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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why would I make such an un-funny troll? Also, it's masochists that enjoy pain; sadists enjoy causing it (and no, I'm not a sadist.)

    Anyway, I've spoken to her - see the post above your own.
    Oh machisists well it's two am and I've got prelims tomorrow so bear with me
    I'm glad you've spoken to her r u cool again?.If you are that's the most important thing here.

    Glad to be of not much use lol
    to little
    to late

    Regards Tom
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    (Original post by AwsomePossum)
    Oh machisists well it's two am and I've got prelims tomorrow so bear with me
    I'm glad you've spoken to her r u cool again?.If you are that's the most important thing here.

    Glad to be of not much use lol
    to little
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    Regards Tom
    We appear to be cool again. :p: Good - I really do love her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok, before everyone starts shouting abuse and how I should turn myself into the police, you need to know the whole context, and understand that it was entirely an accident.

    You may or may not have read the thread, but I'm the person who hates having their neck touched ... and my girlfriend likes to touch and kiss my neck. So, in order to get over this, we were trying something where I would be totally relaxed and trusting of her, and then she would slowly touch my neck to see how I'd respond.

    So, I was trusting and relaxed. I was so very relaxed, I was in a completely different headspace and, to be honest here, I forgot she was there with me. I even forgot I was there. Then she touched my neck, and brought me out of it very suddenly...

    I really did just act on instinct and, in an attempt to get the 'attacker' away from me, I hit out ... and caught her. It was only after that that I even remembered it would be my girlfriend, and as soon as I realised I was stroking and kissing where I'd hit her, getting the ice, cuddling her and apologising.

    She said she was all right with it and she understood I hadn't meant to violently attack her, even that she should have gone slower and not taken me by surprise.

    However, since then, she hasn't responded to my texts or be as active in conversations, she seems jumpy around me, she was hesistant to get in a car with, she doesn't sleep half laying on me anymore...

    I don't know what to do - I really didn't mean to hit her, and I love her so much ... but I think I've scared her, and I'm probably one of the most non-violent people you could meet. Is there anything I can do to make it up to her?

    TL;DR version: Accidentally hit my girlfriend in circumstances that are IMO completely understandable. Not a violent person, but now she seems scared of me - anything I can do about it?
    You're a ****ing weirdo - touch your neck? Someone should take a tire iron to it and clean up the gene pool .
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    You're a ****ing weirdo - touch your neck? Someone should take a tire iron to it and clean up the gene pool .
    My friend tried to strangle me a few years ago, it doesn't come from nowhere.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't go to parties, and she'd find it hard to believe even I wouldn't report a random mugger. She won't be wondering which family member, because I don't speak to half of my family (so she'll just assume it's there and that she'll never meet him) and she understands I don't want to dwell on it.

    Like I say, she would have reported him to the police if she'd even thought it was him (not usually a good liar, kind of surprised myself tonight) and, to be honest, I didn't think the root of it had anything to do with her.



    What about it specifically would scare you? Imagine this is someone you've spent nearly three years of your life with, who has never shouted, never thrown his arms around in anger, always tried to make your life easier and help your pain. In fact, the only time you've seen him angry is when he tackled the mugger that stole your bag. You already know he has a problem with this one part of his body.

    Why would an out-of-character one-off reaction to that part being touched scare you?
    Because i'd think if he hit me over something like that, the I can expect a lot more. 3 years is long but sometimes even a life time isn' enough to get to know someone. But other than that, maybe she might just need a few days alone and she'll be back to normal. U said she understand anyway
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    (Original post by oh-sugarrr)
    Because i'd think if he hit me over something like that, the I can expect a lot more. 3 years is long but sometimes even a life time isn' enough to get to know someone. But other than that, maybe she might just need a few days alone and she'll be back to normal. U said she understand anyway
    3 years is more than enough to get to know someone. If you spend 3 days with someone you'll know them well enough to have an opinion on their character.
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    OMG HOW THE HELL COULD YOU DO SUCH A THING?!

    Seriously though? I do the same thing if someone touches my feet. I hate feet. I hate people touching my feet. I hate seeing feet. FEET CREEP ME OUT! People learn very quickly not to touch my feet unless they want a boot in the face! (It's honestly better being a girl, ever considered a sex change)

    You could try by taking your girl out or cooking a meal (please don't think a chinese is 'cooking' a meal :P) or by buying her something she really loves or by telling her a hundred times how much you love her and how much you didn't mean it! Honestly... It's not that difficult of a situation!
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    (Original post by converselove)
    OMG HOW THE HELL COULD YOU DO SUCH A THING?!

    Seriously though? I do the same thing if someone touches my feet. I hate feet. I hate people touching my feet. I hate seeing feet. FEET CREEP ME OUT! People learn very quickly not to touch my feet unless they want a boot in the face! (It's honestly better being a girl, ever considered a sex change)

    You could try by taking your girl out or cooking a meal (please don't think a chinese is 'cooking' a meal :P) or by buying her something she really loves or by telling her a hundred times how much you love her and how much you didn't mean it! Honestly... It's not that difficult of a situation!
    I've talked with her. We're fine now, although no more necks thank goodness.
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    I was expecting Falcon Punch.

    There is no Falcon Punch.

    Shame on you.
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    (Original post by Law123mus)
    3 years is more than enough to get to know someone. If you spend 3 days with someone you'll know them well enough to have an opinion on their character.
    Yeah but sometimes people do unexpected things, (not like this one) and you just think :|. But yeah I get what u mean anyway just sometimes these things happen
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    My friend tried to strangle me a few years ago, it doesn't come from nowhere.
    And he clearly didn't succeed...
    Get over your issues you imbecile - you're alive, the past is the past, move the **** on or at this rate it's going to keep ****ing up the present & your future.
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    Oh dear. I'm not surprised she is a bit jumpy.

    I fear you have scared her rigid.

    It is a little worrying that you have a psychological problem with anyone touching your neck. Rather than trying to find a solution to this yourself by using your girlfriend maybe you should seek professional counselling.

    Reacting like this is not normal behaviour.

    If you truly love your girlfriend then tell her you are getting professional help and do it. They will know and understand why you reacted the way you did and perhaps you could take your girlfriend along to one of the sessions and together you will work through this bad experience. It is as important to her as it is to you .She will be having doubts I'm sure about your relationship (any girl would after that) and you may well lose her.
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    And he clearly didn't succeed...
    Get over your issues you imbecile - you're alive, the past is the past, move the **** on or at this rate it's going to keep ****ing up the present & your future.
    Wtf is ****in wrong with you man, leave the guy alone u cold hearted little migit! NO one need your nasty ****ed up coments!
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    (Original post by lingamsusan)
    Oh dear. I'm not surprised she is a bit jumpy.

    I fear you have scared her rigid.

    It is a little worrying that you have a psychological problem with anyone touching your neck. Rather than trying to find a solution to this yourself by using your girlfriend maybe you should seek professional counselling.

    Reacting like this is not normal behaviour.

    If you truly love your girlfriend then tell her you are getting professional help and do it. They will know and understand why you reacted the way you did and perhaps you could take your girlfriend along to one of the sessions and together you will work through this bad experience. It is as important to her as it is to you .She will be having doubts I'm sure about your relationship (any girl would after that) and you may well lose her.
    I know why - my friend tried to strangle me a few years ago, anyone touching my neck now is horrible.

    Anyway, we've talked, got it all out in the open and are fine now.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've talked with her. We're fine now, although no more necks thank goodness.
    well that's good, just remind her not to touch your neck and all will be good
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    (Original post by *Lollo*)
    This. You sound like a violent bull. Of course you didn't mean to hurt her - but you still did. What's going to happen if your boss gives you a pat on the shoulder one day and randomly touches your neck? Will he end up in the hospital? Get yourself sorted out.
    ROLF!
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    (Original post by oh-sugarrr)
    Wtf is ****in wrong with you man, leave the guy alone u cold hearted little migit! NO one need your nasty ****ed up coments!
    What's wrong with me? I'm not the one who smacks women because I can't deal with the past....:rolleyes: Of course, go support the idiot who is pussying out of dealing with his issues instead of telling him to man the **** up. Cold hearted? Cold hearted because I don't feel sorry for a guy who hit his girl? You're one ****ed up person.
    My comments are 100% true & you know it, so either grow up or shut up because no one is gonna benefit from the level of ignorance you are showing
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    (Original post by Mazty)
    What's wrong with me? I'm not the one who smacks women because I can't deal with the past....:rolleyes: Of course, go support the idiot who is pussying out of dealing with his issues instead of telling him to man the **** up. Cold hearted? Cold hearted because I don't feel sorry for a guy who hit his girl? You're one ****ed up person.
    My comments are 100% true & you know it, so either grow up or shut up because no one is gonna benefit from the level of ignorance you are showing
    It's not like I meant to... And I don't 'smack women', I had one instinctive reaction to one act and deeply regret it.

    Anyway, I talked with her and we sorted everything out.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's not like I meant to... And I don't 'smack women', I had one instinctive reaction to one act and deeply regret it.

    Anyway, I talked with her and we sorted everything out.
    Instinctive reaction? No, you are one insecure ****-o who is too pathetic to deal with a past issue. She'll dump you, or she's afraid of you. Either way you should be in a padded cell until you can join society without violently lashing out at people. What makes it worse is you come onto the forum seeking sympathy for a out-right cruel attack on your girlfriend. You are one sick *******.
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    You DON'T hit woman.
    Accident or not, if you can't control yourself then leave her alone.
    I don't care if you meant to or not, let her find a guy she can kiss without a broken nose!
 
 
 
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