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    (Original post by earthworm)
    Some guys are all about the bass! don't worry about your size just relax and be yourself and try not to pick tossers. In fact I would say that if a guy is funny about your weight then he is a tosser, but that's IMHO..
    I'm both a drum and bass raver and dj but I see no correlation between a heavy bassline and the horizontally challenged.

    Pls don't link me to dat song
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    It'd put some off, not all. Depends what they're attracted to.
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    You don't sound noticeably overweight so I don't think it would be that big of a deal to anyone tbh. If you don't feel confident then maybe try to tone up & become more active. You'll look & feel better which is always a plus & who knows, you might meet a guy when out for a run.

    (Original post by esjae)
    Darling, if he isn't interested in you because of your weight, then you can shed a couple of stone, by kicking his sorry ass to the curb!
    Cringe.

    Technically, her ass was already kicked to the curb 1st, if he isn't even interested in her..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not really fat at all but I'm slightly overweight (like not much but I'm very self conscious about it) and I'm worried the fact I have a bit of a tummy/ bigger thighs will put guys off if we decide to take things further. From your experiences, do guys generally get put off by girls being slightly bigger or do they care more about other things?
    Not everybody is attracted to borderline anorexic girls.
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    It totally depends on the guy. Many guys I know prefer bigger girls. However, if you're not happy with your size, you can always diet and exercise. What matters on the long run is how you view yourself (and this will reflect upon how guys view you).
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    (Original post by Juichiro)
    Not everybody is attracted to borderline anorexic girls.
    So being not fat is anorexic now?

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    (Original post by Juichiro)
    Not everybody is attracted to borderline anorexic girls.
    There is a happy medium. It's called being physically fit.
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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    There is a happy medium. It's called being physically fit.
    Which is not the case for most individuals.
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    (Original post by Jebedee)
    So being not fat is anorexic now?

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    No it is not. But the modern ideal is close to being anorexic.
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    I know many who do, a few of my friends say mean things about them in the club too...

    For me, if you have an ass I'll pronsbly date you. Not a fat ass, a curvy ass.
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    Do men not deserve to be with a woman they are attracted to? :hmmm: He's not a villain just because he doesn't like a certain body type.

    At the same time, don't stress yourself for a man who doesn't like it, unless you really want him. Then yea drop some fat, tighten those thighs :hubba:

    If you got with him at one body weight and became another after you two got together, and he wants you to lose weight, well...I'd do it. Like stop being selfish and drop some weight
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not really fat at all but I'm slightly overweight (like not much but I'm very self conscious about it) and I'm worried the fact I have a bit of a tummy/ bigger thighs will put guys off if we decide to take things further. From your experiences, do guys generally get put off by girls being slightly bigger or do they care more about other things?
    I believe they care more about other things... But more importantly is how you feel and believe me a life worried about your weight is a life wasted! Embrace your body and everything it does for you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not really fat at all but I'm slightly overweight (like not much but I'm very self conscious about it) and I'm worried the fact I have a bit of a tummy/ bigger thighs will put guys off if we decide to take things further. From your experiences, do guys generally get put off by girls being slightly bigger or do they care more about other things?
    It'll put the wrong type of guys off. If they're bothered then they aren't worth it.
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    (Original post by Juichiro)
    Which is not the case for most individuals.
    1. It's hardly unusual.

    2. What does how common it is have to do with anything? You presented a false binary of overweight and borderline anorexic, as though 'healthy' is not an option.

    (Original post by Juichiro)
    No it is not. But the modern ideal is close to being anorexic.
    Not as far as attractiveness to guys is concerned, which is what this thread is about.
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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    1. It's hardly unusual.

    2. What does how common it is have to do with anything? 3.You presented a false binary of overweight and borderline anorexic, as though 'healthy' is not an option.



    4.Not as far as attractiveness to guys is concerned, which is what this thread is about.
    1. I disagree. Take the UK population and I bet you two pints that less than half of the UK population are physically fit.

    2. The user said that there is a happy medium (being physically fit). I told him that most individuals don't fall there (i.e. they are not physically fit). Understood?

    3. Perhaps, I did. But underweight-skinny seems to be the goal of many females. Seeing the models that they compare themselves to is no wonder that they are so anxious to reach an ever-decreasing weight.

    4. Joking? Seeing point 3 about the models. An individual in the underweight end will have more chances to get laid than an individual in the overweight end. This is my hypothesis.
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    (Original post by Juichiro)
    1. I disagree. Take the UK population and I bet you two pints that less than half of the UK population are physically fit.

    2. The user said that there is a happy medium (being physically fit). I told him that most individuals don't fall there (i.e. they are not physically fit). Understood?

    3. Perhaps, I did. But underweight-skinny seems to be the goal of many females. Seeing the models that they compare themselves to is no wonder that they are so anxious to reach an ever-decreasing weight.

    4. Joking? Seeing point 3 about the models. An individual in the underweight end will have more chances to get laid than an individual in the overweight end. This is my hypothesis.
    1. Half the UK population is over 35 million people. It doesn't require 35 million people in the UK being physically fit for it to be 'not unusual'. You're setting yourself very favourable odds for those pints, especially seeing as a significant chunk of the UK population is middle-aged and older.

    2. I'm not sure what to say other than reiterate. The OP said she's insecure about her weight, you said most guys would prefer that to someone who is borderline anorexic. But that is faint praise when guys would much prefer someone a healthy weight to either of these.

    3. Be that as it may, that doesn't mean it's the look most guys are attracted to. Which, once again, is the focus of this thread.

    4. Aren't you contradicting yourself here? The first thing you said to OP was that guys would prefer someone overweight to a borderline anorexic, yet here you're saying someone stick skinny would find it easier to attract guys than someone overweight. Which is it?
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    (Original post by Juichiro)
    No it is not. But the modern ideal is close to being anorexic.
    Well someone who wants to lose weight can do the proper way (diet and exercise) or they can do it the lazy and cheating way (starve themselves). Any guy would take the former over the latter, any day.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm somewhere between 11 and 12 stone (not sure how much bcos I haven't weighed myself for months and I have lost weight recently) and I'm 5'8
    Perfect for me hate skinny girls

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    I like curvy girls, not overweight, but nothing wrong with carrying a bit of weight. At work, it seems like all the girls are constantly dieting, most of the younger ones look fine to me, yet they're all obsessed with losing a few pounds.

    Please do not mistake this for some moral position. I find it so funny that people think I'm a "good person" for preferring average size (in our society) girls. It's just what I find attractive, if I liked size six girls i'd say that, and then women would call me a pig. We can't help what we're attracted to, anyone than gay people can help which gender they're attracted to. If a guy is only sexually attracted to skinny girls he's unlucky, if anything.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not really fat at all but I'm slightly overweight (like not much but I'm very self conscious about it) and I'm worried the fact I have a bit of a tummy/ bigger thighs will put guys off if we decide to take things further. From your experiences, do guys generally get put off by girls being slightly bigger or do they care more about other things?
    Trust me. Bigger women will always turn some guys on. It's bigger men who have problems. The fattest women I know still manage to get dates.
 
 
 
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