Sex/Relationship Education at school; the Good, the Bad and the Ugly.

I definitely agree, if people have the education then hopefully that will give them the confidence to know what to do in situations. Also they wouldn't have to seek out the info and have the awkward conversations if they already have an incline of what to do.

I'm wondering if that is from years ago, or if it is fairly recent. I would have thought that was a problem of the past, but if it's recent then there is still work to be done. Religion should not be an excuse to teach kids dangerous utter BS.

Just be thankful we're not in the USA, where abstinence sex ed is taught in a lot of schools in the more Conservative areas, despite the fact that study after study has proven it to be completely useless.

Unfortunately it still happens. My sister had a shocking whole day of talks by an outside group about abstinence in her all girls' Catholic sixth form, only 1 or 2 years ago.

As one demonstration, they got a girl to stand up and wrapped cellotape around her, then took it off and stuck it back, then took it off and now it wasn't sticky anymore. They said this was exactly what happens to a girl when she has sex. At first it can be pleasurable, but as she gets 'used' it no longer is.

I cried when she told me, that's a hideous message that doesn't even make any sense. Any Catholic girl that takes on board everything she's told (and there were a rare few who really did) will believe that even if she does everything 'right' and waits for marriage, she's still doomed to a life of unpleasant sex because she's used up and valueless. My sister complained to the head about it, but they defended the whole horrible thing; I imagine they asked them back again each year since.

One of my friends (aged 18) who had gone to the secondary there too got her first boyfriend. She didn't do anything physical with him but she started secretly going to church regularly crying, begging for forgiveness in prayers. She finally opened up to her friends about her terrible sin, and was shocked to find out that simply feeling the urge to kiss her boyfriend was completely normal. Then she became angry at her parents and school for deceiving her.

Unfortunately it still happens. My sister had a shocking whole day of talks by an outside group about abstinence in her all girls' Catholic sixth form, only 1 or 2 years ago.

As one demonstration, they got a girl to stand up and wrapped cellotape around her, then took it off and stuck it back, then took it off and now it wasn't sticky anymore. They said this was exactly what happens to a girl when she has sex. At first it can be pleasurable, but as she gets 'used' it no longer is.

I cried when she told me, that's a hideous message that doesn't even make any sense. Any Catholic girl that takes on board everything she's told (and there were a rare few who really did) will believe that even if she does everything 'right' and waits for marriage, she's still doomed to a life of unpleasant sex because she's used up and valueless. My sister complained to the head about it, but they defended the whole horrible thing; I imagine they asked them back again each year since.

One of my friends (aged 18) who had gone to the secondary there too got her first boyfriend. She didn't do anything physical with him but she started secretly going to church regularly crying, begging for forgiveness in prayers. She finally opened up to her friends about her terrible sin, and was shocked to find out that simply feeling the urge to kiss her boyfriend was completely normal. Then she became angry at her parents and school for deceiving her.

Wow that's crazy! We didn't have anything like that at our school and ours was a private catholic one so technically they could have taught us anything they wanted. They just didn't teach us anything, which although not great a lot better than propaganda and utter nonsense.

My memory of sex education:

Primary school - puberty
Secondary school - learnt a bit in year 7 about how you get pregnant. I remember one time when the topic of homosexuality was brought up (crazy catholic school) some kids said that if one if their kids turned out gay they'd physically beat the gay out of them didn't know that bisexuality existed as I was taught that it wasn't a thing so made me working out I was bi a lot harder

Also, we got told that we are sinners if we mastabated as we are killing potential children

That said, one kid ended up going through all the sex positions he does with his girlfriend

Basically I learnt most of my sex ed through my own experiences going wrong, friends and the internet

That is absolutely rubbish regarding masturbating and killing potential children, the males human body manufactures naturally in a man's testicules millions of sperm per day, so if a boy masturbates just to get rid of that lot you are "killing" millions of sperm, just a lot of tosh, it is natural for a boy to get rid of that lot by either masturbating or having 'wet dreams'

That's what I said and she sent me out of the class