Going to see escort but really have no choice. What would you do?

Hi

So I've come to the decision at least for the time being that I'll visit an escort regularly because quite frankly women that I find attractive will simply not give me a chance. Tried everything, thrown a lot of money away trying to do it the normal way.

Basically my childhood was dreadful and I was psychologically abused and bullied for years when I was growing up. This has meant that now as an adult I feel defective as a human being. I simply cannot change the past and I've thrown thousands of pounds at trying to recover from past events.

I'd consider myself a physically attractive male. I have a good job and I'm intelligent but I'm simply not attractive to some women when it comes to my personality.

What would you do in my situation?

I'd get over myself and stop thinking that I deserve a girlfriend just because I'm good looking, intelligent and have money...

That and I didn't want to be a virgin at 18...girls would laugh at me.

The more attractive young women in my experience tend to prefer to go out with controlling, violent, psychologically abusive men that have a terrible job, are retards and the only goal they have in life is to sit in the pub and neck pints! I cannot understand this. Then when they hit their 30's they split up as they realise the mistake they've made as now they need to have kids and wonder how they are going to be supported. I've seen this happen many times.

TIL I'm going to be bullied at Uni. Oh well.

For goodness sake get over yourself. If that's your attitude towards women no wonder you can't get laid. It's pathetic mate. Cut the whole woe is me act, stop blaming other people and sort out your insecurity while you're still young or you'll end up old and bitter and alone still paying for sex from people who wouldn't come within 10 feet of you if you weren't giving them your money.

For goodness sake get over yourself. If that's your attitude towards women no wonder you can't get laid. It's pathetic mate. Cut the whole woe is me act, stop blaming other people and sort out your insecurity while you're still young or you'll end up old and bitter and alone still paying for sex from people who wouldn't come within 10 feet of you if you weren't giving them your money.

I've been focusing on self development for some time now and I have made some big improvements. But it's not enough - I may be developing myself for the next 20 years and then what. Women do want to date me initially at least but I find it hard to get to the second date stage. After a while I just think what do you want from me?? A guy has to have: a good job, needs to be a comedian, needs to have a thriving social life, a car, money and an attractive personality for a woman to give him a chance. It's a lot. The only thing I'm looking for in a woman is that she is slightly attractive.

I've been focusing on self development for some time now and I have made some big improvements. But it's not enough - I may be developing myself for the next 20 years and then what. Women do want to date me initially at least but I find it hard to get to the second date stage. After a while I just think what do you want from me?? A guy has to have: a good job, needs to be a comedian, needs to have a thriving social life, a car, money and an attractive personality for a woman to give him a chance. It's a lot. The only thing I'm looking for in a woman is that she is slightly attractive.

So you don't care about a woman's personality? Just that she's slightly attractive. Maybe that's where you're going wrong.

So you don't care about a woman's personality? Just that she's slightly attractive. Maybe that's where you're going wrong.

I've been focusing on self development for some time now and I have made some big improvements. But it's not enough - I may be developing myself for the next 20 years and then what. Women do want to date me initially at least but I find it hard to get to the second date stage. After a while I just think what do you want from me?? A guy has to have: a good job, needs to be a comedian, needs to have a thriving social life, a car, money and an attractive personality for a woman to give him a chance. It's a lot. The only thing I'm looking for in a woman is that she is slightly attractive.

I would recommend getting out more theres those females interested somewhere, travel youll probably find someone but dont throw more money away on an escort

Were that the only expectation of him (that he's slightly attractive), can you see how that would be like Christmas and birthday all rolled into one?

I seem to be throwing the same amount if not more money on women that are not escorts. Like last night a girl forced me to buy drinks for her and her friends otherwise she wouldn't give me her number. In total I spent £50 on a night and got 2 numbers. Then I think why not spend £50 on an escort and get more in return?

Well I wouldn't like someone to be with me just because they thought I was slightly attractive. I'd want them to like me as a person too.

Although the first date doesn't really mean much - you're simply getting to know someone. You actually start to bond and develop intimacy and connection with the girl in the dates that follow and I just can't get into that position. Yes gratitude is important otherwise you can get depressed very easily.

I was out last night and in total I spent £50 where two girls pretty much forced me to buy them drinks otherwise one of them wouldn't give me their number. By the end of the night I had 2 numbers.

Now if an escort costs £50 a go and then I compare this my night I can see why men would want to see an escort. Certainly from a purely financial perspective I'm getting a lot more and not spending my whole night chasing. Who knows I may end up spending £200 before I end up having sex with one of the girls I met. Then I ask why not spend £50 on an escort for exactly the same in return.

They're not mutually exclusive.