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    Question OP were you staying friends in the hope she'd change her mind? Talking things through with her over and over can become monotonous from my perspective.
    I am sure that is what one of my old friends was like with me, he liked me and made this quite clear in his body language and how he'd be fine with the distance thing whilst I dated others but made a point of being there for me when I was down to pick up the pieces.
    I would say I was only interested as friends and he was like ok but underneath all that was "know I like you and always will and when the time is right we can try again".
    This in time scared me off in the end because he would tell his friends he knew this girl he liked and it was me..because one of his friends was my friends unbeknown to him.
    I shook him off with I can't be your friend while you see me as a girlfriend. Glad you've moved on to meet someone at university. Best of luck I wouldn't say you were a jerk but someone who perhaps didn't take the hint to move on.
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    Question OP were you staying friends in the hope she'd change her mind? Talking things through with her over and over can become monotonous from my perspective.
    I am sure that is what one of my old friends was like with me, he liked me and made this quite clear in his body language and how he'd be fine with the distance thing whilst I dated others but made a point of being there for me when I was down to pick up the pieces.
    I would say I was only interested as friends and he was like ok but underneath all that was "know I like you and always will and when the time is right we can try again".
    This in time scared me off in the end because he would tell his friends he knew this girl he liked and it was me..because one of his friends was my friends unbeknown to him.
    I shook him off with I can't be your friend while you see me as a girlfriend. Glad you've moved on to meet someone at university. Best of luck I wouldn't say you were a jerk but someone who perhaps didn't take the hint to move on.


    In the end we've kind of patched it up. I was just in a dark mood.
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    In the end we've kind of patched it up. I was just in a dark mood.
    I'm glad. Nothing worse than loosing a friend when things can be patched up through a good talk and be moved on from. It's all about trust and honesty!
    Best of luck all the same
    For me it's all about thinking of the friendship or relationship is worth saving in any capacity has to come from both parties.


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    In the end we've kind of patched it up. I was just in a dark mood.
    i hate to say it but...

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    (Original post by Sluice)
    So I've been best friends with a girl for over a year now. I asked her three days ago if she wanted to go out (like an actual date) and she told me pretty bluntly no and that she never would want to. However she still clearly wants to be friends but I just can't be bothered. I now find talking and spending time with her tedious and I know I shouldn't but I do and I can't change that. Basically I wouldn't care if she never saw me again. Am I a jerk?

    To clarify further it's not like I feel she had no right to turn me down or anything and I find guys like that to be pathetic, but since she has my interest in any sort of friendship has gone down the toilet and I feel like I should just tell her I don't care anymore.
    I can easily see why a negative interaction like that would potentially destroy the friendship. You are not a jerk.

    Should probs read the entire thing before commenting...so long though.

    This doesn't sound that patched though:

    "In the end we've kind of patched it up."
 
 
 
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