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    (Original post by IrishBoyInLondon)
    Men aren't supposed to be asked out. I've never heard of a man being asked out in my entire life.
    Ahem! I was asked out twice 2 years ago in the same week, and ever since things have gone downhill. :emo:
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    (Original post by ArabianPhoenix)
    What's with the annoying stereotype? females get pissed off when they aren't asked out and it's OK, but when guys get pissed off suddenly you have a bunch of sexist ***** adhering to gender stereotypes. Females want equality, and yet they'd never do the stuff males do, i.e putting themselves on the front line, or actually asking a guy out. women need to put their arrogance behind and actually start making attempts, otherwise feminists aren't ever going to get there so called equality.
    before you write a whole paragraph, make sure you understand first what you're replying to, before you end up with an excervise in futility.

    i dont care about some moral high ground in gender equality, i said that in this day and age guys have to approach because that's how society is. if this is something you dont like go preach about it somewhere else, because here it's irrelevant. im merely saying that's just how the world is.

    it seems too many people in tsr these days just want to grab the first opportunity to point out an evil un-liberal stereotype, quite pathetic especially when you fail doing so. im guessing you're a guy lacking in the relationship department, and thereby choose to blame your short comings on gender equality... yeah, so original.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    before you write a whole paragraph, make sure you understand first what you're replying to, before you end up with an excervise in futility.

    i dont care about some moral high ground in gender equality, i said that in this day and age guys have to approach because that's how society is. if this is something you dont like go preach about it somewhere else, because here it's irrelevant. im merely saying that's just how the world is.

    it seems too many people in tsr these days just want to grab the first opportunity to point out an evil un-liberal stereotype, quite pathetic especially when you fail doing so. im guessing you're a guy lacking in the relationship department, and thereby choose to blame your short comings on gender equality... yeah, so original.
    'that's how society is' <---- I could not disagree more, just because society is set how it is in the present moment, it doesn't have to be. With this ideology society will never evolve! And regardless whether my opinion is 'irrelevant' or not, I have a right to write it and whether people agree with it or not then that's there problem.

    And no i'm a girl, but it's nice to know that if I was a guy writing the same **** then you'd presume I was single and lacking skills to be in a relationship.
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    (Original post by ArabianPhoenix)
    'that's how society is' <---- I could not disagree more, just because society is set how it is in the present moment, it doesn't have to be. With this ideology society will never evolve! And regardless whether my opinion is 'irrelevant' or not, I have a right to write it and whether people agree with it or not then that's there problem.

    And no i'm a girl, but it's nice to know that if I was a guy writing the same **** then you'd presume I was single and lacking skills to be in a relationship.
    yes i wouldve presumed so because it makes sense, and applies to OP completely as well.

    also, how can you disagree with the fact that society is indeed like that? just because you don't like the idea and wish that it would change, doesn't make it any less true. set your words out coherently please.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I don't think I look that bad , probably average or a little better and I'm almost 6'1'' and , 170 lbs and I dress nice, have good hygiene etc . Plus I've had plenty of gay guys try to chat me up when I lived around the gay area in Brighton (felt flattered in a way but no thanks, not my cup of tea). Why don't girls ever approach me? Is there something wrong with me or anything I can do to change it? I'm shy by nature but I have tried asking girls out quite a few times with little to zero success.

    Is there anything I can do to have girls ask me out or will I die alone?
    Bro, I've never been asked out either. I've had girls tell me they want to go out with me... but I've had to ask them out.

    I have never been asked out, because society has deemed it the mans job to do it... which is bs and not always the case. But generally, you should take it on yourself to ask someone out
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    (Original post by miser)
    Don't expect the world to give a ****. The world's not rooting for you. But it's not against you either. If you want things you have to go and get them - waiting will get you nowhere.
    I agree best opinion yet

    just get on with it

    and make most of the cards you get

    its often not worth attempting to cheat your way into better cards

    its often better to just play the game instead
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    In the last 30 years, I have been asked out by only one girl, and that was when I was 17.

    I've been asked out by about four or five blokes in the intervening period, though.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I don't think I look that bad , probably average or a little better and I'm almost 6'1'' and , 170 lbs and I dress nice, have good hygiene etc . Plus I've had plenty of gay guys try to chat me up when I lived around the gay area in Brighton (felt flattered in a way but no thanks, not my cup of tea). Why don't girls ever approach me? Is there something wrong with me or anything I can do to change it? I'm shy by nature but I have tried asking girls out quite a few times with little to zero success.

    Is there anything I can do to have girls ask me out or will I die alone?
    Just give up coward, give into your ego and let that do your decision making for you now and forever..
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    this thread as a whole can represent the stupid 75% of the tsr community as a whole, whiny little boys afraid of the opposite sex and pretentious pseudo liberals who dont quite yet know what they're arguing for.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    this thread as a whole can represent the stupid 75% of the tsr community as a whole, whiny little boys afraid of the opposite sex and pretentious pseudo liberals who dont quite yet know what they're arguing for.
    ^ *Instantly makes me want to read through this thread*


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    You still live in an era where most women need encouragement and support to be more bold with their dating attitude and that still includes giving up the notion that the conservative lifestyle is for every girl, so maybe you should play by the rules more and see where it goes :yy: !
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    (Original post by Fashion Girl)
    You still live in an era where most women need encouragement and support to be more bold with their dating attitude and that still includes giving up the notion that the conservative lifestyle is for every girl, so maybe you should play by the rules more and see where it goes :yy: !
    Yup most women are still very equality shy when it comes to uncomfortable bits of our ''gender roles''.
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    this thread as a whole can represent the stupid 75% of the tsr community as a whole, whiny little boys afraid of the opposite sex and pretentious pseudo liberals who dont quite yet know what they're arguing for.
    Entitled little girls are fine though
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    (Original post by ilem)
    Entitled little girls are fine though
    Maybe not all girls feel 'entitled', perhaps they feel just as scared at the thought of rejection. That and maybe they're not so fussed about getting a guy as to actually make the effort to approach them.
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    (Original post by Nomes89)
    Maybe not all girls feel 'entitled', perhaps they feel just as scared at the thought of rejection. That and maybe they're not so fussed about getting a guy as to actually make the effort to approach them.
    Oh definitely not -- I've had a couple women be very straightforward with me and that made me respect them a lot and gave me a lot of confidence about that relationship.

    What I can't stand are the hypocrites who would under no circumstances take the first step and yet expect the man to always initiate. Particularly when they talk about initiation being 'the man's job' instead of admitting to shyness or being unconfident. Unfortunately there are quite a few women who tend to hold that opinion.
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    (Original post by Fashion Girl)
    You still live in an era where most women need encouragement and support to be more bold with their dating attitude and that still includes giving up the notion that the conservative lifestyle is for every girl, so maybe you should play by the rules more and see where it goes :yy: !
    This is why I'm not a Feminist. Simple pick and choose nonsense. Women want equality only when it suits them. Men and Women will never be equal.
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    (Original post by ilem)
    Oh definitely not -- I've had a couple women be very straightforward with me and that made me respect them a lot and gave me a lot of confidence about that relationship.

    What I can't stand are the hypocrites who would under no circumstances take the first step and yet expect the man to always initiate. Unfortunately there are quite a few women who tend to hold that opinion.
    Fair enough.

    I think if women aren't prepared to go up to guys they should at least give guys signal and make themselves more open to approach.

    Having said that I've approached guys before but many seem to take it that you think they're irresistible and play silly games when in fact I just thought they were kinda cute and am quite happy to drop them for another if they start acting up.
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    (Original post by Eboracum)
    This is why I'm not a Feminist. Simple pick and choose nonsense. Women want equality only when it suits them. Men and Women will never be equal.
    Well if you generalise women in that way it's quite obvious why you're not a Feminist.

    And to be equal is not to be the same.
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    (Original post by Nomes89)
    Fair enough.

    I think if women aren't prepared to go up to guys they should at least give guys signal and make themselves more open to approach.

    Having said that I've approached guys before but many seem to take it that you think they're irresistible and play silly games when in fact I just thought they were kinda cute and am quite happy to drop them for another if they start acting up.
    Yeah, I don't mind if a girl is shy or not very confident, these problems can affect everyone. It's far worse when they have an attitude where they consider asking to be the man's job. That just reeks of entitlement.
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    (Original post by Eboracum)
    This is why I'm not a Feminist. Simple pick and choose nonsense. Women want equality only when it suits them. Men and Women will never be equal.
    Yeah, women need support in certain areas and are all "bra-burning" outspoken in other areas! I'm not a feminist either, bacause I find some of their attitudes absolutely appalling, like insisting they should be given preferential treatment when it comes to securing jobs simply because they're women - the whole quota system is unfair as it is, without having to face prejudice during high unemployment simply because of your gender.
 
 
 
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