know her a bit that is your cue to do it. Has hot girl shown an interest in you?

    Either way, you sound like your not having trouble attracting females, which you should get a buzz from.
    Thanks bud. I really appreciate this solid bro advice!

    Yeah, I'm all about honesty. I must confess, ever since she did her sample footjob, I have not been able to get her out of my head (giving me head lol). I have been fantasising about her multiple times a week. I guess this is what she wanted. She does seem like someone who likes control or attention. I know she's not girlfriend material though, and I was shocked to find out from someone else she has a boyfriend.

    As you said, banging her is not an option. I guess I have to take something from this that some women seem to want me as you say! Yes, it's really really difficult to get her out of my thoughts. But it's the right thing to do. I will try my best. I've been avoiding her which helps, but it is a struggle. In fact yesterday she texted me "Are you back at halls yet, I want to see you." She also still seems to step in at hall parties when I'm trying to talk to a pretty girl.

    I guess I can congratulate myself that I am fighting back and hopefully going to prevail over these manipulations. If I'm going to be with a girl, I want it to be for the right reasons and actual attraction, not some coaxed control fetish. I am talking to other women as much as I can. My heart is rather set on this other hot girl at the moment. She seems so lovely and I think we would hit it off. I just want a chance to talk with her in a casual setting.

    The cafe move could be an option, but unfortunately I think she hangs out at her department building during the day. It has a different access card than mine, hence I was trying to ask for some help from friends. But their reciprocal invite to their birthday party seemed to be absent (no doubt due to footjob girl's intervention).

    If I do run into this girl, I think would be so overjoyed I might forget to speak. If it happened, then maybe there is such a thing as good triumphs hahaha. Wish me luck! Trouble is hot girl hasn't met me yet. According to those other 2 though, she would be perfect for me. She has my interests too. I'm trying to find other friends who may know her. She's in the year above and is apparently quite popular.

    True, I'm happy women are pursuing me. I'm inexperienced though, never had a gf before, was hoping hot girl would be the first! Really appreciate your words of wisdom.

    Any other advice on meeting hot girl? I'm not sure about fbooking her because I don't actually know her (yet). Just have to hope at a party that we meet for now. But... I'm going for coffee every snacktime I get in case she happens to frequent the communal bar...

    I feel like Ted Mosby or someone. Need Barney Stinson to do a Have you met Ted me with hot girl!
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Flirting doesn't stop dead when you're in a relationship generally.
    What do you think about the girls in my OP? Is that normal flirting?

    (Original post by Jebedee)
    Because they're currently in the market for an upgrade. The second they mention having a boyfriend is the second you know that you screwed up the interaction somewhere along the line.


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    Is #2 girl in my OP trying to block me to keep control of me? What to do, it seems to be working, as in I keep thinking about what she did..
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    Try and keep away from those girls, they are crushing your game. Tell them to stfu around other girls or you won't speak to them again.
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    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    I think sometimes its because when you have been in a relationship for so long, sometimes you take each other for granted and fail to see the little things in each other but other people eyeing you up can notice them and girls in that state do like to be reminded of their good points and like the attention.

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    I know people like compliments, but is it right for girl #1 to omit the fact she is engaged when I am so obviously flirtily complimenting her? And is it right for girl #2 to actively try and almost seduce me with her feet and in addition block me from meeting a crush in order she have a backup boyfriend to give her attention and make her feel good?

    (Original post by MancBoy)
    The most likely reason is for the attention. Most girls would do anything for some male atrention and self validation.

    This is why you see women who are married going out clubbing mainly to boost their egos and to show they still 'have it'.

    The other reason is to monkey branch I.e keeping other guys as a backup just in case anything goes wrong.
    What can I do about girl #2? in my OP!

    (Original post by Spock's Socks)
    Yeah I imagine one of the biggest reasons some taken girls lead on other guys is because they are bored of their current relationship. There's likely to be lots of other reasons too.
    But is it normal/right to tease me with her feet like that? Girl #2 in my OP seems a bit nuts. Also she is actively blocking me from meeting another girl. I am single, and girl #2 has a bf already! So she wants me as a backup, so stops me from meeting anyone?

    (Original post by Daniellejo.)
    Why do guys sometimes get the wrong impression?

    I get told I'm flirty without even realising it. I mean the other week I was told that the way I was standing was trying to be sexy, I was just leaning against the door!
    Please see what girl #2 in my OP did. Is this me getting the wrong impression?

    (Original post by flatmatetrouble)
    Let me rephrase this for you. A girl from another course, who is really friendly with a lot of people, was friendly towards you. Later you found out she has a boyfriend.

    Let me ask you a more appropriate quesiton, why do you think that girls being friendly and nice is them leading you on?

    :rolleyes:
    Look girl #1 was more than just friendly, she also asked to meet me privately.
    Girl #2 in my OP has been way more than friendly. I mean my other female friends have never given me a sample footjob! Nor have they actively blocked me from meeting other girls. Please tell me your thoughts on my OP.
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    (Original post by Jebedee)
    Try and keep away from those girls, they are crushing your game. Tell them to stfu around other girls or you won't speak to them again.
    Trying. I think I'm too nice to tell them to stfu. I feel like telling girl #2 to either bang me or leave me alone. I don't know why she is doing this. Does she fancy me?

    I have been avoiding her and trying to flirt with other girls without her being a nuisance. I don't know how to meet my crush though. Ideas? Please see my OP.
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    Some guys are admittedly like that, but some girls blatantly lead people on, then laugh at them with a large group of friends when they show an interest
    So girl 1 is using me for a laugh and girl 2 is using me for...?

    (Original post by CryptoidAlien)
    She didn't lead you on, guys get the wrong impression. Some guys seem to think if a girl smiles at you she wants to get you in bed and take your shoes off.
    I think girl 1 should have mentioned she was engaged though. Why did she flirt back and ask me for coffee? What do you make of girl 2 in my OP? Also see point 3 I made. Thoughts?

    (Original post by Freudian Slip)
    Smiling is leading someone on now...?

    Goodness knows how I'm gonna break it off with those people I politely greeted today. :lolwut:
    But girl #2/3 didn't just smile. She put her foot on my crotch. Is that normal? Also, why actively block me from meeting a girl I like on her course?

    (Original post by Elitegamer95)
    Maybe they play games each other?
    Maybe she's naive and doesn't know what she's doing?
    Or maybe she gets a kick out of it?

    What I do know is it's not gender specific and good communication skills wouldn't go awry.
    What do you make of girl #2 in my OP?

    (Original post by Joan5626)
    In all honesty, girls like it when guys pay them compliments. (this is coming from a girl just so you know) But just because we smile a lot around you, laugh at your jokes, pay you compliments and act polite around you, doesnt mean that we're leading you on. Some of us are just really nice and friendly ok? Notice I said "some".
    I know I have loads of nice female friends. I am a bit annoyed about girl 1, but hey, maybe she wanted some validation that she's still hot, which she is no doubt. What do you make of girl #2 in my post? She actively seems to block me speaking to other girls and also put her feet on my crotch. Also she seems intent to block me meeting a specific girl on her course whom I like.

    (Original post by Ndella)
    Since they consider themselves attractive enough to get a boyfriend, the single guy is a backup man.
    So what can I do about girl #2? Is she trying to control me in some weird fetish as a backup guy? And what does girl #1 want? She is engaged!
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    (Original post by Jebedee)
    Try and keep away from those girls, they are crushing your game. Tell them to stfu around other girls or you won't speak to them again.
    Advice specifically for girl 1 and girl 2 in my OP?
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    (Original post by Joan5626)
    Maybe you guys are really good friends and she wants you to feel good about yourself?

    Either that, or she misses her long distance boyfriend, and you are just her temporary "plaything", as bad as that may sound.

    I suppose since you've never objected to what she does around you, she assumes that you're ok with it. I guess your best bet is to talk to her gently about it, and/or tell her to stop (if it really makes you uncomfortable). Or you could make it clear in certain ways like your actions and the way you speak and text, that you two are just friends, nothing more.
    So what do I say/do about girl #2? She has got inside my fantasies somehow. See my OP.

    (Original post by Norin)
    Some say i do that but i an just the flirty type that gets along with most, would never do that if was currently going out with somebody.
    What do I do about girl #2?
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    (Original post by kunoichi)
    Use fb to find her, then this girl has no way of interrupting that.

    Next time she does something like rub her feet on you 'just give her a wierd stare and say 'dont you have a bf?'
    Even if you enjoy the attention, think how the poor guy would feel if he knew. Or even worse for you, if he finds out you just let it happen then you may have an angry bf to deal with.
    She sounds like a ***** tbh, i'd never act whilst in a relationship.
    Is it all right to use FB to talk to a girl I've never met though?

    I didn't ask her to put her feet on me! I admit, it felt so good and now I can't get this girl out of my head. Maybe that was her plan? She is a bit of a ***** yes.

    Advice on what to do? I've been avoiding her so far this week.
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    (Original post by pshah2)
    Just wish she had pointed that out and slightly worried she wanted to meet up with me
    Unless someone is pointing a gun at your head, in this life there is little that should "worry" you, as a man

    She seems adamant to stop me meeting a particular girl as well
    I would have it out with her

    Any advice?
    Find another way to meet the girl and/or just crack onto others
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Unless someone is pointing a gun at your head, in this life there is little that should "worry" you, as a man

    I would have it out with her

    Find another way to meet the girl and/or just crack onto others
    Haaa very true.

    I might thrash it out with her to be honest. I've been avoiding her for now.

    I'll try and find another way. I don't want to cold approach the girl on facebook. I have been meeting others in the mean time. But seriously this crush is like a model, she's so hot. And from what I've heard is very nice.
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    to answer the question quite generally girls flirt with guys for fun, as an ego boost, or without realizing. Simply Innocent flirting doesn't suggest any intentions. Girls in relationships flirt outrageously with guys who they assume/know are gay (because it's fun). If I was you I'de be careful you haen't gien off that impression. Its a really crap mistake for a girl to make.
    To be more specific to your girls. Girl 1 hasn't let you on, she probably likes her fiance enough to be oblivious to your advances. It seems to me as if she is treating you the same way as she would treat a female friend (I do this). Its normal for girls to be just friends with guys. I'm engaged but go shopping with my (straight) male friend and have eben slept up his house because I know he has no romantic interest in me. I'e also gone out for drinks with other male friends.
    Girl 2 on the other hand probably likes you and gets jealous when other girls talk to you as she feels threatened. She may be interested in cheating on her bf, or is keeping you as back-up. Or she likes you and her boyfriend, intends to stay with her bf, but wants you to stay single so she doesn't get jealous lol.
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    (Original post by CocoBandicoot)
    to answer the question quite generally girls flirt with guys for fun, as an ego boost, or without realizing. Simply Innocent flirting doesn't suggest any intentions. Girls in relationships flirt outrageously with guys who they assume/know are gay (because it's fun). If I was you I'de be careful you haen't gien off that impression. Its a really crap mistake for a girl to make.
    To be more specific to your girls. Girl 1 hasn't let you on, she probably likes her fiance enough to be oblivious to your advances. It seems to me as if she is treating you the same way as she would treat a female friend (I do this). Its normal for girls to be just friends with guys. I'm engaged but go shopping with my (straight) male friend and have eben slept up his house because I know he has no romantic interest in me. I'e also gone out for drinks with other male friends.
    Girl 2 on the other hand probably likes you and gets jealous when other girls talk to you as she feels threatened. She may be interested in cheating on her bf, or is keeping you as back-up. Or she likes you and her boyfriend, intends to stay with her bf, but wants you to stay single so she doesn't get jealous lol.
    Thanks for this. Appreciate advice on girls!

    Okay fair enough for girl 1. She seems to have only given her number to me out of all the males on our course though.

    With regards to girl 2. So you think she might like me? She must be jealous if she keeps interrupting me. Thing is when she rubbed her feet on me, I have started fantasising about her. I didn't before that. But I really want to meet this crush girl, and girl 2 seems adamant to stop it. Trouble is I sort of need her help to meet her. How do I deal with girl 2? Thing is I don't want to be her backup or under her control. I wouldn't want to date her. It's only after her flirty touching that I have thought about her in a sexual way. I am also disappointed that she has evaded to mention she has a boyfriend. We were always platonic friends anyhow. Is she trying to seduce me and keep me thinking about her? It seems to be working... what do I do?

    Advice? I keep imagining her sucking her finger.
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    (Original post by slade p)
    because they are a bit loose in the first place and they like the feeling of other men wanting them, and getting kicks out of flirting with them knowing that they're with another guy.
    What do you think about girl #2 in my OP? The things she is doing.. I keep imagining her giving me a bj.

    (Original post by yo radical one)
    It's your fault not hers, she is fun and nice so you like her, you should not get attached so easily. Of course, it's different if you actually do become close in which case you should be loyal, but you were clearly nowhere near
    What do you think about girl #2 in my OP?
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    You see and I think:

    'Why does every guy I have a conversation with thinks I want to get it on?!'

    By 3rd year of uni I figured out that every time I start a conversation with a guy I need to mention I have a boyfriend. I am so relieved when they reciprocate by talking about their girlfriend. Seriously, 1st year of uni I felt so lonely because I get on best with guys, but it turned out they thought there was more going on there than friendship.

    Now needless to say I am mostly friends with girls and just a few guys.
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    (Original post by pshah2)
    Thanks for this. Appreciate advice on girls!

    Okay fair enough for girl 1. She seems to have only given her number to me out of all the males on our course though.

    With regards to girl 2. So you think she might like me? She must be jealous if she keeps interrupting me. Thing is when she rubbed her feet on me, I have started fantasising about her. I didn't before that. But I really want to meet this crush girl, and girl 2 seems adamant to stop it. Trouble is I sort of need her help to meet her. How do I deal with girl 2? Thing is I don't want to be her backup or under her control. I wouldn't want to date her. It's only after her flirty touching that I have thought about her in a sexual way. I am also disappointed that she has evaded to mention she has a boyfriend. We were always platonic friends anyhow. Is she trying to seduce me and keep me thinking about her? It seems to be working... what do I do?

    Advice? I keep imagining her sucking her finger.
    Yeah, first I would check she still has this boyfriend, as however unlikely she may actually be on the rebound. Otherwise she just sounds like a *****, which you should steer as far away as possible from. Don't worry about the fantasies they don't mean much.
    As for crush girl your going to have to find another way to get talking to her. If you could just casually bump into her and start a conversation in a mutual public place, you could add her on social media from there, and talking will be a lot less awkward.
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    Soem girls do like the attention. Others, like me, either really don't get it OR we suspect something is going on but we're too scared to say "are you flirting? I'm not comfortable with that" because it could get very embarrassing if you're just being nice.
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    (Original post by Jebedee)
    Because they're currently in the market for an upgrade. The second they mention having a boyfriend is the second you know that you screwed up the interaction somewhere along the line.



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    100% True
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