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    (Original post by ScaryScience)
    moved into supported housing yesterday and ****ing hell it's a disaster. it's absolutely horrible. been crying for over a day

    in other more positive news,found out I got a 2:1 in in my degree on Friday. given just how horrific the last few years have been, and the fact I only scraped a 2:2 in the first two years, i'm really proud
    :hugs: is it things that can be changed? If you need to vent just facebook me chick :jumphug:

    So bloody proud of you for getting a 2:1 its an amazing grade and even more so considering what youv been through!
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    Kind of realised something today which might sound obvious but for someone so private, especially inrl it was kind of a revelation, that is that people know more than they let on and that if you need help you have to ask for it.
    Confided in someone that i was anxious about a particular aspect of the course and admitted it was worrying me and they said that they knew i would find it not the easiest thing cos im self-contained and shy with strangers but they are gonna help so that is slightly less stressful and a sort of turning point bc i dont talk to people about that kind of thing usually just keep it all to myself.
    Hope everyone is well
    Also if Deyesy is about could i talk to you sometime for some advice on something?

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    Yay! I got a phone call appointment from my gp today and he listened so well and was really helpful. He gave me some diazepam and has encouraged me to ring my duty worker tomorrow. Some things take time.


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    Beggining to feel low again, possibly not helped by my step dad whos been at home 4 days now, and we only get on in small doses.

    Hoping my trip to whitby next week helps as after that starting my new job. Going from doing nothing to 22 hours a week peopleing is gonna be horrible.
    Also cant wait to get my own places as peopleing is getting hard and thats just my mum and step dad. If im working i need my own place so i can hibernate lots!

    Got a hen do on saturday night and dreading it, eating food, peopleing and drinking, though i may say cos of meds i cant drink cos i cba to drink and stop at my brothers, ill just want to come back to my matress, though the though of an actual real bed is tempting.
    Homeless life sucks.

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    Hello everyone

    I managed to get an appointment with a doctor and with the university counselling services about my mood (I am anon #20 if you want to go back and read how I've been feeling this past month). I am still struggling quite a bit but managed to get some laundry and washing up done. Now I don't have to feel disgusting and keep wearing the same dirty clothes.

    Still very very tired and still very very unable to sleep well. It's like my mind switches on and I start to feel restless and anxious when I should be sleeping. Trying my best to take it one day at a time.

    For anyone who is still awake, how are you doing?
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    Not took my Depakote for while, the mood swings are kind of exciting :-# But allow that weight gain.
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Not particularly a good week for me.

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    It has been a year since my hospital trip. I don't really know if things have gotten better for me. Ok, I have an absolutely wonderful boyfriend now, but my mental health is still in the gutter.
    Kind of makes me think (deludedly) that a gf would be the dealbreaker between happy and not for me but for many reasons I don't have one/couldn't maintain one.
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    (Original post by ScaryScience)
    moved into supported housing yesterday and ****ing hell it's a disaster. it's absolutely horrible. been crying for over a day

    in other more positive news,found out I got a 2:1 in in my degree on Friday. given just how horrific the last few years have been, and the fact I only scraped a 2:2 in the first two years, i'm really proud
    I hope you don't mind me asking but I'm moving into supported housing soon in a shared flat and I was just wondering if you could tell me why it was so bad?

    You've got me a bit worried about the whole thing now.

    Hope you are OK . That's a really good mark you got in your degree.
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    Have really sunk to the lowest I have probably ever been.

    Have been on a heap on my bedroom floor for the past two days literally sobbing. Have been trying to get out for a walk but everytime I try to get up I collapse in a heap again crying. I don't know what's going on. I haven't eaten, washed, had fresh air.

    Don't know what to do. At least this morning I've opened my laptop. I guess that's one step.

    I have uni tonight and I don't know how I am going to make it there.
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    (Original post by Danny the Geezer)
    Kind of makes me think (deludedly) that a gf would be the dealbreaker between happy and not for me but for many reasons I don't have one/couldn't maintain one.
    A relationship is a lot of work but it is so worth it if it's the right person. But I definitely wouldn't think it as a dealbreaker.
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    Ugh. Just had an exam. Never been as prepared for an exam in my life, and I needed a really high A to have any chance of getting an A in maths. Went to bed early last night but couldnt sleep, ended up getting like an hour. I was late for the exam, my shoelaces snapped and I had to scrape bus money together in 2ps and 5ps. Then I got into the exam and it was a million times harder than any past papers. I ****ed it up. Feel like crying, I never cry :rofl:

    The worst part is, I should have gotten extra time (should have been getting it for the last 3 years) but my school ****ed up and I never got the support I should be getting. Ive ran out of time in every exam this year, same last year.

    Im in year 14, this was my last ever chance not to **** up. Ive been having a bad year, and I thought I might have turned things around in the last few weeks but nope. The only thing I can do now is ring the uni on results day and beg them to let me in when I have like CCC and my offer is AAA



    I even did terrible in general studies :rofl:
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    (Original post by JordanL_)
    Ugh. Just had an exam. Never been as prepared for an exam in my life, and I needed a really high A to have any chance of getting an A in maths. Went to bed early last night but couldnt sleep, ended up getting like an hour. I was late for the exam, my shoelaces snapped and I had to scrape bus money together in 2ps and 5ps. Then I got into the exam and it was a million times harder than any past papers. I ****ed it up. Feel like crying, I never cry :rofl:

    The worst part is, I should have gotten extra time (should have been getting it for the last 3 years) but my school ****ed up and I never got the support I should be getting. Ive ran out of time in every exam this year, same last year.

    Im in year 14, this was my last ever chance not to **** up. Ive been having a bad year, and I thought I might have turned things around in the last few weeks but nope. The only thing I can do now is ring the uni on results day and beg them to let me in when I have like CCC and my offer is AAA



    I even did terrible in general studies :rofl:
    I know the exact feeling. I just had my AS Statistics exam and I was hoping for an A, but that's long gone now. Gonna have to make up with C3 and C4 now


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    Hi I've been meaning to make this post for a while but just kept on putting it off for some reason. Posting anonymously as I'm not sure if people I know may recognise me on here. I've recently been diagnosed with OCD, and feel a bit lost as a result of this. I've long suspected that I have the condition, and put off going to the doctors for a long time because I was scared and anxious, and still am! I'm due to start CBT this week, but I don't know what to expect at all, and I'm just wondered if anybody could give me a bit of an insight into their experience? Sorry for the long ramble, and thanks.
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    (Original post by OriginaSid)
    I know the exact feeling. I just had my AS Statistics exam and I was hoping for an A, but that's long gone now. Gonna have to make up with C3 and C4 now
    I haven't even learned most of C4 yet, I was hoping to make up for my inevitable failure with a decent grade in D1 today :rofl: :bawling: ughhh well, I had my S1 exam a few weeks ago and I did badly in that too, so you're not alone it's so annoying, seems every exam this year has been a million times harder than all the past ones.

    Keep your chin up though!! I know it's **** advice and I can't follow it myself, but try to be optimistic - it seems like everyone's been finding exams ridiculous this year, so maybe grade boundaries will be super low
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi I've been meaning to make this post for a while but just kept on putting it off for some reason. Posting anonymously as I'm not sure if people I know may recognise me on here. I've recently been diagnosed with OCD, and feel a bit lost as a result of this. I've long suspected that I have the condition, and put off going to the doctors for a long time because I was scared and anxious, and still am! I'm due to start CBT this week, but I don't know what to expect at all, and I'm just wondered if anybody could give me a bit of an insight into their experience? Sorry for the long ramble, and thanks.
    Hi, I've had CBT a few times! Although for depression and anxiety, not OCD.

    Since it's your first session your therapist will probably just talk to you about how you feel, what sort of problems you're having, to get an idea of how they can help. It's nothing really scary, try to relax - they're usually laid back and friendly. After that, CBT is about changing your thoughts and behaviours. Your therapist will work with you to try to identify all the thoughts you have that you might not even notice, and how those thoughts affect how you behave and feel, and how your behaviour affects your thoughts. Sounds complicated but it's not really. It's just about changing how you think, but your therapist will guide you through it.

    Although be warned, it takes a bit of effort. Your therapist might give you a little bit of stuff to read between sessions, or ask you to keep a log of your thoughts and behaviours through the day. It's not difficult or time consuming, but it's still work. I think that's why I don't like CBT

    Well done for getting help! It's a scary thing to do and I think really it's the hardest part, so just try to relax and things are gonna get better from now
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    (Original post by JordanL_)
    I haven't even learned most of C4 yet, I was hoping to make up for my inevitable failure with a decent grade in D1 today :rofl: :bawling: ughhh well, I had my S1 exam a few weeks ago and I did badly in that too, so you're not alone it's so annoying, seems every exam this year has been a million times harder than all the past ones.

    Keep your chin up though!! I know it's **** advice and I can't follow it myself, but try to be optimistic - it seems like everyone's been finding exams ridiculous this year, so maybe grade boundaries will be super low
    I haven't even touched C3 and C4 since like before half term XD
    Exams have screwed everyone over this year so fingers crossed for them low grade boundaries.
    And don't doubt yourself, you can do it too!!


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi I've been meaning to make this post for a while but just kept on putting it off for some reason. Posting anonymously as I'm not sure if people I know may recognise me on here. I've recently been diagnosed with OCD, and feel a bit lost as a result of this. I've long suspected that I have the condition, and put off going to the doctors for a long time because I was scared and anxious, and still am! I'm due to start CBT this week, but I don't know what to expect at all, and I'm just wondered if anybody could give me a bit of an insight into their experience? Sorry for the long ramble, and thanks.
    Sorry to hear about your diagnosis :hugs: I was diagnosed with OCD as a child and its been a daily struggle ever since. I recently started CBT but it wasn't too effective for me, mainly due to the therapist herself and not the actual teaching and methods of CBT. For OCD, you will most likely get a type of CBT called ERP (Exposure Response Prevention Therapy) which has very high success rates for OCD, especially for contamination based OCD.

    The first few sessions will be assessing you. They will ask you about your past to see if something has maybe triggered this condition, ask for a family history on mental health if any, ask about how the condition affects you on a day to day basis and things like that. You might get given tasks to do straight away but your therapist might wait until you are more settled and know more about how OCD personally affects you before they give you tasks.

    Best of luck with your therapy and I hope you don't have the bad experience I did with my therapist. She was a nightmare and you can read about what she was like on here or on my blog but don't fear, most therapists are nothing like her. I was just unlucky. I really hope therapy helps you, its a long road but worth it and well done on taking the first step - its harder than many people realise. My inbox is always open if you ever need to chat :hugs:
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    Heart is really hurting and tight with stress, cant inhale properly with this tightness :/
    going to sleep
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    Family, eh? Really upset and angry at what my gran said today. I'll add a spoiler due to some of the remarks being about weight and such. Warning, might be a bit of a long read too. Feeling ranty
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    Can't remember if I told you guys or not but its my gran's birthday in a fortnight and as a family, we booked her a pink limo ride for an hour and then we were all going for a meal at a local restaurant. From the start it was meant to be me, gran, my mum, stepdad, papa, Callan and gran's neighbour in the limo and then last week gran told me it was just going to be a girly night since my papa and stepdad didn't want to go in the limo but would meet us at the restaurant but she said Callan could still come since his birthday is soon too and he wanted to go in the limo so that was fine and then today I got a call saying under no circumstances is Callan allowed at the limo or the meal and I asked why and she said it was just a girls night including the meal but my papa and stepdad were still invited to the meal and when I quizzed why Callan wasn't invited she tried to worm her way out of it and then admitted its because and I quote "he'll look a mess with his weight and out of place at the meal and he'll eat too much and be an embarrassment."

    I didn't know whether to laugh or cry when she said that. I told her I'm not going then if its really for that reason. That is my gran all over though - she only cares about how she is perceived and doesn't want to be seen with people who look a mess or are fat. She often tells me I need to lose weight and criticizes my looks all the time and then tells me she doesn't realise she is being hurtful. She can go from being the nicest person ever to the most heartless in a split second. Can't remember if I posted this when it happened a month ago but remember my papa didn't get his transplant? She asked me what I would do if she was on a life support machine and there was no chance of her recovering and I said I would turn it off and that I would have lost her the minute she got into that state, not when I switched the machine off and that is exactly what my mum, papa, stepdad and Callan all agree with and she looked me right in the eye and called me evil for that and said she was disappointed in me and thought better of me.

    I'm just extremely hurt and pissed off at her. She's also said things about my OCD, panics and all that jazz and forever tells me that she expected more from me in life and doesn't even comprehend my illnesses.
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    Family, eh? Really upset and angry at what my gran said today. I'll add a spoiler due to some of the remarks being about weight and such. Warning, might be a bit of a long read too. Feeling ranty
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    Can't remember if I told you guys or not but its my gran's birthday in a fortnight and as a family, we booked her a pink limo ride for an hour and then we were all going for a meal at a local restaurant. From the start it was meant to be me, gran, my mum, stepdad, papa, Callan and gran's neighbour in the limo and then last week gran told me it was just going to be a girly night since my papa and stepdad didn't want to go in the limo but would meet us at the restaurant but she said Callan could still come since his birthday is soon too and he wanted to go in the limo so that was fine and then today I got a call saying under no circumstances is Callan allowed at the limo or the meal and I asked why and she said it was just a girls night including the meal but my papa and stepdad were still invited to the meal and when I quizzed why Callan wasn't invited she tried to worm her way out of it and then admitted its because and I quote "he'll look a mess with his weight and out of place at the meal and he'll eat too much and be an embarrassment."

    I didn't know whether to laugh or cry when she said that. I told her I'm not going then if its really for that reason. That is my gran all over though - she only cares about how she is perceived and doesn't want to be seen with people who look a mess or are fat. She often tells me I need to lose weight and criticizes my looks all the time and then tells me she doesn't realise she is being hurtful. She can go from being the nicest person ever to the most heartless in a split second. Can't remember if I posted this when it happened a month ago but remember my papa didn't get his transplant? She asked me what I would do if she was on a life support machine and there was no chance of her recovering and I said I would turn it off and that I would have lost her the minute she got into that state, not when I switched the machine off and that is exactly what my mum, papa, stepdad and Callan all agree with and she looked me right in the eye and called me evil for that and said she was disappointed in me and thought better of me.

    I'm just extremely hurt and pissed off at her. She's also said things about my OCD, panics and all that jazz and forever tells me that she expected more from me in life and doesn't even comprehend my illnesses.
    :hugs: That is so mean of your gran, honestly! I agree with you, stick to your guns and don't go, because it is not right or fair of her to treat you or your boyfriend like.
 
 
 
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